My name is Joy. People often say things like "Happy happy joy joy" and "joy to the world" and "joyous Joy" to me. I find this practice insanely irritating (I know, I know, very first world problem). It's not just colleagues who do this, it's receptionists and delivery people, radiologists, baristas, people I meet in a social setting. It's like an automatic response when someone sees this particular name. Give me something to say that isn't serious or rude but may discourage them. [more inside]
I have recently realized that I engage in pain-numbing activities instead of joy-bringing activities in my spare time. I feel like I've totally lost my childlike ability to play--to do something simply because it brings me joy. I have no hobbies and no real non-work-related interests. I'd really like to discover what brings me joy, but I have no idea where to start. How did you discover what form of play is best for you? [more inside]
How can I snap myself out of negativity and turn back the clock to when I was a bit less weighed down by emotional baggage? [more inside]
I noticed a few days ago that when I started reading before bed the nightmares I've been having for the past few months became less exhausting. Now I've run out of reading material and would love recommendations for some quick reads/videos/etc that I could indulge in before bed and when I wake up in the morning so my mind stops fixating on bad stuff. Share with me your happy thoughts, please! [more inside]
I want to send a dear friend on the other side of the country [U.S.] something for his birthday (t-shirt, fridge magnet, something of that ilk) that says something along the lines of "I'm not gay but I'm fabulous." (Both of which are true.) Difficulty level: for delivery tomorrow. [more inside]
I'm looking for more songs similar to M. Ward's "One Hundred Million Years" for a 20-minute baby photo/video compilation. I have found plenty of kids' songs and songs written about having children. I'm looking for more indie songs that echo the sentiment, "And this love, this love between you and I, Is older than that burning ball of fire up in the sky." Songs by indie singers about endless love, happiness, joy, the beauty of life, etc. would fit the bill. [more inside]
There has been a deficit of both for a long time and I know this needs to change, but am stuck on the 'how'. I am embarrassed to admit I have actually googled 'how to have more fun'. Granted, I'm sure more embarrassing searches happen but this feels a weirdly clinical thing to try. Wall of text inside.. [more inside]
What are some everyday ways to inhabit my body more positively? For a lot of my life, I have felt disconnected from it or have had negative feelings towards it. [more inside]
I have been experiencing a really limited ability to feel actual emotion, even though I'm not having a depressive episode, and I am having a lot of trouble finding a way out. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Self defeating thoughts make it hard to get things done. I want to be able to enjoy my time at school, but my low self confidence causes a lot of anxiety. Is there a way I can shift my perspective? [more inside]
I am faced with a hugely exciting, complex, challenging project of my own devising. It's a chance for me to build my dream and ... I'm sitting here crying instead of working. [more inside]
I'm looking for resources to help better understand the different types of activities that bring people joy and meaning. [more inside]
I saw the coolest little foursquare toy, kind of a portable mini-court, yesterday at the park. I wish I'd stopped and talked to the guys playing with it, but I thought I could find it pretty easily... but not so. So there's a little trampoline, I guess that's about two feet square, with a circular wall around it divided into four sections. They had a ball smaller than a kickball but bigger than a tennis ball, and if they hit it on the trampoline and it went between one person's section of the bordering wall, then it was like it had hit their square. Does anybody know what this? I must have one. Immediately.
Hit me with some joyful, hopey songs that are less "everything is going to be all right" than "the bad shit is over -- everything is all right!" [more inside]
What songs sound like joy to you? [more inside]
Secular songs of communal joy? [more inside]
Help me take life less seriously. What are some things I can do to practice loosening up? [more inside]
Is there any way to make the first few months after our baby is born special and meaningful and not just ruled by exhaustion? Any newborn baby hacks you can share? Bonus points for happy newborn stories. [more inside]
What songs make your heart feel like it's about to burst with life? [more inside]
Help me make my boyfriend's birthday awesome with fiendishly delightful present wrapping and delivery!
It's my boyfriend's birthday soon, and I want to make the present giving AWESOME! Have already purchased presents and booked flights to be with him. Am organising special birthday meals for him, and a couple of activities too, so most of the day is pretty much sorted. But I really really want the present giving/opening experience in particular to be super fun for him. I'm thinking along the lines of a treasure hunt with clues so he has to hunt for the presents... Or wrapping the presents in a giant box and painting it like a cake with sparklers on top! Or multiple layers of wrapping disguising the present...Or, um, something else. But I don't know what exactly. I just want to make it a completely excellent fun surprise for him. [more inside]
I want to spend a month in the summer either horseback riding or hiking/camping with a pack mule somewhere in Europe. How do I go about this? [more inside]
Someone took my keys at party, crashed my car, and abandoned it. I found out who did it. Now what? [more inside]
Can I meet Bill Joy? [more inside]
I'm trying to cultivate a certain kind of beauty in life - something exemplified by the likes of Dumbo feather, pass it on and Keri Smith's blog. Where else can I find such beauty? [more inside]
What's a good source of GABA tablet supplements? [more inside]
What are your secrets for preserving joy in your life? [more inside]
In 2000, Bill Joy wrote "Why the future doesn't need us" and Jaron Lanier wrote "One half of a manifesto". How did people react to what they said? What do Joy and Lanier do today?
Years ago, I was sent two MP3s with songs by Jump and Joy. The titles are "Vamos Everybody" and "Lets Roll". Where can I get the CD by this group? I live in the USA and LOVE their music. Thanks for the help.