I seem to have a near-total lack of romantic jealousy. It's not that I've never experienced jealousy or can't relate to it, just that my dial seems to be turned down unusually low. This can be disruptive to dating and relationships, and I need some advice on how to deal with it.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 17, 2013 -
27 answers
My partner and I are currently at rather different points in our careers. I have struggled for years to make a living out of freelancing in one area. I'm told I'm good at it but have never made it into a company that can offer me long term work, career development or support. My partner has a stable job in a multinational company and has just been offered and started training in my area, with a probable supported move into my area in the next couple of years. I am not dealing with this very well. Have you dealt with something similar, can you offer advice?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 12, 2013 -
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Am I a terrible person? My partner and I have been dating for 3.5 years, living together for one. In that time, he's cut off contact with two of his friends who were also significant exes.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2013 -
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I am jealous of the fact that my good friend is hardly around because she's got a new boyfriend. Very happy for her, but am very uncomfortable with my jealousy. Need some perspective and help dealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 15, 2013 -
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"Emotional affairs" and being a good partner to someone with severe depression: I need a friend, but this new friendship is moving fast and I'm about 99% sure that my partner will be massively upset if she finds out. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2012 -
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I need some intelligent perspectives on why I am so sensitive to my husband looking at women on facebook, and whether this is an issue that can't be solved.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 3, 2012 -
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We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2012 -
39 answers
I can't trust my girlfriend. I haven't been able to trust past girlfriends. Help? (snowflake details ahead)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2012 -
27 answers
I want to have more sex, but I don't want to get hung up about it. How do I stop obsessing about (not) getting any?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2012 -
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Lately, my wife only seems to be emotionally and sexually open with me if she senses there are other women (potentially) interested in me. I don't want to make her jealous...
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2011 -
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When you're in a long term relationship or marriage, how do you deal with feelings of jealousy of other couples seemingly endless "honeymoon phase"?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 14, 2011 -
38 answers
Had a hunch about my SO's texting, followed it up and found I was right. Tried to make it right but I'm not sure if I have succeeded. Feeling like I might be crazy, insecure, a door mat, or all three. I know I'm not alone out there with this type of situation, wondering how others have handled things and what the outcomes were. Thanks in advance for taking a minute to read/answer (okay a of couple minutes, it's on the long side!)
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 27, 2011 -
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How do I deal with sexual jealousy that stems from a history of lousy experiences (possibly with therapy)?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2011 -
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I think it's time to get rid of my best friend for the past 15 years. I don't want to, nor do I know how to, but I think I have to. Messy details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2011 -
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I dated someone I work with. Now she's dating my boss. I would love some tips on how to get over this without quitting.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2011 -
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I'm not normally jealous, but one of my bf's female friends is making me feel a twinge of jealousy and I don't know if I should say something to him or not.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2011 -
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Dramadramadramadingdong. If your friend is pretty much over you, or just doesn’t have bandwidth in her life for you, what do you say when she finally calls?
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2011 -
40 answers
How can I let go of jealousy and anger over getting dumped by someone I didn't like that much anyway?
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2011 -
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A (once?) good friend has been flipping out after I started dating someone. How do I go about talking to her without feeling like I'm talking to a wall?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
35 answers
Practical advice for dealing with jealousy towards one particular person? Or, how does one move from love to friendship? Sorry, whole plate-o-beans inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2011 -
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About a month ago a non immediate family member shared that she is sometimes envious/jealous of me, the more I think of it the more it drives me mad.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 15, 2010 -
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I just ended a 2+ year relationship. I don't know how to bounce back. (anonymous because he lurks)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2010 -
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I'm a grown adult who seems to have blundered into a situation straight out of the 6th grade - a casual friend met through another friend seems to rapidly working her way through several people's social networks. When is it "the more the merrier" and when is it compulsive friend poaching?
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2010 -
20 answers
My long-time single friend finally has a boyfriend. I'm jealous. How should I deal with that?
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2010 -
24 answers
RelationshipFilter: A girl I've never met is spending a few days at my boyfriend's house. Am I overreacting, given the circumstances? (long-ish)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2010 -
51 answers
Before my now-boyfriend and I decided to go exclusive, we had a long uncommitted period where we were just besties who had great sex. At the time, his other flings and involvements didn't bother me. Now that we're actually together, I am retrospectively jealous. Very jealous. How do I overcome my jealousy and lack of trust?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 25, 2010 -
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I am jealous of my boyfriend's past interest in other women. Please give me new perspective.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2009 -
46 answers
I am a straight 29-year old male who has never been in a relationship or had any sexual experience. When I find out that other people I know are entering into relationships or getting frisky, I get slammed by a whole cluster of negative emotions, and I need help coping.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2009 -
40 answers
(RelationshipFilter) My now boyfriend used to sleep with a good friend of his, while he was dating me. How do I deal with my feelings about him hanging out with her?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 28, 2009 -
49 answers
Your tips on figuring out my feelings as I enter into casual play relationships? (risque elaboration within)
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2009 -
10 answers
I am jealous of my boyfriend's adult daughter. We would like to get married, but I feel I need to find a way to cope with this feeling before the relationship gets any deeper.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 30, 2009 -
23 answers
