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How to get over the petty stuff to maintain a healthy relationship

The relationship is great and we both see a future together, but at times I tend to focus on insignificant things or feel insecure for no rational reason. I want to prevent unnecessary conflicts arising from these feelings. [more inside]
posted by monologish on Apr 24, 2014 - 21 answers

How many fond fools serve mad jealousy? At least one that I know of...

My amazing man-friend is doing nothing wrong...so why am I so damned insecure? Help me slay my terrible and persistent case of green-eyed monsteritis! [more inside]
posted by Dorinda on Nov 4, 2013 - 22 answers

What is this I feel?

Please describe to me what jealousy is. What is the difference between the feeling of jealousy and the feeling of injustice. I am accused of being jealous, I am not sure that is what I am, If I am indeed jealous, I want to correct it. Help. Oh, I'm in my mid-40s, not a kid so I need a more clinical description.
posted by Yellow on Oct 9, 2013 - 37 answers

Did I fuck up? How shall I do it differently next time?

I'm in the post break-up re-evaluation phase ('bargaining' phase in the grieving process?). I veer between feeling I tried my best while also holding onto ways I could have done things differently while dealing with our core problem to feeling that I fucked up majorly and just lost a potentially fantastic life-partner. While par for course this state of affairs is I believe, this is really eating me and I would be grateful for some perspective. [more inside]
posted by drummergirl80 on Aug 12, 2013 - 17 answers

NOT the Maid of Honor disappointment--swallow or confess

This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible. [more inside]
posted by lovingkindness on May 13, 2013 - 54 answers

Writers, how do you cope with being jealous of other writers?

Folks I know get published! Yay them! Go them! But shamefully, it.. the ...the flames, flames...on the side of my face...breathing...heaving breaths. How do I tame my inner envy monster? [more inside]
posted by angrycat on May 2, 2013 - 24 answers

Am I wrong for getting a bad feeling about my boyfriend's dating coach?

Started dating a great guy, he became my boyfriend probably a month and a half ago. A few weeks into the relationship we were talking and it turns out that he has a "dating coach" and he still meets with her in weekly phone calls because he enjoys her advice. This rubbed the wrong way and googling her, I found she's also totally hot. It just creeps me out that this totally hot woman has so much impact on my boyfriend's life. [more inside]
posted by ponytime on Feb 2, 2013 - 51 answers

Friends, money and jealousy.

I have a few new couple acquaintances that are on their way to becoming friends. Here's the trouble. As I get to know them more, i realize that there is a common thread about most of them. They are all quite pre-occupied with "how do i make more money" in life. [more inside]
posted by gadget_gal on Jan 27, 2013 - 11 answers

Three cats, two sisters and one stray, one new home: questions about best practice

Mr Mutant & I are moving home soon, decamping to a larger home in the suburbs. We have what appears to us to be a complicated cat family strategy and need advice as follows. [more inside]
posted by Mrs Mutant on Dec 8, 2012 - 12 answers

Do I let my wife's baseless jealousy interfere with my career?

Setting: My wife is (IMO irrationally) jealous, and thinks that a co-worker of mine likes me. There is nothing there, and I have told her she is worrying needlessly, but she is still suspicious. Complication: A position recently came up at work, in an area I prefer over my current job and with better job security. BUT, this co-worker is on the team. Resolution: ??? [more inside]
posted by Arandia on Jun 14, 2012 - 67 answers

Will my fear of vulnerability doom me to aloneness?

Help me figure things out! I just ended a casual relationship and I'm worried that I will only continue to stop connecting to people due to my deep fear of rejection. The extended explanation is quite long, but I've been needing to vent to a group of strangers for a while so bear with me while I rant my cerebral crazy. [more inside]
posted by bengalibelle on Mar 26, 2012 - 18 answers

Do you think James Bond has any real friends?

Do you have a friend who seems to have it all -- financial stability, always the center of attention, people jumping into bed with them at the drop of a hat, to the point that it seems just plain unfair? Do you get jealous? If so, how do you maintain the friendship? If not, why do you think you don't feel any jealousy? (Particularly interested in answers from the early-twenties age range.) [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath on Mar 13, 2012 - 24 answers

How do I pretend to be excited about an engagement I'm not excited about?

Sister in law just got engaged. I'm not super excited. How do I fake it 'till I make it? [more inside]
posted by kat518 on Feb 18, 2012 - 43 answers

Should I let my boyfriend sleep with other women?

Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita on Jan 22, 2012 - 107 answers

Should I date my baby daddy?

Should I date my son's father, when we never really did way back when we were busy procreatin'? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame on Dec 28, 2011 - 21 answers

How can I stop being jealous of my sick friend?

My friend is sick. Really, truly ill. How can I support her while constantly dealing with my broken-brained issues regarding body image? [more inside]
posted by kataclysm on Aug 23, 2011 - 21 answers

Love, thou know'st, is full of jealousy

How do I deal with these feelings of jealousy towards my boyfriend's female friend? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on Aug 11, 2011 - 29 answers

i am having jealousy problems

am i being a crazy shrew? am i asking for too much? what is reasonable because i just don't know anymore. [more inside]
posted by memi on Jun 12, 2011 - 49 answers

My Friend's Lost Story

Please help me help my friend find the source of a story she remembers. I don't know why, but she really, really wants to find it, so I'm hoping the hive mind can help. (story after the jump) [more inside]
posted by kestralwing on Jan 11, 2011 - 6 answers

How to help a person to see the better side(s) of life?

I have been with my girlfriend for what will be 4 months total as of October 4th. Still feels like the “honeymoon” period. Though, neither of us have had the best lives, so meeting each other was a blessing to say the least. Life changing in a lot of ways. The only issue that seems to ever come up doesn't even directly relate to us or our relationship. It's her one friend of 3 years. [more inside]
posted by jolynntech on Sep 24, 2010 - 21 answers

My boyfriend may have fathered a child...

Just found out the boyfriend probably has an 8 year old son. Why am I so jealous? How do I let it go instead of ruminating on it? [more inside]
posted by thebeagle on Aug 11, 2010 - 38 answers

Help me not be jealous of my wife's male friend.

Help me not be jealous of my wife's male friend. [more inside]
posted by elder18 on Jan 14, 2010 - 128 answers

Lesbians and their Ex-Girlfriends/Friends! Ugh?!

My new girlfriend is still friends with her old girlfriend... how do I not let my jealousy eat me alive?! [more inside]
posted by DorothySmith on Nov 26, 2009 - 13 answers

How to handle Christmas stay envy?

What's the best way to stand up to my mother about Christmas and to handle her jealousy about our better relationship with my partner's parents? She's determined to make the holiday season into a zero sum game with my partner's mother [more inside]
posted by Flitcraft on Nov 22, 2009 - 42 answers

Is my son jealous? Or struggling to cope with change?

Why is my 7 year old acting like this, when he seems to like my new boyfriend? And what do I do about it? [more inside]
posted by malibustacey9999 on Jan 31, 2009 - 43 answers

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