Need to update an out of the loop narcissistic sibling about our Mother's declining health. Wish do do this without fueling her issues and having it turn into a blame game. Snow storm details ahead!
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posted by cat_link
on May 17, 2013 -
25 answers
Either one of two things has happened. (1) I've met someone I'm very compatible with who has "matching baggage" and with some patience it will work out to be a happy, healthy, sustainable relationship. OR (2) I've met someone whose issues spell trouble for me, and I may need to cut my losses but I'm not sure where to start. I'm way too close to it, and on balance so far it's definitly something I want to keep working on because I care about him a lot and like how we fit together - but I need a reality check.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2013 -
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I recently broke up with my long-term girlfriend because of her refusal to seek treatment for alcohol abuse, and, in my opinion, the maladaptive behavior that causes it. She (now) says that she wants to work on these issues for herself and her future, but I have my reservations (read: she didn't work on any of these issues in our relationship, so I doubt she's going to work on them now). Is it appropriate to send her links that describe these disorders, symptoms and treatment options? I realize that this may result in resentment, utter hatred, and most likely her resorting to the same old tendencies (maybe even worse???), but I do still care for her and want her to be the best person she can be.
posted by mrrisotto
on Apr 1, 2013 -
22 answers
YANMV, however, I am waiting on a call back from my vet and as I am impatient and prone to obsessive behavior, I shall ask the same of the hive to see the consensus. Should I be feeding my 4 1/2 month old puppy large breed puppy food? Details inside.
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posted by Quincy
on Mar 25, 2013 -
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I want to shift my thinking style. I do therapy when I can afford it, which isn't a consistent option right now. I suspect there's a pea under the mattress at the core of several faulty thought patterns. I've shifted the pea in some contexts but not others. What are some concrete exercises and activities I can use - with minimal cost - that will help me unravel limiting beliefs, increase self-worth, highlight unproductive expectations so I can address them? Particular parameters inside.
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posted by hungry hippo
on Mar 3, 2013 -
5 answers
I use a mid-2009 Mac Pro for photo editing / cataloging in Lightroom. Performance has been increasingly unsatisfactory. Looking for your advice re: upgrades to the Mac Pro, or perhaps getting a new Macbook Pro. Specs inside.
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posted by Admiral Haddock
on Feb 20, 2013 -
12 answers
Have you ever had a relationship, that maybe not DTMFA worthy, started out pretty rocky but eventually turned in to something good and healthy? Details are appreciated.
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posted by mockpuppet
on Jan 29, 2013 -
18 answers
I need advice about the possibility living in Northern Alaska, Kotzebue/Nome/north of the 65th parallel. I have about a million logistical questions, a little disorganized, including questions about mental health problems, medications, getting specialist care. If you needed medical care on a regular basis several hundred miles away, how did you arrange that? Lots of other questions about living in the arctic! Help!
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posted by circle_b
on Jan 3, 2013 -
12 answers
Looking for recommendations of effective books/workbooks/web resources on emotional intelligence, abandonment issues, anger, fear, jealousy, trust issues and self-compassion. Bonus points for including all of the above and being available on Kindle.
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posted by f3l1x
on Dec 30, 2012 -
6 answers
How to deal with incompatible conflict styles? My boyfriend avoids and I try to confront/face things. He hates to talk about it. I hate to leave it unaddressed. It's straining the relationship.
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posted by hungry hippo
on Nov 19, 2012 -
44 answers
Can you really be addicted to a certain kind of sadness?
Ugh...I hate that song. My boyfriend has serious intimacy issues but is trying to work on them. I feel intermittently insecure/frustrated/sad/angry and I don't know how much longer I can take it...
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posted by entropy33
on Nov 4, 2012 -
14 answers
Help me find boundaries, again (sorry)--this time with updated boyfriend and cast of characters! The long and short of it is that my ex is coming back to stay with my family in a couple days after I kicked him out, and my aunt who I live with says this is okay, and my cousin lives in my room now, and I need to move out. And I'm broke.
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posted by athenadanae
on Sep 9, 2012 -
17 answers
Help me find the right things to say to/do for my parents and their slightly terrible relationship, especially now that my mother is housebound.
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posted by brisquette
on Sep 1, 2012 -
11 answers
What can I *add* to my life to help with my binge eating and/or desire to lose weight? Additionally, what texts or exercises helped you work past bingeing?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 15, 2012 -
26 answers
You live in NYC, and you want to have a party to celebrate your very simple City Hall marriage ceremony. But it's complicated. (money issues and feeling guilty inside!)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 9, 2012 -
17 answers
Just got back from a weekend at the cabin with my husband, daughter, son and son's fiancé. My son and his fiancé are very active and want to spend the entire weekend outside - golfing, swimming, seadooing, fishing, sunbathing, eating outside and sitting by a roaring bonfire until 2 am every evening. I do not. They do usually sleep in so that does give me some down time, but seriously, how do I get them to back off telling me that I "should" be outside, super active and do everything with them at their intensity level? I have tried compromising but honestly they are not happy unless you are doing exactly what they want all the time. And they just keep on nagging - it is driving me crazy. How much is expected to keep the family peace?
posted by Minos888
on Jul 2, 2012 -
40 answers
Conflict with friend's partner: do I pull out of this commitment, or am I overreacting? (petty and annoying) details inside.
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posted by jrochest
on Jun 13, 2012 -
42 answers
Is it legal for a company to withdraw online payments from my account without notifying me first?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2012 -
12 answers
How should I handle this tricky situation at work? My boss has taken me under her wing to guide me on the path of success. I feel she did this because I was open to her assistance. We have now developed a friendly "quid pro quo" type of agreement. She assists me by sharing her expertise on certain work-related items and vice-versa. I will in turn share with my colleagues when I feel capable of doing so. Some of my closest colleagues are feeling insecure about my friendly and close relationship with our boss. It seems like they feel threatened by it...like they think I am privy to all this "important information" that I won't share with them.
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Mar 19, 2012 -
15 answers
There is no way to ask this question that doesn't make the person whose behavior I'm trying to figure out sound like a horrifying human being, which is problematic because that's not really what I think. I'm going to try to keep this simple, but bear with me, because I bet it will get complicated really fast, mostly because I'm going to be compelled to use examples.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 27, 2012 -
22 answers
I have a rather...sticky situation happening in the bathroom regarding poop and my new toilet. Please help before I die of embarassment!
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2012 -
30 answers
I still have my eyesight (for now), but the diagnosis has triggered serious anger and midlife crisis issues.
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posted by bad grammar
on Feb 25, 2012 -
23 answers
I need advice on how to raise disciplined, well-behaved children.
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posted by zarq
on Nov 23, 2011 -
47 answers
Bad smells filter through the heating system in my building, meaning that my apartment - and by extension, me - smell like these bad smells (cigarette smoke + other). Help us both to smell like something more pleasant?
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posted by AthenaPolias
on Nov 6, 2011 -
12 answers
How to deal with a difficult person at work? Main question of the day: Do I cc this particular email to my higher boss?
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posted by moiraine
on Sep 22, 2011 -
21 answers
I am in Pittsburgh, PA. My roommate went crazy last night after drinking a lot of wine. I want her out stat. What are my options? Urgent, please.
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posted by amicamentis
on Sep 10, 2011 -
54 answers
I need advice on building a healthy relationship with my father despite his temper.
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posted by raintree
on Jul 25, 2011 -
21 answers
I have a weird brain that needs fixing. Any recommendations for NHS advice/private psychiatric recommendations in London?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 13, 2011 -
7 answers
I rent an apartment and park my car right next to the leasing office due to my car being vandalized several times. There's a camera right in front of the office, so if it happens again, I hope to be able to know who's doing it. Someone who works for the apartment complex told me not to park there anymore because, supposedly, they need the spots open for people who are looking into leasing.
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posted by amiableamy
on Jul 9, 2011 -
32 answers
I'm developing a series of specials based on big, dangerous, epic stunts all revolving around water to raise awareness about all the ways we're abusing and destroying this vital precious resource. would love some ideas along the lines of - kayak the Bering Strait, as it's about to be threatened because of climate change opening up the Northwest Passage. serious, significant risk is a must.
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posted by TMezz
on Jun 28, 2011 -
13 answers
Please help me salvage this situation, if possible. I accidentally said something racist to someone I want to be my friend.
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posted by ferngully
on Jun 25, 2011 -
56 answers
Is it normal to dislike your boyfriend at times? (Or girlfriend, or husband, any SO...)
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posted by anonymous
on May 13, 2011 -
40 answers
I'd like to find some reasonably current information on the technical and quality challenges in industrial applications of fibre and OPSL lasers.
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posted by Jakey
on May 4, 2011 -
2 answers
I've been having various on-and-off problems varying from madigestion to bloating, etc. I've been seeing a doctor. I'm interested in keeping a food diary for the purposes of figuring out which foods, if any, are causing my issues.
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posted by two lights above the sea
on Apr 7, 2011 -
4 answers
AskMe has finally convinced me to seek therapy. I'm scared, so I've typed up an outline. For the sake of not vastly exceeding my allotted time I can condense it to a short statement. Is it completely inappropriate to show up with three pages of numbered and bulleted woes?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2011 -
25 answers
How do I let people love me? Will I ever outgrow my fear of intimacy? I'm in my late 20s. I'm scared of intimacy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not scared of sex. Won't think twice about a threesome, but am startled by holding hands. If a guy wants to get to know me more, compliments me, or crosses the line from being sweet to me to being sweet on me, I get super flustered. I stutter or look at my feet. I run away.
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posted by jamaisvu
on Nov 6, 2010 -
15 answers
I don't know if I can manage this relationship anymore, but the problem is, I've got to. I will attempt to describe this adequately inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 20, 2010 -
13 answers
