Female introverts in popular culture? [more inside]
Help me understand financial partnership in marriage. Snow flurries within. [more inside]
Can an introvert be a journalist? If so... how? [more inside]
An introvert in an extrovert's world - Teach a perennial shy guy how to navigate dating and relationships [more inside]
I'm a female eighteen-year-old in the middle of my freshman year at college. I've been having trouble making friends and meeting new people. [more inside]
My partner is shy AND introverted. I'm suddenly finding myself terrified by thought of spending the rest of my life with the person I know and love because I'm tired of being the "entertainer." I'm exhausted. More inside. [more inside]
I’m half introvert (don’t need to socialize every day; do like to escape and regroup after socializing) and half extrovert. My extroverted half can be extremely social, and even, on occasion, meet people really easily—and get them to like me.
But if I feel I don’t relate to people around me, or that they won’t get me, or that they are poor listeners and I’ll either have to fight for their attention or fight against their judgmentalism (on whatever subject), I get hideously self-conscious and tongue-tied. How can I change that?
Introverted thinking moms, would you please share your tips and practical strategies for navigating the shoals of extroverted, feeling-driven motherhood norms? [more inside]
Logistics of a license-less carless introvert ending a 20 year marriage: I don't know where to start with my preparation. [more inside]
I want to get a job as a legal documentation specialist (word processor). I have no prior work experience in law firms. What's the work like, and how do I get hired? [more inside]
What are good places to meet women as an introvert? [more inside]
Good careers for a Myers Briggs INFJ? (Special snowflakes inside) [more inside]
I want to propose to my long-time partner, but an overblown wedding proposal sounds agonizing to me as an introvert. I am now thinking that I would like to aim my energy at finding the most creatively minimalist proposal
that I can. My partner is completely quirky, so the strangest ideas are totally welcomed. I'm overthinking this to the point of paralysis, and losing months of engaged bliss as a result! How the heck should I propose given all these elements? [more inside]
Help me understand why I would rather watch re-runs of The Cosby Show & Roseanne rather than hang out with anyone. [more inside]
Mr. DeludingMyself is turning 30 in September, and isn't entirely pleased with the idea. I know I can't stop him from being upset about the big 3-0, but I want to come up with something to make the day itself awesome. [more inside]
There's a girl I see often that I'd like to get to know better. Problem: I'm absolutely terrified on how to start. [more inside]
I’m a former academic who would like to focus on self-driven writing and creative projects, but I’m not ready for self-employment. I’d like to find a low-stress job that will leave time and energy for my creative work, but I have some health restrictions and complicating factors. What should I do? [more inside]
Are there any effective, well-respected alternatives to Alcoholics Anonymous that don't require group meetings? [more inside]
I'm being romanced by a wonderful man. Problem is, he's a super-social extrovert, and I am your classic introvert who needs lots of alone time. Communication is good about this, but I am worried that I am somehow "holding him back". [more inside]
Is she clingy, controlling and manipulative, or am I cold and withholding? [more inside]
I am an introvert. The situation/stimulation at work has escalated to a painful level. What is the best way to approach my boss to get an (available) office? [more inside]
How can I avoid my coworkers after work? [more inside]
I am a happy introvert between the horns of what must be a common dilemma, yet I have not seen a clear answer to it: What do I say when my SO or best friend or cousin invites me to do something and I would very clearly rather just stay home and read? [more inside]
Help find a coping mechanism for an introvert so he can better tolerate his chatty co-workers? [more inside]
Help me carry on conversations in groups with my *special snowflake* situation. [more inside]
Every night that he comes home and winds up browsing the internet for hours, I feel like I'm going to scream.
Am I a nagging worrywort, is my boyfriend mildly depressed, or both? And what's the best way to work on it? [more inside]
Introvert Filter: please help me revive a friendship! [more inside]
What is a good comeback for an introvert, attending a social occasion, who gets told, for the umpteenth time, "Hey you're really quiet aren't you?" [more inside]
One bachelorette party, ten miscellaneous female guests, one extremely introverted organizer (that's me!). Activities are set, but what little things can I do (or how should I behave) to keep things cohesive and lively, instead of awkward or lame? [more inside]
Calling all introverts: I need suggestions for places in or around Oak Park/Chicago where I can chill with a laptop or a book and not be bothered. [more inside]
How can an introvert survive and hopefully thrive while entertaining short to medium term house guests? (Long term being out of the freaking question!) [more inside]
How does an introvert socialize in a second language? [more inside]
Just started a new job. I want these people to like me. Other than working hard, what's the best way for an introverted person like me to make a good impression with my new co-workers? [more inside]
My friend is a sociophobe with an Arts degree. She wants to find a job with some
social interaction, but avoiding high pressure / extroverty jobs. [more inside]
Fellow introverts, and others who need lots of alone time: How did you deal with becoming a parent? [more inside]
Where do you go and where do you live?
I currently live in West Lakeview and after the daily hustle/bustle that is working in the Loop, I find myself needing to unwind.
I like the idea of book stores and coffee shops but the only ones I know around me are the standard Borders/B&N and Starbucks and those are usually busy.
I'm a male introvert with very, very few close friends. I can make casual friends no problem, but I'm rather particular about the type of people I'd want to be serious friends with. Difficulty: I'm an atheist liberal eco-friendly vegetarian tech nerd who doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs. [more inside]
I have no real friends, and yet I'm perfectly happy, am I weird?? [more inside]
After several miserable years in the ad industry, I'm quitting, because I was never cut out for this to begin with. Suggest some gigs more suited to a right-brained, literature-loving introvert who values kindness far more than the bottom line. [more inside]
What are some good (preferably experience-based) birthday gifts for a 21-year-old Australian programming geek who thinks he's Danish? [more inside]
Pretty soon I’ll be going out of town to visit a good friend, and said friend has just invited me to the Xmas party with the folks she works with since it’ll be held while I’m out there. Problem is, they’re very cool and I’m very NOT. We’ve met before and I’m pretty sure most of them think of me as my friend’s dweeby, awkward, strange pal. This only compounds my anxiety and will likely make me act even MORE dweeby, awkward, & strange this time around. Please help me with damage control! [more inside]
How do you include yourself in exclusionary conversations? [more inside]
Help me overcome and introverted nature. [more inside]
Please help me kill my introversion before it kills my relationships. [more inside]
How can I feel more gregarious? How to more deeply appreciate fellowship? [more inside]
Eye contact, smiling and how to be more approachable? [more inside]
I keep my friends "separate" from each other. [more inside]
What careers would suit an introverted but intelligent person?
I am working through several careers books but have difficulties settling on careers to research further. I have social anxiety as do most of my friends (met through self help sites) and we are mostly in the same boat. Everyone seems to be looking for extroverted types, where do we introverts succeed? [more inside]
How does an introverted step-parent deal with an extroverted child? [more inside]
First date: I'm going to call the nice young lady I met during jury duty and I have a couple dating questions. I like to think I'm nice but I'm not flirtatious or otherwise outgoing. I think I'll come across as uninterested on the date (and I'm afraid that I already have in our previous contact). [more inside]