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How can I learn to be interested in people?

I'm a strongly expressed introvert with hardly any natural interest in other people. But I have to live and work with others. Can I learn to be interested in other people? How? [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Oct 12, 2015 - 16 answers

Attending work conferences as an anxious introvert

Looking for psychological strategies to minimize the dread I feel [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Aug 17, 2015 - 8 answers

Want to be in more friend circles, but having trouble connecting...

Hi AskMe: I'm a 34-year-old single female, quite introverted, not really having a tight circle of friends until my breakup from my only relationship 2 years ago. I have one main circle of friends, many of whom I got to know from going to a board game meetup. While I enjoy socializing with the group over dining out and some board games, I sometimes feel uncomfortable with venting to people in my main circle as a sounding board because of some past internal group misunderstanding as well as drama involving the former "group leader" arising from a breakup he suffered (where the fact I asked said group leader out and got rejected did not help at all) and some new group members coming in whom I feel like I enjoy in limited doses only. So I feel like I need to find more circle of friends while keeping the existing circle--with some friends being more people whom I can confide to--except... [more inside]
posted by Tsukushi on Jun 28, 2015 - 7 answers

Making friends in Spain as a poor introvert

How do I make friends while living abroad in Spain as an introvert with very limited funds? [more inside]
posted by iamsuper on Jun 20, 2015 - 9 answers

Wanted: The Diogenes (Fitness) Club

Please help me select a new fitness activity that will push me to greatness without pushing me over the edge. Difficulty level: awkward solitude-loving INTJ. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew on May 26, 2015 - 19 answers

Recharging for introverts when "alone time" isn't an option

What are some ideas for recharging one's introverted batteries when being alone for any significant amount of time isn't an option? [more inside]
posted by pennypiper on Apr 13, 2015 - 19 answers

Lonely jobs

Do you spend at least 80 percent of your time working alone at your job? If so, what do you do? [more inside]
posted by silly me on Mar 10, 2015 - 39 answers

Help me plan an introvert's vacation.

The gap between President's Day and Memorial day is months long and, in the lack of state holidays, I tend not to take any time off during that stretch. It seems to me that a four day weekend in April would be a good idea. I live in central New Jersey, and a four hour drive could take me to most of Pennsylvania, most of Long Island, the southern extension of New York, and even parts of Connecticut, Maryland or Delaware. [more inside]
posted by Karmakaze on Mar 4, 2015 - 10 answers

Please help an ISTJ find the right job fast

My fears and indecision have blocked my 'career' progression for years. For a variety of personal reasons, I moved back home (at 44), and now I'm searching for a job. But I don't have much money left, so I need to find something soon, even if it's not perfect. I've boiled it down to three possibilities: copy editing, grant writing or library/information science. But I’m not sure any of them are right for me. I searched MeFi for answers, but they were either outdated (2011) or not geared towards my Myers-Briggs personality type. [more inside]
posted by DoOver on Feb 23, 2015 - 14 answers

What's an Extroverted Introvert to do?

Yes, I'm literally asking for basic social tips and tricks. [more inside]
posted by ourt on Jan 4, 2015 - 8 answers

Jobs For Introverted But Friendly One-On-One Types? Help!

I'm looking for a career change. I am a very focused, caring introvert, part creative and part analytical. But I'm really poor in an office environment. I hate meetings with more than 3-4 people and it's very stressful for me. I like people but I just feel that I thrive more in a one-on-one or small group setting. I work in online advertising for my company right now, and while I don't hate it and it sort of fits my personality type, the money isn't that great and I don't see myself as the "climb the corporate ladder" type. I am trying to find a career outside of the corporate office world where I may not sit at a desk all day and then have large meetings. I was looking into physical therapy assistant, massage therapist, maybe an allied health profession, or something else that is more one-on-one in nature. Any other suggestions? [more inside]
posted by selma52 on Nov 22, 2014 - 16 answers

How to talk to girls at parties

I have a party to go to. It will be all women, most of whom have children and are doing the suburban mum thing. Although I share the first qualification, I don't have kids. Degree of difficulty: I will have spent the whole day at work being "on" for the general public and I am an introvert. Plus I have to do the same tomorrow. How do I get through this party? [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel on Sep 26, 2014 - 32 answers

How to fit in with your classmates when you'd rather be independent

My program seems really social. I'm not really a bubbly social person, and I enjoy solitude. How can I still fit in with the group while preserving my precious, precious alone time? [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Sep 1, 2014 - 13 answers

Introverted three year old and family get togethers

My introverted three year old refuses to engage at family gatherings. But how do I teach her to be polite? And what exactly is going on in her head? [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom on Jul 6, 2014 - 40 answers

Sound of Silence

Can these conversational hiccups be saved? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on May 8, 2014 - 23 answers

IT positions that don't rely on working with people

I've been bombing in interviews for IT Help Desk, or Desktop Support positions, and whenever I've called back the interviewer, the most common answer they give is "poor communication skills". Is there any entry point into the field that wouldn't rely so much on working with people? Would it make more sense to work as QA tester, and then try to transition to something in systems or database administration?
posted by omredux on May 5, 2014 - 13 answers

Group Work in Math "Lab" + Introvert = I'm Freaking Out

I'm taking Calculus this term and have just found out the second half of each class will be group work and I'm freaking out. I'm an introvert and the thought of working in a group - especially where I don't feel confident about the subject matter - is making me anxious before the class even starts! Can anyone tell me what to expect and/or offer suggestions on how to make it less awful? [more inside]
posted by Beti on Mar 28, 2014 - 14 answers

How does anyone ever talk to anyone else?

I'm in a new relationship and we just had a fight that was started more or less because of an issue I've been struggling with my life: I never know what to say to people. How can I work through this issue? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2014 - 6 answers

Class participation for introverts

How can I save my class participation grade? [more inside]
posted by ella_minnow on Feb 6, 2014 - 19 answers

How do you cope with an utterly draining person who you can't avoid?

For various reasons, I'm in currently in a domestic situation with a family member who is really, really draining. This person has quite a few traits that seem narcissistic/borderline/non-respectful of boundaries. [more inside]
posted by SpecialSpaghettiBowl on Dec 6, 2013 - 13 answers

I work with a vampire.

Please help me sort out a human relations issue I'm having with a coworker. I feel exhausted when I work with this person. The easy answer seems to be Talk with her about it, but I imagine the conversation just creating more exhausting drama. And, seeing as it's a work relationship (colleague), I wonder if the right thing for me to do is suck it up and accept that part of what makes it paid work is dealing with different personalities. Any unpacking advice? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Nov 22, 2013 - 36 answers

Dating Woes

My partner has an abundance of free time. I do not. This is a constant source of conflict for us. I thought I had a practical solution, but it's not working. Can you help me figure this out? [more inside]
posted by chara on Oct 21, 2013 - 53 answers

Help me be a better actor.

I recently landed the role of Lennox in a local production of Macbeth—uh, "The Scottish Play"—despite very little experience in acting. I enjoy roles with fewer lines, so I was pleased at first. Now that we're well into rehearsals, however, I'm struggling with my personality and the character's. Lennox is a thane, a soldier, and I'm a weedy introvert. I need some help. [more inside]
posted by Quilford on Sep 29, 2013 - 16 answers

Going it Alone, Reunion Edition

My 15th university reunion is next weekend and since I now live back in the area of my alma mater, I'll be heading to the party at least for the day. Except, I will be going solo. How do I make the most of the experience and not give in to my wallflower, introvert tendencies? [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! on Sep 28, 2013 - 4 answers

"Feeling Good", the handbook ... or something else?

My sweet baby sister is struggling with some depression and self-esteem issues. She's not interested in therapy at this point but she's open to doing some self-help/at-home work. What book shoud I get her? [more inside]
posted by nubianinthedesert on Jul 23, 2013 - 16 answers

Alone time? How to get it and give it in a loving way.

People who need a lot of home all alone time – how did you get used to (if you did) living with a spouse or partner? What was the adjustment period like? Also, can you get enough the alone time you need if the other person is in the same house, but not in the same room? What advice would you give to each person in this type of relationship? Anecdotes welcomed on cohabiting with a person who needs lees or more alone time than you.
posted by Lescha on Apr 11, 2013 - 29 answers

I don't want to be the jealous girl.

How do you dust yourself off and carry on after shy and awkward days? And how can I stop fixating on, comparing myself to, and feeling envious of a social, extroverted classmate? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch on Mar 20, 2013 - 28 answers

How can I become more extroverted?

Have you successfully made an intentional transition from introversion (socialization = draining) to extroversion (socialization = sustaining)? If so, please step inside and share your insights with me. [more inside]
posted by Scientist on Feb 9, 2013 - 24 answers

Please help this introvert make new friends!

I have been an introvert for as long as I can remember. I do have a few good friends that I enjoy talking to, but usually they were the ones who befriended me, instead of the other way around. Now, because of changes of circumstances in my life, I would like to bring more new people into my life, more actively this time. Dear hive mind, please give me some tips on how I can do it. [more inside]
posted by clair-obscur on Jan 28, 2013 - 8 answers

Is my RL a dead horse or does he deserve this chance?

Another question about my LTR: how much should I try to give another chance to my potentially EUM partner? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Dec 29, 2012 - 35 answers

...Why am I so antisocial?

Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
posted by orchidgenes on Dec 27, 2012 - 21 answers

How can I connect with my sister?

How do I develop and nurture a relationship with a family member with whom I share little in common besides mutual respect and a desire to build closeness? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Nov 7, 2012 - 14 answers

how do i integrate myself into a brand new friend group?

how do i integrate myself into a brand new friend group? [more inside]
posted by humiliated_grape on Nov 5, 2012 - 17 answers

what's a people-loving introvert to do for a career?

What's a good career or job for an introvert who enjoys working with people? [more inside]
posted by sunrisecoffee on Oct 3, 2012 - 21 answers

Oxford: Open Sesame!

Visiting researcher (also, a rower) at Oxford- in a land of gated communities- how do I 'get involved'/'dive in'? [more inside]
posted by iiniisfree on Aug 31, 2012 - 17 answers

Helping, selfless, yet jealous?

On rare occasions, I dislike this feeling I get when I'm helping others. Why do I sometimes feel jealous if those that I help, spend time being helped by others? I should be happy for them, right? It is rare, but it happens and it is bothersome! [more inside]
posted by Bodrik on Aug 14, 2012 - 17 answers

Can I adapt to high energy situations?

Can high energy be learned? [more inside]
posted by Laura Macbeth on Aug 1, 2012 - 12 answers

Help me not mentally flagellate myself

As a shy, awkward introvert who is frankly not good with people, how can I shut down my own negative self-talk when I'm in the midst of social situations--namely, a big two-day-long event happening this weekend? Are there any easily remembered mantras or things I can tell myself so that I'm not focusing the whole time on my own shortcomings? [more inside]
posted by indognito on Jul 28, 2012 - 36 answers

Introvert theme songs (with no vocals)?

Introvert theme songs with no vocals or lyrics? (previously) [more inside]
posted by querty on Jul 23, 2012 - 24 answers

One week, one small home, two families. Help an irritable introvert cope?

Husband's family is coming to town, yay! They're asking if we can put them up for a week, eek! Small home, two bedrooms, four adults, three children. I'm an introvert and homebody in the extreme; have anxiety and, lately, irritability issues; and I don't know if or how I can cope with this. Help me make this possible. [more inside]
posted by Eolienne on Jul 9, 2012 - 23 answers

How to stop being passive in romantic/social life?

I'm in a funk through completely failing to take my romantic/social live into my own hands. How do I fix this? [more inside]
posted by neilb449 on Jun 16, 2012 - 11 answers

I want to be alone! (but I want to want to NOT be alone...)

My job (which I love) is sapping my small reserve of social energy and killing my (already near non-existent) social life. I don't want to be a hermit! How can I get more interested in doing things with people after work instead of always cocooning? [more inside]
posted by Knicke on May 25, 2012 - 25 answers

how to get close to a shy guy

Tips for getting to know an introverted, smart guy better? [more inside]
posted by bearette on Apr 12, 2012 - 6 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

Grant me some solitude

Grant writing: is this a good career for an introvert? [more inside]
posted by indognito on Mar 27, 2012 - 7 answers

Want roommate divorce from my very own personal Eeyore.

My socially awkward roommate/friend is hampering my social life. I don't know how to kindly set boundaries without really hurting him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2012 - 16 answers

I hate talking to people.

How do I become less of an extreme introvert/misanthrope? I've barely had any social contact in the past three years, but this is not how I want to live my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2012 - 25 answers

Introverted 18 y/o seeks advice.

I'm an intensely introverted 18 year old living in somewhat of a social vacuum. I need some advice. [more inside]
posted by csjc on Mar 7, 2012 - 18 answers


How can I overcome my introversion, social anxiety and supposed language barrier and bond with my SO's friends and family? [more inside]
posted by ohmy on Mar 6, 2012 - 14 answers

Socially awkward woman that can't lift a bowling ball seeks advice

Help me get out of having to go to my boyfriend's friend's wife's birthday bowling party that I wasn't even invited to. [more inside]
posted by KogeLiz on Feb 3, 2012 - 47 answers

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