People who need a lot of home all alone time – how did you get used to (if you did) living with a spouse or partner? What was the adjustment period like? Also, can you get enough the alone time you need if the other person is in the same house,
but not in the same room?
What advice would you give to each person in this type of relationship? Anecdotes welcomed on cohabiting with a person who needs lees or more alone time than you.
posted by Lescha
on Apr 11, 2013 -
29 answers
How do you dust yourself off and carry on after shy and awkward days? And how can I stop fixating on, comparing myself to, and feeling envious of a social, extroverted classmate?
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posted by cucumber patch
on Mar 20, 2013 -
28 answers
Have you successfully made an intentional transition from introversion (socialization = draining) to extroversion (socialization = sustaining)? If so, please step inside and share your insights with me.
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posted by Scientist
on Feb 9, 2013 -
24 answers
I have been an introvert for as long as I can remember. I do have a few good friends that I enjoy talking to, but usually they were the ones who befriended me, instead of the other way around. Now, because of changes of circumstances in my life, I would like to bring more new people into my life, more actively this time. Dear hive mind, please give me some tips on how I can do it.
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posted by clair-obscur
on Jan 28, 2013 -
8 answers
Another question about my LTR: how much should I try to give another chance to my potentially EUM partner?
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posted by hungry hippo
on Dec 29, 2012 -
35 answers
How do I develop and nurture a relationship with a family member with whom I share little in common besides mutual respect and a desire to build closeness?
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posted by little_dog_laughing
on Nov 7, 2012 -
14 answers
Visiting researcher (also, a rower) at Oxford- in a land of gated communities- how do I 'get involved'/'dive in'?
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posted by iiniisfree
on Aug 31, 2012 -
17 answers
On rare occasions, I dislike this feeling I get when I'm helping others. Why do I sometimes feel jealous if those that I help, spend time being helped by others? I should be happy for them, right? It is rare, but it happens and it is bothersome!
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posted by Bodrik
on Aug 14, 2012 -
17 answers
As a shy, awkward introvert who is frankly not good with people, how can I shut down my own negative self-talk when I'm in the midst of social situations--namely, a big two-day-long event happening this weekend? Are there any easily remembered mantras or things I can tell myself so that I'm not focusing the whole time on my own shortcomings?
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posted by indognito
on Jul 28, 2012 -
36 answers
Husband's family is coming to town, yay! They're asking if we can put them up for a week, eek! Small home, two bedrooms, four adults, three children. I'm an introvert and homebody in the extreme; have anxiety and, lately, irritability issues; and I don't know if or how I can cope with this. Help me make this possible.
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posted by Eolienne
on Jul 9, 2012 -
23 answers
I'm in a funk through completely failing to take my romantic/social live into my own hands. How do I fix this?
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posted by neilb449
on Jun 16, 2012 -
11 answers
My job (which I love) is sapping my small reserve of social energy and killing my (already near non-existent) social life. I don't want to be a hermit! How can I get more interested in doing things with people after work instead of always cocooning?
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posted by Knicke
on May 25, 2012 -
25 answers
My socially awkward roommate/friend is hampering my social life. I don't know how to kindly set boundaries without really hurting him.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 24, 2012 -
16 answers
How do I become less of an extreme introvert/misanthrope? I've barely had any social contact in the past three years, but this is not how I want to live my life.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 10, 2012 -
25 answers
I'm an intensely introverted 18 year old living in somewhat of a social vacuum. I need some advice.
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posted by csjc
on Mar 7, 2012 -
18 answers
How can I overcome my introversion, social anxiety and supposed language barrier and bond with my SO's friends and family?
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posted by ohmy
on Mar 6, 2012 -
14 answers
Help me get out of having to go to my boyfriend's friend's wife's birthday bowling party that I wasn't even invited to.
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posted by KogeLiz
on Feb 3, 2012 -
47 answers
How do I tell my boss I don't want to carpool with the group for a 12+ hour round trip?
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posted by dalesd
on Jan 12, 2012 -
31 answers
I'm finishing my economics degree this year and I've decided that I would like to become a fee-for-service financial advisor. The one major issue is that I'm strongly introverted and I'm not confident about my ability to find new clients. I'm looking for book recommendations and sage advice from those with similar types of careers.
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posted by Homo economicus
on Oct 29, 2011 -
11 answers
I’ve been trying to figure out why I can’t communicate with guys at a more personal level. I’m wondering if it’s just shyness or something more.
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posted by the borneo kid
on Sep 1, 2011 -
24 answers
Is there a technique / piece of ancient wisdom / secret phrase that (a) will get overzealous office conversationalists to back off, and (b) won't leave them mortally offended (or that at least will help me avoid Things Getting Weird in the workplace or elsewhere I have to interact with the same people regularly)?
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posted by aecorwin
on Jul 14, 2011 -
36 answers
Need help planning a fitness-oriented RTW trip starting in mid-August, consisting primarily of a few long-distance treks. Complication: I'm a really really extreme introvert.
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posted by acidic
on Jul 11, 2011 -
3 answers
An introvert in an extrovert's world - Teach a perennial shy guy how to navigate dating and relationships
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posted by photo guy
on Feb 10, 2011 -
23 answers
I'm a female eighteen-year-old in the middle of my freshman year at college. I've been having trouble making friends and meeting new people.
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posted by athenadanae
on Feb 2, 2011 -
36 answers
My partner is shy AND introverted. I'm suddenly finding myself terrified by thought of spending the rest of my life with the person I know and love because I'm tired of being the "entertainer." I'm exhausted. More inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2011 -
37 answers
I’m half introvert (don’t need to socialize every day; do like to escape and regroup after socializing) and half extrovert. My extroverted half can be extremely social, and even, on occasion, meet people really easily—and get them to like me.
But if I feel I don’t relate to people around me, or that they won’t get me, or that they are poor listeners and I’ll either have to fight for their attention or fight against their judgmentalism (on whatever subject), I get hideously self-conscious and tongue-tied. How can I change that?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2010 -
9 answers
Introverted thinking moms, would you please share your tips and practical strategies for navigating the shoals of extroverted, feeling-driven motherhood norms?
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posted by MonkeyToes
on Dec 6, 2010 -
25 answers
Logistics of a license-less carless introvert ending a 20 year marriage: I don't know where to start with my preparation.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2010 -
17 answers
I want to get a job as a legal documentation specialist (word processor). I have no prior work experience in law firms. What's the work like, and how do I get hired?
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posted by velvet winter
on Nov 10, 2010 -
11 answers
I want to propose to my long-time partner, but an overblown wedding proposal sounds agonizing to me as an introvert. I am now thinking that I would like to aim my energy at finding the most
creatively minimalist proposal that I can. My partner is completely quirky, so the strangest ideas are totally welcomed. I'm overthinking this to the point of paralysis, and losing months of engaged bliss as a result! How the heck should I propose given all these elements?
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posted by asimplemouse
on Sep 17, 2010 -
37 answers
Help me understand why I would rather watch re-runs of The Cosby Show & Roseanne rather than hang out with anyone.
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posted by KogeLiz
on Sep 9, 2010 -
20 answers
