I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe
on Dec 3, 2012 -
10 answers
My aspie husband and I have good sex, but he doesn't seem to value intimacy. Or maybe to even be capable of it.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 9, 2012 -
16 answers
My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
43 answers
Late-twenties female in need of new strategies for handling intimate encounters and avoiding disassociation during sex and shame afterwards.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 5, 2012 -
35 answers
I'm ridiculously attracted to my wife but her sex drive is an issue. And when we do have sex, the effort I put into the act isn't reciprocated, which to me is almost the biggest issue. We've talked about it but nothing's really changed. What next?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2012 -
45 answers
I'm involved in a new relationship with a guy that I like. He's what I would describe as very self-contained. Quiet, comes off as pretty shy, and requires a bit of effort to get to know. Things have recently started to get physical, but I'm finding myself frustrated because I have no idea how to read this guy's signals and moving things forward is up to me. What does complete silence mean?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2012 -
30 answers
They pretty much all want it and I'm feeling very discouraged. Are there HONESTLY men out there who are sexually satisfied if their partner does NOT have an orgasm?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 1, 2011 -
41 answers
Sex question :) What else is there to experiment with, besides the act itself? Looking for as many ideas as possible.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 8, 2011 -
20 answers
Almost 30, filled with hang ups and doubt, on collision course with self-prescribed therapeutic imperative.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 21, 2011 -
17 answers
How do I reconcile my interests and passions with creativity and human sexuality, in the face of death, grief, and tragedy? Are there any thoughtful heartfelt resources from those who have talked about the two?
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posted by divabat
on Jan 3, 2011 -
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Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Dec 21, 2010 -
6 answers
What is the best way to help my girlfriend cope with or overcome body image issues that make physical intimacy a bit of a challenge? NSFW details.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 5, 2010 -
24 answers
My husband loves erotic photography and wants to start doing it. I'm not as thrilled, but I want him to have a hobby.
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posted by frosty_hut
on Sep 27, 2010 -
76 answers
Curious about using paid sex as a temporary respite for my current situation...multiple questions within
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posted by anonymous
on May 10, 2010 -
45 answers
(relationship filter] Please help me choose between true love and great sex. Of course, I don’t really mean that. But I do need help making a decision and whatever I decide to do, someone’s heart is going to be broken.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2010 -
47 answers
I dislike oral sex. My partner likes oral sex. We're both in our early thirties. I'm female in a relationship with a man.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 12, 2010 -
61 answers
NSFW: Extreme nervousness or anxiety makes it very difficult to become intimate with new partners please help!
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 8, 2008 -
15 answers
Conversation starters needed for married couple's date night. The wife is a bit introverted and needs some prodding to get a conversation started... if it doesn't include career, kids or family.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 11, 2008 -
19 answers
I'm never 'in the mood' at the same time as my boyfriend and it's taken a serious toll on our intimate relationship. What can I/we do to get me in the mood? To help our sex life?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 5, 2007 -
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Olderwomenwholikeyoubutwon'thavesexwithyoufilter: There it is. 75% of the women I've dated in the last 8 months (and ALL of them have been older than me) have a strange issue, in that we can make out all night to the point of being naked, kissing, touching, but that final step of actively engaging an orgasm seems to be too much for them. So... what the... ?
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posted by saysthis
on May 25, 2006 -
37 answers
How can my girlfriend and I work past an aversion or barrier to intimacy that has come up in our relationship?
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posted by aussicht
on Oct 31, 2005 -
13 answers
A friend of mine is trying to identify a short story that she read in high school where conversation and sex have the opposite roles than they do in our society today.
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posted by Turd Ferguson
on Jul 30, 2005 -
7 answers
