I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe on Dec 3, 2012 - 10 answers

Can you really be addicted to a certain kind of sadness? Ugh...I hate that song. My boyfriend has serious intimacy issues but is trying to work on them. I feel intermittently insecure/frustrated/sad/angry and I don't know how much longer I can take it... [more inside]
posted by entropy33 on Nov 4, 2012 - 14 answers

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2012 - 15 answers

My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2012 - 43 answers

Resources on how to foster passion and "have fun" with your spouse? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on Apr 23, 2012 - 16 answers

What do you do to feel that love is abundant in the world? [more inside]
posted by 3491again on Feb 20, 2012 - 25 answers

How do I let people love me? Will I ever outgrow my fear of intimacy? I'm in my late 20s. I'm scared of intimacy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not scared of sex. Won't think twice about a threesome, but am startled by holding hands. If a guy wants to get to know me more, compliments me, or crosses the line from being sweet to me to being sweet on me, I get super flustered. I stutter or look at my feet. I run away. [more inside]
posted by jamaisvu on Nov 6, 2010 - 15 answers

(relationship filter] Please help me choose between true love and great sex. Of course, I don’t really mean that. But I do need help making a decision and whatever I decide to do, someone’s heart is going to be broken. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2010 - 47 answers

How do I deal with someone so verbal about his needs? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Oct 3, 2008 - 22 answers

Is it possible to overcome a fear of intimacy without therapy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2008 - 17 answers

Depression has knocked my passion (for everything) out. Gwargh. What do I do while I get therapy sorted? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 21, 2008 - 13 answers

What's the difference between strong friendship and romantic love? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2007 - 22 answers

Olderwomenwholikeyoubutwon'thavesexwithyoufilter: There it is. 75% of the women I've dated in the last 8 months (and ALL of them have been older than me) have a strange issue, in that we can make out all night to the point of being naked, kissing, touching, but that final step of actively engaging an orgasm seems to be too much for them. So... what the... ? [more inside]
posted by saysthis on May 25, 2006 - 37 answers

How can my girlfriend and I work past an aversion or barrier to intimacy that has come up in our relationship? [more inside]
posted by aussicht on Oct 31, 2005 - 13 answers