Lonely, hungry for intimacy, ravenous to be touched, coddled or stroked. I'm old, sick and unattractive, I used to be smoking hot but men don't look at me any more, nor do they even acknowledge my presence. The area I live in is sparse for dating, and I've even tried one night stands. I have given up. What are some other ways to get the physical needs I have for the human social intimate relationship I do not have? I've done the CL casual encounters, internet dating etc.... Going for a massage now to see if it helps, and yes I have a loving and much loved pet....but I need more. Any resources? I'm sure there are others like me out there.
posted by ~Sushma~ on Nov 6, 2009 - 14 answers

How can I stop being so ticklish? [more inside]
posted by giraffe on Feb 13, 2009 - 12 answers

After a series of painful relationships, when did you know you were ready to date again? Alternately, how do you tell the difference between "not ready" and "making up excuses to not date due to being scared silly of the opposite sex" and "anxiety problems" ? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 2, 2009 - 11 answers

How can a somewhat solitary guy meet a need for hugs and human contact? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2008 - 13 answers

How do you learn to choose others when you’ve always let others choose you? [more inside]
posted by elke on Oct 16, 2008 - 14 answers

NSFW: Extreme nervousness or anxiety makes it very difficult to become intimate with new partners please help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2008 - 15 answers

How do I deal with someone so verbal about his needs? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Oct 3, 2008 - 22 answers

How can I get my boyfriend to be more emotionally intimate with me without prying or being annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2008 - 14 answers

Is it possible to overcome a fear of intimacy without therapy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2008 - 17 answers

Is it worth it to date someone under these (non-exclusive) circumstances? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2008 - 24 answers

Depression has knocked my passion (for everything) out. Gwargh. What do I do while I get therapy sorted? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 21, 2008 - 13 answers

Conversation starters needed for married couple's date night. The wife is a bit introverted and needs some prodding to get a conversation started... if it doesn't include career, kids or family. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2008 - 19 answers

Boy meets girl. Boy falls for girl. Girl tells boy she has genital herpes (type 1). Boy says that's OK, I want to be with you. Now boy wants advice on safety. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2008 - 10 answers

I'm freshly sprung on a new cutie. How do I take it slow? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2007 - 20 answers

My wife is very 'vanilla' when it comes to intimacy. [more inside]
posted by tdreyer1 on Dec 8, 2007 - 31 answers

How can I remove the awkwardness from initiating physical intimacy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 28, 2007 - 28 answers

For the past few years, physical intimacy with my wife creeps me out. I think I've figured out why. Now what? (long post follows, sorry!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2007 - 54 answers

Help me itemise the necessities for opening a small bar. [more inside]
posted by strawberryviagra on Nov 7, 2007 - 8 answers

What naked games or exercises can I play with my partner that are intimate, loving and/ or fun but don't necessarily involve sex? [more inside]
posted by The_Partridge_Family on Oct 11, 2007 - 38 answers

asking for a friend: How can I get my husband to start touching me again? [more inside]
posted by Danila on Sep 28, 2007 - 25 answers

What's the difference between strong friendship and romantic love? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2007 - 22 answers

I'm never 'in the mood' at the same time as my boyfriend and it's taken a serious toll on our intimate relationship. What can I/we do to get me in the mood? To help our sex life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2007 - 19 answers

Why don't I like to be touched on certain parts of my body? I'm a 38 year old male, and for as long as I can remember, there are places on my body I don't like to be touched. Some of them make sense, given certain events in my past, but most of them not so much. To explain... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2006 - 25 answers

MeFi Men of the Hetero Kind: Have you found a useful book to help you improve your emotional intimacy and related communication skills? I'm looking for recommendations from guys who were told by their Significant Others that they don't get it about what women need, and now they do -- thanks to a book. There's so much dreck out there in Self-Help Land. I'm looking for that rare book that really made a difference in your relationship.
posted by nancoix on Aug 28, 2006 - 22 answers

Olderwomenwholikeyoubutwon'thavesexwithyoufilter: There it is. 75% of the women I've dated in the last 8 months (and ALL of them have been older than me) have a strange issue, in that we can make out all night to the point of being naked, kissing, touching, but that final step of actively engaging an orgasm seems to be too much for them. So... what the... ? [more inside]
posted by saysthis on May 25, 2006 - 37 answers

How can my girlfriend and I work past an aversion or barrier to intimacy that has come up in our relationship? [more inside]
posted by aussicht on Oct 31, 2005 - 13 answers

How do I learn to share my feelings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 11, 2005 - 4 answers

How to pass time enjoyably with my wife? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 1, 2005 - 23 answers

A friend of mine is trying to identify a short story that she read in high school where conversation and sex have the opposite roles than they do in our society today. [more inside]
posted by Turd Ferguson on Jul 30, 2005 - 7 answers

Do you go to the toilet in front of your partner? [more inside]
posted by benzo8 on Oct 31, 2004 - 45 answers