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Help me stop freaking out at my bf

Help me conquer my insecurity in relationships! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2012 - 22 answers

Why do I have to hang up first?

Help me figure out and overcome my instinct to distance myself from my SO. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2011 - 19 answers

god I hate dating.

A kind of inane dating question about whether I got blatantly blown off by a guy or whether I'm completely overreacting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2011 - 43 answers

I Feel So Average

I feel so average and uninteresting. What can I do to remedy this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 22 answers

just please don't hate me more

I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 21 answers

First Time Dating Blues.

How do I overcome insecurity in the first stages of a possible (first) relationship? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Mar 20, 2011 - 14 answers

It's not a zero-sum game, guys.

My partner is very liberal and effusive with compliments. I am generally much more reticent. When I realize that he has said the same things to others that he has to me, I can't help but feel like those compliments are now devalued, and that his esteem of me can't possibly be as high as he says it is. [more inside]
posted by Be cool, sodapop on Feb 26, 2011 - 15 answers

"If we ever create a sport whereby monkeys fling poo at one another, and there's one dedicated supporter, there's a solid chance that shit will hit the fan."

What are some things you like to tell or remind yourself about when you have "woe is me" moments to steer yourself out of self-pity/moments of weakness and back into awesomeness?
posted by Christ, what an asshole on Feb 16, 2011 - 55 answers

Am I being too sensitive? Valentine's Day stupidity inside.

How should I be interpreting this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2011 - 63 answers

What exactly do you do to "work on a relationship"

I want to salvage my relationship but am not really sure of the nuts and bolts of rebuilding trust and commitment. If we want to be able to say we gave it our best shot, what does that look like in practical terms? [more inside]
posted by Pomo on Dec 30, 2010 - 14 answers

It's not that I think that everyone is better than I am, it's that I think everyone thinks that they are better (smarter, more attractive, more accomplished) than I am. What is this?

It's not that I think that everyone is better than I am, it's that I think everyone thinks that they are better (smarter, more attractive, more accomplished) than I am. What is this? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce on Sep 14, 2010 - 13 answers

How to be more confident in my own intelligence?

How do I become more confident in my intelligence and not worry that people around me will think I'm dumb? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2010 - 26 answers

He wasn't trying to hurt me, but is this a clue of inconsiderate attitudes?

Seeing a guy who's a little socially awkward. He hasn't initiated any physical affection, and tonight he revealed that he said something disparaging about me to a mutual friend. How to proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2010 - 37 answers

How can I accentuate B-cup breasts without showing skin?

How can I accentuate B-cup breasts without showing skin? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2010 - 23 answers

Did Madeline Albright and Elena Kagan waste brain energy this way?

I'm an accomplished 20-something female who can't seem to get over my average looks. Have searched the archives and spent some time in therapy, but not finding the answers I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2010 - 61 answers

Why men in the VIP are insecure?

Help me find this article: It's written buy a guy who used to work at nightclubs & it's an "inside look" at how nightclubs are designed to make men feel inferior & insecure so that they get expensive VIP table service. My google-fu has failed me and I don't remember where I saw the article. [more inside]
posted by MesoFilter on Jul 3, 2010 - 4 answers

The blogosphere thinks I'm ugly...

A few months ago I started getting press and now I'm what you'd call perhaps a "public figure," though a minor one. The problem is that I "read the internet" and come across comments about me being ugly, unattractive, etc. I'm letting them get to me... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2010 - 60 answers

Am I OK in bed or a disaster?

Am I terrible in bed or sexually repellent? And if I am, how do I find out and fix it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2010 - 34 answers

Besides therapy, would a life coach help?

i grew up in a home where asking an innocent question such as, "why" resulted in verbal or physical abuse ("why are you so stupid", "don't ask why", and if I did, a hand or a fist would come at me). no surprise that i've also come to realize that I am SO much more insecure than I thought I was. now that I look back, I see that i've never asked the right questions at work, with doctors, or anything like that. My brain would shut down and I would just nod and agree to what I was being told only to think about what happened much later and realize that I should have asked this or that or responded in a certain way. My thought/response patterns have been pretty consistent throughout my life (sad, I know, as I'm nearing 40) and I desperately want to work on communicating better. I struggle to figure out how to say things "nicely" or in a way that's effective as opposed to what often times is more harsh/rude/ineffective. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2010 - 15 answers

"That's what you get, now fix it."

Am I experiencing "bully feelings"? I feel like slapping my coworker for being so insecure. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2010 - 22 answers

I'm unavailable and not really interested in snogging you...but please think I'm brilliant and awesome and hot!

Why am I addicted to male attention? And how do I stop? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Mar 1, 2010 - 29 answers

Looking for attention in all the wrong places

Why would a woman be jealous of the attention her girlfriends receive from their significant others? There is an answer, but the issue has formed a pattern in my life that I fear is getting out of control! I would appreciate anyone who could take the time to help me out by reading more...:) [more inside]
posted by dentro on Nov 30, 2009 - 18 answers

Learning to THRIVE alone after divorce.

After divorce, how can I learn to be a confident, whole individual without being in a relationship? I'm struggling with insecurity, I feel like there is a part of me missing, and I've gotten myself so worked up about it that I'm in a state of "analysis paralysis." Please help me break through that paralysis! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Oct 17, 2009 - 23 answers

Am I insecure in my life-path, or doing something wrong?

Plodding through school and working: am screwing myself over or doing it right? Long and sordid within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 3 answers

R-E-S-P-E-C-T - it means wierd things to me...

I think I'm ready to transition from being a person who primarily wants to be liked to a person who primarily wants to be respected. [more inside]
posted by kitcat on Sep 17, 2009 - 13 answers

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail.

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2009 - 22 answers

Can I be chubby and still have a good time at the beach?

What should a less-than-skinny woman know about vacationing in a beach area? How can I deal with my self-consciousness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 60 answers

mmm....pond scum

What does a healthy self-image look like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2009 - 28 answers

How to survive my work self-evaluation?

Help me survive my performance review! I have to complete an extensive self-evaluation form for my boss, and it’s freaking me out. What would make this an easier and less anxiety-inducing experience? [more inside]
posted by gingerbeer on Apr 15, 2009 - 16 answers

How can I comfort myself instead of leaning on my stressed-out boyfriend?

Help! My boyfriend/roommate has less time for me than he used to, and now I feel like I'm sabotaging my relationship with insecurity and anxiety. Help me deal with this without being crazy and treating my already-stressed boyfriend badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2009 - 18 answers

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one?

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2009 - 21 answers

insane in the membrane

How do I stop having 'bipolar' feelings of excitement and fear at the first stages of a relationship? [more inside]
posted by KateHasQuestions on Feb 12, 2009 - 9 answers

Help me believe in myself

What did you do to get over your deep-seated belief that you'll fail at everything you do? In the past this has manifested itself in overtly self-destructive behaviors (e.g. substance abuse), and while those are currently under control I still engage in massive self-sabotage that I'm pretty sure is connected to my belief that I do not deserve success and will fail at anything I try to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2008 - 18 answers

How to help a friend get over insecurities?

How can I help a friend get over deep insecurities? [more inside]
posted by monkey85 on Jun 11, 2008 - 11 answers

Help me believe in myself

I lack faith in myself and am convinced that if I undertake anything but the most menial tasks I will screw things up. As a result, I screw things up and give myself even more proof that I will always screw things up. How do I stop the cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2008 - 25 answers

How to feel a stronger sense of self-worth?

How can a person overcome general insecurity, improve their self-esteem, and bolster their sense of self worth? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2007 - 18 answers

Have I destroyed a friendship?

Is my friend being petty, or should I try harder to patch this up? Long explanation... [more inside]
posted by Ruby Doomsday on Oct 29, 2007 - 73 answers

What does she need in order to feel secure in a relationship with me?

I'm 23, she's 25. We saw each other casually while I was in school. She wanted something more serious, but I wasn't ready. Now I am ready, but she says I'm too late– she can't risk getting hurt again. She still cares for me, and I for her. Help me understand and address her needs. [more inside]
posted by colgate on Jul 11, 2007 - 39 answers

Can I Make Myself Like My Boss Again?

Coming to terms with my dislike of my boss. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2007 - 9 answers

Blame the caffeine for all the 5 a.m. phone calls

[Insecure Female Filter] Help me feel less clingy when asking for affection from or even just displaying it to my more stoic significant other. Back story & lots [more inside]
posted by Phire on Jan 2, 2007 - 17 answers

help me enjoy sex

Help me enjoy sex with my husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2006 - 30 answers

Insecurity in a relationship

How do I learn to overcome (better: eliminate) deep-seated insecurity in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2006 - 18 answers

i'm sorry

Having good relationships with insecure/overly apologetic types? [more inside]
posted by masymas on Dec 14, 2005 - 17 answers

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