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How to work under an insecure boss?

I'm struggling with a social / political issue at work. I have been in my current job for about a year. I am a little overqualified for the position, but I really like most aspects of it and it's a small enough field that other similar jobs are hard to come by, so I'd vastly prefer it if the solution doesn't involve quitting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2014 - 10 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

Help me break this self-destructive cycle of insecurity and clinginess

I am a very insecure person (who is working on it, in therapy/in recovery/rocking it). I get in these head spaces where I feel crippling insecure, especially with my boyfriend. I want verbal validation from him, but my asking for it makes him feel pressured. When he feels pressured, he gets distant, and then I feel even more insecure. We both know this is happening. What tricks can we use to make it stop before it gets out of hand? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2014 - 12 answers

What is it that people want when they give you the silent treatment?

I am currently getting the silent treatment from a friend/my roommate. I know that I offended her, and I have apologized, but she still just sort of glances at me when I come in a room and then goes back to doing whatever she was doing before. I have never encountered this kind of behavior from anyone before, and I am not sure how to respond, or if I should respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2014 - 39 answers

Von Neumann I am not

I’ve spent my 20s building a BS “identity” as an “analytical type of person". Help me grow up. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2014 - 10 answers

I feel unable to participate in a normal, healthy dating relationship.

I am 34 years old, and for the first time in my life, I am embarking on a 'normal' relationship. My insecurities are causing me extreme anxiety, and I'd like your stories and insight and tips on what I might be being realistic about, and what I'm not. Apologies for a long explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2014 - 30 answers

Am I a bad person trying to control my partner?

Am I a terrible person? My partner and I have been dating for 3.5 years, living together for one. In that time, he's cut off contact with two of his friends who were also significant exes. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2013 - 38 answers

TIRED of being a virgin!

I'm a 20 year old girl, and I've never been in a relationship. I feel weird about that. Where do I meet guys, apart from school, and how do I get more confidence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2013 - 19 answers

I like to draw. I fear I suck. Thus, paralyzed.

Creative wibble: Feel like I could do some cool stuff but crippled by insecurity and thus don't sit down and DO IT. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 26, 2012 - 14 answers

Why am I so hung up on this?!

I am heterosexual. During a party, I was asked by a roommate if I was gay. This is not the first time - I need help navigating my insecurity regarding my sexuality. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2012 - 52 answers

I want to love sex again!

Help me regain my sexual confidence, after some bad experiences. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2012 - 27 answers

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life?

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 24 answers

Help me stop freaking out at my bf

Help me conquer my insecurity in relationships! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2012 - 22 answers

Why do I have to hang up first?

Help me figure out and overcome my instinct to distance myself from my SO. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2011 - 19 answers

god I hate dating.

A kind of inane dating question about whether I got blatantly blown off by a guy or whether I'm completely overreacting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2011 - 43 answers

I Feel So Average

I feel so average and uninteresting. What can I do to remedy this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 22 answers

just please don't hate me more

I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 21 answers

Am I being too sensitive? Valentine's Day stupidity inside.

How should I be interpreting this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2011 - 63 answers

How to be more confident in my own intelligence?

How do I become more confident in my intelligence and not worry that people around me will think I'm dumb? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2010 - 26 answers

He wasn't trying to hurt me, but is this a clue of inconsiderate attitudes?

Seeing a guy who's a little socially awkward. He hasn't initiated any physical affection, and tonight he revealed that he said something disparaging about me to a mutual friend. How to proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2010 - 37 answers

How can I accentuate B-cup breasts without showing skin?

How can I accentuate B-cup breasts without showing skin? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2010 - 23 answers

Did Madeline Albright and Elena Kagan waste brain energy this way?

I'm an accomplished 20-something female who can't seem to get over my average looks. Have searched the archives and spent some time in therapy, but not finding the answers I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2010 - 61 answers

The blogosphere thinks I'm ugly...

A few months ago I started getting press and now I'm what you'd call perhaps a "public figure," though a minor one. The problem is that I "read the internet" and come across comments about me being ugly, unattractive, etc. I'm letting them get to me... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2010 - 60 answers

Am I OK in bed or a disaster?

Am I terrible in bed or sexually repellent? And if I am, how do I find out and fix it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2010 - 34 answers

Besides therapy, would a life coach help?

i grew up in a home where asking an innocent question such as, "why" resulted in verbal or physical abuse ("why are you so stupid", "don't ask why", and if I did, a hand or a fist would come at me). no surprise that i've also come to realize that I am SO much more insecure than I thought I was. now that I look back, I see that i've never asked the right questions at work, with doctors, or anything like that. My brain would shut down and I would just nod and agree to what I was being told only to think about what happened much later and realize that I should have asked this or that or responded in a certain way. My thought/response patterns have been pretty consistent throughout my life (sad, I know, as I'm nearing 40) and I desperately want to work on communicating better. I struggle to figure out how to say things "nicely" or in a way that's effective as opposed to what often times is more harsh/rude/ineffective. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2010 - 15 answers

"That's what you get, now fix it."

Am I experiencing "bully feelings"? I feel like slapping my coworker for being so insecure. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2010 - 22 answers

Am I insecure in my life-path, or doing something wrong?

Plodding through school and working: am screwing myself over or doing it right? Long and sordid within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 3 answers

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail.

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2009 - 22 answers

Can I be chubby and still have a good time at the beach?

What should a less-than-skinny woman know about vacationing in a beach area? How can I deal with my self-consciousness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 60 answers

mmm....pond scum

What does a healthy self-image look like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2009 - 28 answers

How can I comfort myself instead of leaning on my stressed-out boyfriend?

Help! My boyfriend/roommate has less time for me than he used to, and now I feel like I'm sabotaging my relationship with insecurity and anxiety. Help me deal with this without being crazy and treating my already-stressed boyfriend badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2009 - 18 answers

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one?

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2009 - 21 answers

Help me believe in myself

What did you do to get over your deep-seated belief that you'll fail at everything you do? In the past this has manifested itself in overtly self-destructive behaviors (e.g. substance abuse), and while those are currently under control I still engage in massive self-sabotage that I'm pretty sure is connected to my belief that I do not deserve success and will fail at anything I try to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2008 - 18 answers

Help me believe in myself

I lack faith in myself and am convinced that if I undertake anything but the most menial tasks I will screw things up. As a result, I screw things up and give myself even more proof that I will always screw things up. How do I stop the cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2008 - 25 answers

How to feel a stronger sense of self-worth?

How can a person overcome general insecurity, improve their self-esteem, and bolster their sense of self worth? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2007 - 18 answers

Can I Make Myself Like My Boss Again?

Coming to terms with my dislike of my boss. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2007 - 9 answers

help me enjoy sex

Help me enjoy sex with my husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2006 - 30 answers

Insecurity in a relationship

How do I learn to overcome (better: eliminate) deep-seated insecurity in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2006 - 18 answers

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