Am I a terrible person? My partner and I have been dating for 3.5 years, living together for one. In that time, he's cut off contact with two of his friends who were also significant exes.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2013 -
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I'm a 20 year old girl, and I've never been in a relationship. I feel weird about that. Where do I meet guys, apart from school, and how do I get more confidence?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 17, 2013 -
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Creative wibble: Feel like I could do some cool stuff but crippled by insecurity and thus don't sit down and DO IT. Hope me?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 26, 2012 -
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I am heterosexual. During a party, I was asked by a roommate if I was gay. This is not the first time - I need help navigating my insecurity regarding my sexuality. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 22, 2012 -
52 answers
A kind of inane dating question about whether I got blatantly blown off by a guy or whether I'm completely overreacting.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 5, 2011 -
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I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 6, 2011 -
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How do I become more confident in my intelligence and not worry that people around me will think I'm dumb?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 10, 2010 -
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Seeing a guy who's a little socially awkward. He hasn't initiated any physical affection, and tonight he revealed that he said something disparaging about me to a mutual friend. How to proceed?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 8, 2010 -
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I'm an accomplished 20-something female who can't seem to get over my average looks. Have searched the archives and spent some time in therapy, but not finding the answers I'm looking for.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 15, 2010 -
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A few months ago I started getting press and now I'm what you'd call perhaps a "public figure," though a minor one. The problem is that I "read the internet" and come across comments about me being ugly, unattractive, etc. I'm letting them get to me...
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2010 -
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i grew up in a home where asking an innocent question such as, "why" resulted in verbal or physical abuse ("why are you so stupid", "don't ask why", and if I did, a hand or a fist would come at me). no surprise that i've also come to realize that I am SO much more insecure than I thought I was. now that I look back, I see that i've never asked the right questions at work, with doctors, or anything like that. My brain would shut down and I would just nod and agree to what I was being told only to think about what happened much later and realize that I should have asked this or that or responded in a certain way. My thought/response patterns have been pretty consistent throughout my life (sad, I know, as I'm nearing 40) and I desperately want to work on communicating better. I struggle to figure out how to say things "nicely" or in a way that's effective as opposed to what often times is more harsh/rude/ineffective.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2010 -
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Am I experiencing "bully feelings"? I feel like slapping my coworker for being so insecure.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2010 -
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Plodding through school and working: am screwing myself over or doing it right? Long and sordid within.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 12, 2009 -
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What should a less-than-skinny woman know about vacationing in a beach area? How can I deal with my self-consciousness?
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posted by anonymous
on May 4, 2009 -
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Help! My boyfriend/roommate has less time for me than he used to, and now I feel like I'm sabotaging my relationship with insecurity and anxiety. Help me deal with this without being crazy and treating my already-stressed boyfriend badly.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2009 -
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How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 27, 2009 -
21 answers
What did you do to get over your deep-seated belief that you'll fail at everything you do? In the past this has manifested itself in overtly self-destructive behaviors (e.g. substance abuse), and while those are currently under control I still engage in massive self-sabotage that I'm pretty sure is connected to my belief that I do not deserve success and will fail at anything I try to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2008 -
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I lack faith in myself and am convinced that if I undertake anything but the most menial tasks I will screw things up. As a result, I screw things up and give myself even
more proof that I will always screw things up. How do I stop the cycle?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 10, 2008 -
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How can a person overcome general insecurity, improve their self-esteem, and bolster their sense of self worth?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 25, 2007 -
18 answers
How do I learn to overcome (better: eliminate) deep-seated insecurity in a relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2006 -
18 answers
