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Reason to feel insecure or am I just being borderline insane?!

Argh, so here goes, my first MetFilter question. I'd love some perspective here on whether I have a reason to be as worried as I am or whether, in fact, I'm overreacting - and any tips of ways to cope and not act out self-destructively would be very good. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Oct 30, 2014 - 30 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

I feel unable to participate in a normal, healthy dating relationship.

I am 34 years old, and for the first time in my life, I am embarking on a 'normal' relationship. My insecurities are causing me extreme anxiety, and I'd like your stories and insight and tips on what I might be being realistic about, and what I'm not. Apologies for a long explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2014 - 30 answers

Insecurity over partner's ex-boyfriend who dumped her

I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year, and we are really in love. A few months into the relationship I discovered some diaries etc of her, which I know I should never have read, but did. I discovered how obsessed she was for years about an ex that dumped her and who she idealised, and now I really need some help to get out of this rut of insecurity and jealousy which I have created for myself. [more inside]
posted by lichen on Mar 6, 2014 - 32 answers

Someone I love has intense insecurity issues - how can I help them?

I ended my LTR a few weeks ago, but can't shake the feeling that I'm abandoning someone in their hour of need, so to speak. My ex was a delightful person, but suffered from the most bizarre and extreme inferiority complex I have ever witnessed. (It was so bad at times that he would sometimes escape from parties by exiting through a window in a back room somewhere.) It got to the point where his behavior was starting to wear me down, and things unraveled from there, but it tears me up to think that he'll no longer have someone to help him stave off his self-loathing tendencies. [more inside]
posted by Teradactyl on Aug 27, 2013 - 29 answers

Did I fuck up? How shall I do it differently next time?

I'm in the post break-up re-evaluation phase ('bargaining' phase in the grieving process?). I veer between feeling I tried my best while also holding onto ways I could have done things differently while dealing with our core problem to feeling that I fucked up majorly and just lost a potentially fantastic life-partner. While par for course this state of affairs is I believe, this is really eating me and I would be grateful for some perspective. [more inside]
posted by drummergirl80 on Aug 12, 2013 - 17 answers

Current boyfriend has lots of female friends...and I'm bothered...

Have you ever dated someone with several friends of the opposite sex? What about someone who is friends with many of their exes and still keeps up regular contact with them? He's given me no reason not to trust him, but I'm still hung up on this. Is it just a matter of me working on my insecurity? Or should he be changing his behavior? More details inside... [more inside]
posted by singinginmychains on Jun 11, 2013 - 57 answers

Please help me to see if I'm overreacting or not...

My boyfriend and I met with a female friend of his last night, and he started behaving very uncharacteristically distant with me while we were with her. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill or was something more going on? [more inside]
posted by chatelaine on Oct 24, 2012 - 25 answers

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life?

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 24 answers

How to deal with neediness in a relationship?

How can I deal with neediness in the early stages of a relationship? [more inside]
posted by peterf12 on Apr 15, 2012 - 16 answers

Help me stop freaking out at my bf

Help me conquer my insecurity in relationships! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2012 - 22 answers

just please don't hate me more

I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2011 - 21 answers

Am I being too sensitive? Valentine's Day stupidity inside.

How should I be interpreting this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2011 - 63 answers

Looking for attention in all the wrong places

Why would a woman be jealous of the attention her girlfriends receive from their significant others? There is an answer, but the issue has formed a pattern in my life that I fear is getting out of control! I would appreciate anyone who could take the time to help me out by reading more...:) [more inside]
posted by dentro on Nov 30, 2009 - 18 answers

Learning to THRIVE alone after divorce.

After divorce, how can I learn to be a confident, whole individual without being in a relationship? I'm struggling with insecurity, I feel like there is a part of me missing, and I've gotten myself so worked up about it that I'm in a state of "analysis paralysis." Please help me break through that paralysis! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Oct 17, 2009 - 23 answers

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail.

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2009 - 22 answers

How can I comfort myself instead of leaning on my stressed-out boyfriend?

Help! My boyfriend/roommate has less time for me than he used to, and now I feel like I'm sabotaging my relationship with insecurity and anxiety. Help me deal with this without being crazy and treating my already-stressed boyfriend badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2009 - 18 answers

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one?

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2009 - 21 answers

Blame the caffeine for all the 5 a.m. phone calls

[Insecure Female Filter] Help me feel less clingy when asking for affection from or even just displaying it to my more stoic significant other. Back story & lots [more inside]
posted by Phire on Jan 2, 2007 - 17 answers

Insecurity in a relationship

How do I learn to overcome (better: eliminate) deep-seated insecurity in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2006 - 18 answers

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