After divorce, how can I learn to be a confident, whole individual without being in a relationship? I'm struggling with insecurity, I feel like there is a part of me missing, and I've gotten myself so worked up about it that I'm in a state of "analysis paralysis." Please help me break through that paralysis! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Oct 17, 2009 - 23 answers

Plodding through school and working: am screwing myself over or doing it right? Long and sordid within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 3 answers

I think I'm ready to transition from being a person who primarily wants to be liked to a person who primarily wants to be respected. [more inside]
posted by kitcat on Sep 17, 2009 - 13 answers

Help me put an end to emotional blackmail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2009 - 22 answers

What should a less-than-skinny woman know about vacationing in a beach area? How can I deal with my self-consciousness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 60 answers

What does a healthy self-image look like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2009 - 28 answers

Help me survive my performance review! I have to complete an extensive self-evaluation form for my boss, and it’s freaking me out. What would make this an easier and less anxiety-inducing experience? [more inside]
posted by gingerbeer on Apr 15, 2009 - 16 answers

Help! My boyfriend/roommate has less time for me than he used to, and now I feel like I'm sabotaging my relationship with insecurity and anxiety. Help me deal with this without being crazy and treating my already-stressed boyfriend badly. [more inside]
posted by bubukaba on Apr 6, 2009 - 18 answers

How can I learn to stop letting my past relationship influence how I behave in my current one? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2009 - 21 answers

How do I stop having 'bipolar' feelings of excitement and fear at the first stages of a relationship? [more inside]
posted by KateHasQuestions on Feb 12, 2009 - 9 answers

What did you do to get over your deep-seated belief that you'll fail at everything you do? In the past this has manifested itself in overtly self-destructive behaviors (e.g. substance abuse), and while those are currently under control I still engage in massive self-sabotage that I'm pretty sure is connected to my belief that I do not deserve success and will fail at anything I try to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2008 - 18 answers

How can I help a friend get over deep insecurities? [more inside]
posted by monkey85 on Jun 11, 2008 - 11 answers

I lack faith in myself and am convinced that if I undertake anything but the most menial tasks I will screw things up. As a result, I screw things up and give myself even more proof that I will always screw things up. How do I stop the cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2008 - 25 answers

How can a person overcome general insecurity, improve their self-esteem, and bolster their sense of self worth? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2007 - 18 answers

Is my friend being petty, or should I try harder to patch this up? Long explanation... [more inside]
posted by Ruby Doomsday on Oct 29, 2007 - 73 answers

I'm 23, she's 25. We saw each other casually while I was in school. She wanted something more serious, but I wasn't ready. Now I am ready, but she says I'm too late– she can't risk getting hurt again. She still cares for me, and I for her. Help me understand and address her needs. [more inside]
posted by colgate on Jul 11, 2007 - 39 answers

Coming to terms with my dislike of my boss. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2007 - 9 answers

[Insecure Female Filter] Help me feel less clingy when asking for affection from or even just displaying it to my more stoic significant other. Back story & lots [more inside]
posted by Phire on Jan 2, 2007 - 17 answers

Help me enjoy sex with my husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2006 - 30 answers

How do I learn to overcome (better: eliminate) deep-seated insecurity in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2006 - 18 answers

Having good relationships with insecure/overly apologetic types? [more inside]
posted by masymas on Dec 14, 2005 - 17 answers