I have major depression, and I am receiving treatment. However, I am still not master of my own mood, and now I would like some specific tips, pointers and ideas on how to stop myself from harassing my poor husband about imaginary problems.
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posted by ADent
on Mar 8, 2013 -
15 answers
Am I a terrible person? My partner and I have been dating for 3.5 years, living together for one. In that time, he's cut off contact with two of his friends who were also significant exes.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2013 -
38 answers
I'm 24, and I live in the suburbs a half-hour north of Boston. I'm about to get health insurance that includes mental care. I don't know how the private healthcare system works. How should I get a mental-health diagnosis? What doctors and therapists in the area could help me with whatever problems I may have? Details inside.
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posted by Rustic Etruscan
on Feb 1, 2013 -
8 answers
I'm a 20 year old girl, and I've never been in a relationship. I feel weird about that. Where do I meet guys, apart from school, and how do I get more confidence?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 17, 2013 -
19 answers
Creative wibble: Feel like I could do some cool stuff but crippled by insecurity and thus don't sit down and DO IT. Hope me?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 26, 2012 -
14 answers
I am heterosexual. During a party, I was asked by a roommate if I was gay. This is not the first time - I need help navigating my insecurity regarding my sexuality. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 22, 2012 -
52 answers
I need therapy for really bad and unwarranted relationship jealousy and insecurity but I wouldn't be able to get started until sometime late January. What would be some alternatives I could pursue in the meantime?
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posted by TheManChild2000
on Nov 30, 2012 -
13 answers
What can I do to stop insecurity from boyfriend's from seeing into our relationship? The divorce isn't final, and it's placing a strain on our relationship. I'm afraid that my anger/confusion/fear may sabotage the relationship.
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posted by lastcall17
on Oct 28, 2012 -
14 answers
My boyfriend and I met with a female friend of his last night, and he started behaving very uncharacteristically distant with me while we were with her. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill or was something more going on?
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posted by chatelaine
on Oct 24, 2012 -
25 answers
How do I stop from feeling like I am a fraud (because I have a lot of flaws) when people tell me I'm physically beautiful? This insecurity in my looks/my reaction to compliments is affecting my life in a lot of ways. I'd appreciate any and all advice on how to deal with this!
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posted by rhythm_queen
on Aug 30, 2012 -
67 answers
Are my boundaries "normal" or oversensitive, and should I apply them to this person I am soon to meet? Supersnowflakery within.
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posted by thrasher
on Jun 3, 2012 -
18 answers
I'm a woman who identifies as queer and is out about it. Until now has mostly dated and had sex with men. I have always been more attracted to women though, and do not want to date guys any more as I just do not have the same romantic feelings and it turns out badly for everyone involved. But I am scared no woman will ever want to date me because of my lack of history dating women and my lack of confidence in talking to them. Apologies for the length.
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posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse
on Jun 2, 2012 -
16 answers
If my boyfriend says he's coming home late by txt, and I want to know more basic information, like who he's hanging out with, maybe also where, how can I communicate my need to know (for my own peace of mind) without coming off as insecure or controlling?
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posted by Sa Dec
on Jan 27, 2012 -
86 answers
Help me deal with this particular procrastination/brain paralysis problem around doing difficult schoolwork.
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posted by hought20
on Jan 25, 2012 -
10 answers
A kind of inane dating question about whether I got blatantly blown off by a guy or whether I'm completely overreacting.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 5, 2011 -
43 answers
I would like some help in dealing with my insecurities. How can I ask it from my loved ones without coming across as selfish or annoying?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 6, 2011 -
21 answers
My partner is very liberal and effusive with compliments. I am generally much more reticent. When I realize that he has said the same things to others that he has to me, I can't help but feel like those compliments are now devalued, and that his esteem of me can't possibly be as high as he says it is.
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posted by Be cool, sodapop
on Feb 26, 2011 -
15 answers
What are some things you like to tell or remind yourself about when you have "woe is me" moments to steer yourself out of self-pity/moments of weakness and back into awesomeness?
posted by Christ, what an asshole
on Feb 16, 2011 -
55 answers
I want to salvage my relationship but am not really sure of the nuts and bolts of rebuilding trust and commitment. If we want to be able to say we gave it our best shot, what does that look like in practical terms?
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posted by Pomo
on Dec 30, 2010 -
14 answers
It's not that I think that everyone is better than I am, it's that I think everyone thinks that they are better (smarter, more attractive, more accomplished) than I am. What is this?
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posted by DeltaForce
on Sep 14, 2010 -
13 answers
How do I become more confident in my intelligence and not worry that people around me will think I'm dumb?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 10, 2010 -
26 answers
Seeing a guy who's a little socially awkward. He hasn't initiated any physical affection, and tonight he revealed that he said something disparaging about me to a mutual friend. How to proceed?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 8, 2010 -
37 answers
I'm an accomplished 20-something female who can't seem to get over my average looks. Have searched the archives and spent some time in therapy, but not finding the answers I'm looking for.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 15, 2010 -
61 answers
Help me find this article: It's written buy a guy who used to work at nightclubs & it's an "inside look" at how nightclubs are designed to make men feel inferior & insecure so that they get expensive VIP table service. My google-fu has failed me and I don't remember where I saw the article.
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posted by MesoFilter
on Jul 3, 2010 -
4 answers
A few months ago I started getting press and now I'm what you'd call perhaps a "public figure," though a minor one. The problem is that I "read the internet" and come across comments about me being ugly, unattractive, etc. I'm letting them get to me...
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2010 -
60 answers
i grew up in a home where asking an innocent question such as, "why" resulted in verbal or physical abuse ("why are you so stupid", "don't ask why", and if I did, a hand or a fist would come at me). no surprise that i've also come to realize that I am SO much more insecure than I thought I was. now that I look back, I see that i've never asked the right questions at work, with doctors, or anything like that. My brain would shut down and I would just nod and agree to what I was being told only to think about what happened much later and realize that I should have asked this or that or responded in a certain way. My thought/response patterns have been pretty consistent throughout my life (sad, I know, as I'm nearing 40) and I desperately want to work on communicating better. I struggle to figure out how to say things "nicely" or in a way that's effective as opposed to what often times is more harsh/rude/ineffective.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2010 -
15 answers
Am I experiencing "bully feelings"? I feel like slapping my coworker for being so insecure.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2010 -
22 answers
Why would a woman be jealous of the attention her girlfriends receive from their significant others?
There is an answer, but the issue has formed a pattern in my life that I fear is getting out of control!
I would appreciate anyone who could take the time to help me out by reading more...:)
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posted by dentro
on Nov 30, 2009 -
18 answers
After divorce, how can I learn to be a confident, whole individual without being in a relationship? I'm struggling with insecurity, I feel like there is a part of me missing, and I've gotten myself so worked up about it that I'm in a state of "analysis paralysis." Please help me break through that paralysis!
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posted by MultiFaceted
on Oct 17, 2009 -
23 answers
Plodding through school and working: am screwing myself over or doing it right? Long and sordid within.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 12, 2009 -
3 answers
I think I'm ready to transition from being a person who primarily wants to be liked to a person who primarily wants to be
respected.
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posted by kitcat
on Sep 17, 2009 -
13 answers
What should a less-than-skinny woman know about vacationing in a beach area? How can I deal with my self-consciousness?
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posted by anonymous
on May 4, 2009 -
60 answers
