I have an excellent relationship with my husband. So why am I in love with his best friend? And what, if anything, should I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2009 - 30 answers

I've discovered recently that my boyfriend is a compulsive/pathological liar, and maybe even a sociopath. Please help me evaluate how much of a nutjob he truly is, devise a breakup that will get him out of my life soon and forever, and figure out my obligations, if any, to inform others of his real character. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2009 - 72 answers

How do I re-start/maintain a relationship with my father while my mother is cheating on him and he doesn't know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2009 - 14 answers

My husband is cheating on me. I am paralyzed with fear. I need advice for our unique and complicated situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2009 - 49 answers

How do you extricate yourself from a family-oriented friendship? Very long and pathetic story to follow. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2009 - 28 answers

Best practices for proposing/having an affair? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2009 - 66 answers

My husband of 17 years had an affair and left me for someone else. Three years later, I’m still feeling bitter and vengeful. Please help me cope. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2009 - 38 answers

I love my husband. But we can't really have sex, and that's not going to change. I'm thinking of looking elsewhere for it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2009 - 74 answers

My wife had cybersex with someone else. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2009 - 45 answers

Should I try to date him or is it already too messy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2009 - 25 answers

I found out that my dad cheated on my mom, and that my parents are dealing with his infidelity. They don't know I know. I don't want to tell them. In fact, I'd love to forget it. But I can't stop thinking about it and am having trouble sleeping. I need some tools to deal. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2008 - 40 answers

How do continuing relationships with opposite sex friends (and some former lovers) affect one's primary relationship? Can these relationships negatively impact the SO relationship even though there is no desire on either SO's part to cheat? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2008 - 24 answers

So I saw a best friend's leg adorned by another best friend's fiance's hand. This is not the first time I have witnessed this, but it is the first I have independent verification. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2008 - 24 answers

Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2007 - 23 answers

For the first time in the 3 years I've been with my fiancé, I'm irresistably attracted to someone else. Of course, I have to work with the object of my lust. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2007 - 39 answers

Should I be worried about my boyfriend and his smokin' hot new female roommate? Who has a tendency to sleep with her roommates regardless of their relationship status? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 20, 2007 - 89 answers

Is my fiancée cheating on me, or is this simply a case of a wrong number at the wrong time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2007 - 131 answers

A friend I've had for many years cheated on his wife while visiting my house 1000 miles from his home. She has always been very kind to me and I regard her as a dear friend. They have a less than one year old baby. She called me and wants to know what these odd cell phone calls on his phone were during his visit. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2007 - 75 answers

A married friend hit on me. Why can't I stop thinking about him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2006 - 12 answers

Distilled: I want to know how to legally gather information on somebody. Expounded: Many moons ago, my parents had a serious row with infidelity when my stepfather admitted to a long-term affair. After much counseling, they were able to save their 15 year marriage, and in time seemed closer and happier than ever before. It was the sort of story that gave people some hope for humanity and renewed faith in the ability of people to make good. Now -- 8 years later -- the specter rears its head again... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2005 - 16 answers

How do I get over the guilt of having been (very) unfaithful to my loving wife, when she doesn't have any idea it happened? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2005 - 55 answers

My relationship is wonderful. It's been a couple of years and we have big plans, a definitely long term view, get along perfectly, still have passion, all that... So why did I kiss a friend while really, really drunk the other night? And what should I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2005 - 55 answers

Can I seek companionship outside my marriage and still respect myself in the morning? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2005 - 31 answers

DivorceFilter: I've revealed some past infidelity (going on for at least five years with a number of men) to my husband and, being an engineer, he's googling the situation to try and find people that have gone through the same thing and kept their marriage together. He's looking for statistics/probability of marriage survival. He's only found people that have split up and are now bitching about their exs on boards. We're in couples therapy, I'm in individual therapy, he's getting some treatment but both of us have this "is it best to cut our losses?" feeling. There is a small child, a cute dog and an expensive house in the mix, besides a marriage now in its tenth year. Anyone have any ray of hope? Or, if not, advice on being friends and keeping this from damaging the elementary school-aged child?
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2005 - 55 answers

If you were cheated on and broken up with, would you want to know that you were cheated on or would ignorance be bliss?
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2004 - 37 answers

Dear Ask Mefi: How can two people who love each other get back together after a tragic breakup? She and I lived together for many years. The relationship ended because she cheated on me. Otherwise, she was the love of my life. Now, years later, I have discovered through mutual friends that she refers to it as one of the biggest mistakes of her life but doesn't even forgive herself. I might be able to forgive under the right circumstances and if she is sincere. But, I don't want to initiate contact because I still feel hurt. She won't initiate contact because she doesn't feel she deserves a second chance. Is there anyplace to go from here? Advice, experiences welcome...
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2004 - 25 answers