I'm in a situation at work where I am picking up signals from a colleague that he is interested in me. I have come to return his interest. But I am single and as far as I can tell, he is not. So I wonder how to interpret his behavior: is he doing it unwittingly? Unintentionally? If intentionally, why? [more inside]
A relationship with a friend has spiraled out of control. I have to bring it to an end, and I'm not sure how to go about it. I need advice. Details inside. [more inside]
What literary novels or films could you recommend that can help a male to feel a bit of what it might be like for a wife to be cheated on by her husband? Something where the reader or audience really empathise with the wife/girlfriend, and feel some of her emotions? Thank you.
This is one I haven't been able to find an analogue for here or anywhere else. I fell head over heels for a woman 18 months ago. We both were over the moon almost immediately, incessant texting and late night calls, saw each other whenever practical (we are both divorced parents), we made the relationship exclusive within a few weeks, and in general became deeply enmeshed in each others lives it what appeared to be the healthiest happiest relationship of both our lives. But something didn't feel quite right...long winded details inside.... [more inside]
Should I get back together with a cheater? [more inside]
Why do men with wives/girlfriends aggressively hit on me? [more inside]
I'm seeking books and other resources on getting over being cheated on. I'm tired of being hurt by it. [more inside]
Met a guy, been dating him, it turns out (I think) he has a hidden life of promiscuity. Help me figure out what to do next. [more inside]
A rather classic tale of infidelity and I don’t know what to do. As concisely as possible – went out with some colleagues for drinks and fairly early everyone disappeared apart from me and a girl who started in our office about a year ago. She is a bit younger than me, but we work relatively closely (same floor, a lot of crossover with our client work). I've liked this girl since she started. She is awesome pretty and on occasions over the last year I've not been able to get her out of my head – for weeks.
We kept on and I suggested we carry on and go to another bar. It was just the two of us and I maybe shouldn't have done that, but that’s what we did and we ended up kissing. [more inside]
I love my boyfriend dearly and we have had a very strong exclusive relationship for over a year now. However, we started as an affair while he was married. I am still struggling with the guilt I have over this. Are there any resources out there for helping people deal with the aftermath of the affair when the couple is now the husband and the mistress and not the husband and wife? [more inside]
I'm unsure if and how to forgive my father for having an affair.
I feel that being unable to get past this, is affecting me as a person and has complicated my relationship with my mother. I'd really like to hear from others who may have come to crossroads with forgiving a loved one, especially anyone who's dealt with a parent's infidelity. [more inside]
A friend's ex-husband confessed a number of sins to me. Should I tell her? Drama below. [more inside]
Damaged by a previous infidelity, I find it hard not to read every ordinary, innocent thing as a Sign. It's hurting an otherwise loving relationship with a wonderful woman, and I hate being this way and feel I am committing my own kind of betrayal. Looking for advice on strategies to stop, deflect, lessen. [more inside]
Should I seriously be considering a divorce now, or give it more time? And if I do want to initiate a split--how do I do it, since this will totally blindside him? What else should I do to prepare if it comes to that? [more inside]
How do I move on after infidelity? I recently discovered that my BF has been cheating on me. Need advice on how to proceed, mentally/emotionally - snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
Hi AskMefi folks.
I am in need of resources and reading materials for a relationship crisis - things I (we?) can read, things I (we?) can consider, worksheets I can use to help guide conversations with my partner. [more inside]
This was me
. Short version: was in a 6 year relationship with about a year of long distance, partner dumped me for someone else out of the blue. A month later he broke up with her and has since been really working hard for us to get back together. I can't imagine trusting him enough to get back into a relationship, but I love him and he's my best friend so we're doing this weird friends-who-miss-one-another and love-one-another thing that I know will eventually end badly. What should I do? [more inside]
I have had some tough times with my partner of just over two years and we were on the way to solving them. But something new has come up and I am trying to get some perspective on whether it is reasonable for me to carry things on or if I'm in denial and need to end it. [more inside]
Please tell me stories about cheating or being cheated on. Or, pretend to be a sociopath for a few minutes, and give advice on how to successfully cheat and get away with it. [more inside]
I'm an adult who doesn't live with my parents. I've been suspecting something shady going on for the past 6 months and it's taking a toll on my stress levels. How do I deal with this situation? [more inside]
I’m Male in my late 20s; I need help figuring out what to do about my relationship, I’ve tried breaking up a few times, but every time I get to it something in my head stops me... What can I do? [more inside]
I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this?
(I've tried to anonymise this as best I can) [more inside]
I just found out. Should I confront him? [more inside]
You decided to leave your marriage, which has had good times but also so many bad ones. You finally came to the point where you realised you had to get out; how did you go from realising it to actually doing it, despite the inertia of being with someone whom you still loved (just not enough to overcome all the negatives in the marriage any more)? [more inside]
How do I get a handle on what I've uncovered in therapy outside the therapist's office whilst my therapist is unavailable for a few weeks? [more inside]
How should my husband and I celebrate our 10th anniversary given some recent marriage difficulties? I am looking for ideas that honor our years together but aren't traditional romantic gestures, which might feel a bit hollow or forced right now. [more inside]
Searching for stories about infidelity. Specifically, stories about emotionally-involved affairs (not one night stands) where one party in the affair is married or in a long-term relationship and the other is single. Can you help? [more inside]
How can I work on my own trust issues without continuing to pester my SO? [more inside]
I am dating a guy because I am a dumbshit.
Now I have met a wonderful girl. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
I think my Dad's screwing around on my Mom. What do I do? [more inside]
How do I deal with my reaction to a friend confessing she has cheated on her fiancée? [more inside]
What do I do with a husband who has been getting handjobs @ massage parlors...help! [more inside]
Kissed a man who is not my man. What now? [more inside]
We were in a wonderful relationship for 1.5 years. He went abroad. Sick with loneliness and old emotional problems (BPD) that came back when he was gone, I cheated on him.
Then I moved abroad with him, where he found out. He forgave me and wants us to stay together, I'm not sure what the fairest thing to do is. [more inside]
I'm still dealing with the aftermath of infidelity and would like some advice. [more inside]
Can this friendship be saved? My friend told me about sleeping with a guy in a relationship and I can't stop feeling sick about it. [more inside]
I just found a text from another woman on my husbands phone. Not sure what to do. [more inside]
Was my friend trying to cheat on his wife? [more inside]
Girlfriend of 3 years got blackout drunk slept with a random acquaintance while on a business trip. I need tips, methods and advice to find clarity so I can make a good decision, rather than one of impulse.
I'll do my best to keep this brief, but, well, these things have details: [more inside]
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below) [more inside]
How much to tell a potential new love about past infidelity [more inside]
My seven+ year relationship (living together but not married) ended several months ago after my partner was unfaithful. He is still with the other person; I am single and picking up the pieces. I'm not interested in forgiving him, I just want to move on. What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
Should I forgive infidelity because we were long distance?? [more inside]
TL; DR: I think my marriage is at an end, and I need some coping strategies. May be the victim of visa fraud. No money for an attorney or another place to live. Help? Suck it up? [more inside]
I've been cheating on my girlfriend and she found out. Now what? [more inside]
How does an adult child deal with the divorce of their parents? [more inside]
Had a very brief but very intense extramarital affair after nearly ten years of marriage. Ended it this weekend and I feel absolutely miserable. How do I get over this? Bonus drama: the guy works at the same place as me so I will end up seeing him. [more inside]
Can this marriage be saved? Infidelity, drug and alcohol abuse, low libido, and ADD... but are those reason enough to leave? [more inside]
Weinergate wonderings: Can a politician have an open relationship? [more inside]
Seven months ago I cheated on my partner. Six months ago I came clean to him. Three months ago we broke up. This past week we have begun to spend some time together, and I feel like we both reached a breakthrough last night. Am I crazy to have this renewed faith in/willingness to work for our love? Do I need to finally let it go? Much more inside. [more inside]