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What should the future with my ex look like?

My husband cheated on me and left me after nearly two decades of a wonderful, loving, respectful marriage. The betrayal came out of nowhere, and involved emotional and on occasion physical abuse. I can't just go no contact, because we've got a daughter, we're financially entangled, and we will be for years. I am having trouble forging a new, post-marriage relationship with him because I'm deeply hurt, raw, angry, sad, and disoriented. I also can't picture what that relationship even looks like. And he has asked to spend all day on Christmas here at the house ... I don't know if I can handle it. [more inside]
posted by Capri on Dec 21, 2014 - 64 answers

Do I tell or do I let it go?

My soon-to-be ex-wife is having a long-term affair with a married man. Should I tell his wife about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2014 - 43 answers

Don't know what to believe any more about my BF and incriminating emails

I am going through a major dilemma right now. I am not sure if I can continue with my relationship with my boyfriend, due to a very incriminating set of emails I saw in his inbox. My question is, do you think this is something to break up over? Or can I believe his story and give him the benefit of the doubt? See more details inside. [more inside]
posted by koolaidnovel on Dec 12, 2014 - 49 answers

How do you deal with monogamy?

I find it very hard to cope with extramarital attractions that are cropping up several years into my marriage. What gives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2014 - 25 answers

How to make sense of this body language?

I'm in a situation at work where I am picking up signals from a colleague that he is interested in me. I have come to return his interest. But I am single and as far as I can tell, he is not. So I wonder how to interpret his behavior: is he doing it unwittingly? Unintentionally? If intentionally, why? [more inside]
posted by macinchik on Sep 7, 2014 - 28 answers

I need help bringing a messy, inappropriate friendship to a close

A relationship with a friend has spiraled out of control. I have to bring it to an end, and I'm not sure how to go about it. I need advice. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2014 - 46 answers

Fiction about Cheating Husbands?

What literary novels or films could you recommend that can help a male to feel a bit of what it might be like for a wife to be cheated on by her husband? Something where the reader or audience really empathise with the wife/girlfriend, and feel some of her emotions? Thank you.
posted by surenoproblem on Jul 24, 2014 - 14 answers

Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

This is one I haven't been able to find an analogue for here or anywhere else. I fell head over heels for a woman 18 months ago. We both were over the moon almost immediately, incessant texting and late night calls, saw each other whenever practical (we are both divorced parents), we made the relationship exclusive within a few weeks, and in general became deeply enmeshed in each others lives it what appeared to be the healthiest happiest relationship of both our lives. But something didn't feel quite right...long winded details inside.... [more inside]
posted by cellardoor on May 23, 2014 - 53 answers

19 = bad life decisions

Should I get back together with a cheater? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 10, 2014 - 27 answers

Why men gotta be like that!

Why do men with wives/girlfriends aggressively hit on me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2014 - 35 answers

Books & Resources on Letting Go

I'm seeking books and other resources on getting over being cheated on. I'm tired of being hurt by it. [more inside]
posted by mibo on Apr 7, 2014 - 8 answers

Help me not be Silda Spitzer

Met a guy, been dating him, it turns out (I think) he has a hidden life of promiscuity. Help me figure out what to do next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 12, 2014 - 27 answers

I kissed a girl at work – and I want to do that again...

A rather classic tale of infidelity and I don’t know what to do. As concisely as possible – went out with some colleagues for drinks and fairly early everyone disappeared apart from me and a girl who started in our office about a year ago. She is a bit younger than me, but we work relatively closely (same floor, a lot of crossover with our client work). I've liked this girl since she started. She is awesome pretty and on occasions over the last year I've not been able to get her out of my head – for weeks. We kept on and I suggested we carry on and go to another bar. It was just the two of us and I maybe shouldn't have done that, but that’s what we did and we ended up kissing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2014 - 86 answers

Trying to live happily ever after, after an affair. But with a twist.

I love my boyfriend dearly and we have had a very strong exclusive relationship for over a year now. However, we started as an affair while he was married. I am still struggling with the guilt I have over this. Are there any resources out there for helping people deal with the aftermath of the affair when the couple is now the husband and the mistress and not the husband and wife? [more inside]
posted by Argyle Sock Puppet on Jan 9, 2014 - 45 answers

Forgiving a parent's infidelity

I'm unsure if and how to forgive my father for having an affair. I feel that being unable to get past this, is affecting me as a person and has complicated my relationship with my mother. I'd really like to hear from others who may have come to crossroads with forgiving a loved one, especially anyone who's dealt with a parent's infidelity. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 26, 2013 - 31 answers

Should I tell her?

A friend's ex-husband confessed a number of sins to me. Should I tell her? Drama below. [more inside]
posted by Josephine Macaulay on Oct 31, 2013 - 58 answers

How do I stop being so paranoid in my relationship?

Damaged by a previous infidelity, I find it hard not to read every ordinary, innocent thing as a Sign. It's hurting an otherwise loving relationship with a wonderful woman, and I hate being this way and feel I am committing my own kind of betrayal. Looking for advice on strategies to stop, deflect, lessen. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2013 - 32 answers

Need advice: Is it time for a divorce, or do I ride this out?

Should I seriously be considering a divorce now, or give it more time? And if I do want to initiate a split--how do I do it, since this will totally blindside him? What else should I do to prepare if it comes to that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 4, 2013 - 27 answers

Cheating: Clueless girlfriend edition

How do I move on after infidelity? I recently discovered that my BF has been cheating on me. Need advice on how to proceed, mentally/emotionally - snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
posted by tillei on Aug 24, 2013 - 18 answers

In need of resources to help get through a relationship crisis.

Hi AskMefi folks. I am in need of resources and reading materials for a relationship crisis - things I (we?) can read, things I (we?) can consider, worksheets I can use to help guide conversations with my partner. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2013 - 4 answers

A breakup means you break things off...

This was me. Short version: was in a 6 year relationship with about a year of long distance, partner dumped me for someone else out of the blue. A month later he broke up with her and has since been really working hard for us to get back together. I can't imagine trusting him enough to get back into a relationship, but I love him and he's my best friend so we're doing this weird friends-who-miss-one-another and love-one-another thing that I know will eventually end badly. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2013 - 25 answers

Once an attempted cheater....

I have had some tough times with my partner of just over two years and we were on the way to solving them. But something new has come up and I am trying to get some perspective on whether it is reasonable for me to carry things on or if I'm in denial and need to end it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2013 - 35 answers

Could you tell me how to succeed in being unfaithful?

Please tell me stories about cheating or being cheated on. Or, pretend to be a sociopath for a few minutes, and give advice on how to successfully cheat and get away with it. [more inside]
posted by Bathtub Bobsled on Apr 7, 2013 - 55 answers

I think my father is cheating on my mother. How do I deal?

I'm an adult who doesn't live with my parents. I've been suspecting something shady going on for the past 6 months and it's taking a toll on my stress levels. How do I deal with this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2013 - 32 answers

Fatal Attraction, how to break free?

I’m Male in my late 20s; I need help figuring out what to do about my relationship, I’ve tried breaking up a few times, but every time I get to it something in my head stops me... What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2013 - 27 answers

Is it still your business even though I left?

I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this? (I've tried to anonymise this as best I can) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2013 - 45 answers

My husband is cheating on me. Now what?

I just found out. Should I confront him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2013 - 49 answers

Stuck on the cusp; how to step over?

You decided to leave your marriage, which has had good times but also so many bad ones. You finally came to the point where you realised you had to get out; how did you go from realising it to actually doing it, despite the inertia of being with someone whom you still loved (just not enough to overcome all the negatives in the marriage any more)? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Nov 5, 2012 - 33 answers

Desperately seeking stability

How do I get a handle on what I've uncovered in therapy outside the therapist's office whilst my therapist is unavailable for a few weeks? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Sep 22, 2012 - 19 answers

Ideas for 10th wedding anniversary in midst of marital stress?

How should my husband and I celebrate our 10th anniversary given some recent marriage difficulties? I am looking for ideas that honor our years together but aren't traditional romantic gestures, which might feel a bit hollow or forced right now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2012 - 18 answers

Stories about affairs?

Searching for stories about infidelity. Specifically, stories about emotionally-involved affairs (not one night stands) where one party in the affair is married or in a long-term relationship and the other is single. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by houndsoflove on Sep 15, 2012 - 22 answers

How can I work on my own trust issues without continuing to pester my SO?

How can I work on my own trust issues without continuing to pester my SO? [more inside]
posted by Pomo on Sep 10, 2012 - 19 answers

Woman or Man? Guess or Known quantity?

I am dating a guy because I am a dumbshit. Now I have met a wonderful girl. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse on Aug 21, 2012 - 32 answers

Suspicious minds

I think my Dad's screwing around on my Mom. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2012 - 67 answers

Am I being too judgy?

How do I deal with my reaction to a friend confessing she has cheated on her fiancée? [more inside]
posted by travellingincognito on Jul 8, 2012 - 34 answers

Are massage parlors cheating?

What do I do with a husband who has been getting handjobs @ massage parlors...help! [more inside]
posted by momtothreedc on Jun 13, 2012 - 64 answers

Kissed, haven't told yet.

Kissed a man who is not my man. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2012 - 61 answers

Is is selfish to break up with him or selfish to stay with him?

We were in a wonderful relationship for 1.5 years. He went abroad. Sick with loneliness and old emotional problems (BPD) that came back when he was gone, I cheated on him. Then I moved abroad with him, where he found out. He forgave me and wants us to stay together, I'm not sure what the fairest thing to do is. [more inside]
posted by mangoprawn on Apr 26, 2012 - 33 answers

How can I stop being overly emotional and just learn to trust again?

I'm still dealing with the aftermath of infidelity and would like some advice. [more inside]
posted by zinful on Apr 18, 2012 - 45 answers

Can this friendship be saved?

Can this friendship be saved? My friend told me about sleeping with a guy in a relationship and I can't stop feeling sick about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2012 - 48 answers

Husband getting texts from another woman

I just found a text from another woman on my husbands phone. Not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by my_thai on Mar 20, 2012 - 63 answers

Tempted by the fruit of another?

Was my friend trying to cheat on his wife? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2012 - 62 answers

My GF cheated on me. How do I get to a point of clarity so I can make a decision?

Girlfriend of 3 years got blackout drunk slept with a random acquaintance while on a business trip. I need tips, methods and advice to find clarity so I can make a good decision, rather than one of impulse. I'll do my best to keep this brief, but, well, these things have details: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2012 - 107 answers

How to confirm whether boyfriend is cheating without creating a shipload of unnecessary melodrama?

I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, or at least looking for opportunities to do so. The problem is, if I can't trust him not to cheat, then I also can't trust him to tell the truth if I confront him. So how do I deal with this? (details below) [more inside]
posted by myShanon on Dec 10, 2011 - 48 answers

If you're going through hell, keep going

How much to tell a potential new love about past infidelity [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2011 - 20 answers

How do I move on (alone) after infidelity?

My seven+ year relationship (living together but not married) ended several months ago after my partner was unfaithful. He is still with the other person; I am single and picking up the pieces. I'm not interested in forgiving him, I just want to move on. What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by kim in chicago on Oct 4, 2011 - 28 answers

More past indiscretions have come to light - should I be bothered, or let it go because we've worked on moving past that?

Should I forgive infidelity because we were long distance?? [more inside]
posted by yummywaffles on Sep 27, 2011 - 26 answers

Bird in a gilded cage, with a cuttlefish of infidelity and a newspaper floor of possible visa fraud

TL; DR: I think my marriage is at an end, and I need some coping strategies. May be the victim of visa fraud. No money for an attorney or another place to live. Help? Suck it up? [more inside]
posted by book 'em, danno on Sep 7, 2011 - 39 answers

I've been cheating on my girlfriend and she found out. Now what?

I've been cheating on my girlfriend and she found out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 22 answers

Ugly Divorce

How does an adult child deal with the divorce of their parents? [more inside]
posted by xopaigexo on Aug 11, 2011 - 16 answers

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