Help identify memoirs or other writings which have dialogue in which one spouse informs another of their infidelity or in which the injured spouse reacts to the others infidelity. [more inside]
posted on Mar 12, 2008 - 12 answers

So I saw a best friend's leg adorned by another best friend's fiance's hand. This is not the first time I have witnessed this, but it is the first I have independent verification. [more inside]
posted on Jan 25, 2008 - 24 answers

Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!) [more inside]
posted on Dec 25, 2007 - 23 answers

Once a cheater always a cheater? [more inside]
posted on Dec 17, 2007 - 55 answers

For the first time in the 3 years I've been with my fiancé, I'm irresistably attracted to someone else. Of course, I have to work with the object of my lust. [more inside]
posted on Nov 21, 2007 - 39 answers

Should I be worried about my boyfriend and his smokin' hot new female roommate? Who has a tendency to sleep with her roommates regardless of their relationship status? [more inside]
posted on Nov 20, 2007 - 89 answers

Is my fiancée cheating on me, or is this simply a case of a wrong number at the wrong time? [more inside]
posted on Sep 29, 2007 - 131 answers

A friend I've had for many years cheated on his wife while visiting my house 1000 miles from his home. She has always been very kind to me and I regard her as a dear friend. They have a less than one year old baby. She called me and wants to know what these odd cell phone calls on his phone were during his visit. What should I do? [more inside]
posted on Jan 8, 2007 - 75 answers

Question about infidelity? My spouse recently disclosed an emotional affair with a coworker that has been escalating for the last few months. There hasn't been any sexual contact so far but there is a fear that it's not far off. She wants to end the affair and has told the lover many times to back off. He basically ignores her and continues to persue, recently telling her he loved her etc. She is afraid of repercussions if she were to file a sexual harassment claim, and she also says she doesn't want to destroy his career. Unforuntately we can't afford for her to leave her job (government employee) and she can't avoid seeing him at least for a couple hours each week. There involvement is becoming workplace knowledge so I am expecting it to get easier for her to claim harassment. It's my understanding that once she told him to back off he is legally in violation if he continues to pursue. My question is can I sue him for trying to break up my marriage and my family, if so what grounds?
posted on Dec 24, 2006 - 50 answers

How do you honestly regain trust in your partner? [more inside]
posted on Sep 5, 2006 - 28 answers

A married friend hit on me. Why can't I stop thinking about him? [more inside]
posted on Aug 25, 2006 - 12 answers

My girlfriend cheated. We're separated now. What do I do with this anger? [more inside]
posted on Feb 3, 2006 - 43 answers

Distilled: I want to know how to legally gather information on somebody. Expounded: Many moons ago, my parents had a serious row with infidelity when my stepfather admitted to a long-term affair. After much counseling, they were able to save their 15 year marriage, and in time seemed closer and happier than ever before. It was the sort of story that gave people some hope for humanity and renewed faith in the ability of people to make good. Now -- 8 years later -- the specter rears its head again... [more inside]
posted on Dec 25, 2005 - 16 answers

I have no problems falling in love - it's falling out I need some help with. [more inside]
posted on Dec 13, 2005 - 29 answers

How do I get over the guilt of having been (very) unfaithful to my loving wife, when she doesn't have any idea it happened? [more inside]
posted on Aug 26, 2005 - 55 answers

My relationship is wonderful. It's been a couple of years and we have big plans, a definitely long term view, get along perfectly, still have passion, all that... So why did I kiss a friend while really, really drunk the other night? And what should I do about it? [more inside]
posted on May 22, 2005 - 55 answers

Can I seek companionship outside my marriage and still respect myself in the morning? [more inside]
posted on May 6, 2005 - 31 answers

DivorceFilter: I've revealed some past infidelity (going on for at least five years with a number of men) to my husband and, being an engineer, he's googling the situation to try and find people that have gone through the same thing and kept their marriage together. He's looking for statistics/probability of marriage survival. He's only found people that have split up and are now bitching about their exs on boards. We're in couples therapy, I'm in individual therapy, he's getting some treatment but both of us have this "is it best to cut our losses?" feeling. There is a small child, a cute dog and an expensive house in the mix, besides a marriage now in its tenth year. Anyone have any ray of hope? Or, if not, advice on being friends and keeping this from damaging the elementary school-aged child?
posted on Feb 8, 2005 - 55 answers

If you were cheated on and broken up with, would you want to know that you were cheated on or would ignorance be bliss?
posted on Dec 28, 2004 - 37 answers

Dear Ask Mefi: How can two people who love each other get back together after a tragic breakup? She and I lived together for many years. The relationship ended because she cheated on me. Otherwise, she was the love of my life. Now, years later, I have discovered through mutual friends that she refers to it as one of the biggest mistakes of her life but doesn't even forgive herself. I might be able to forgive under the right circumstances and if she is sincere. But, I don't want to initiate contact because I still feel hurt. She won't initiate contact because she doesn't feel she deserves a second chance. Is there anyplace to go from here? Advice, experiences welcome...
posted on Nov 5, 2004 - 25 answers

Can anyone point me to information about rates of marital infidelity in western nations? I'm particularly interested in the United States, but figures on other first world nations would provide interesting material for comparison.
posted on Feb 5, 2004 - 5 answers