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How can I manage my envy and feelings of inadequacy?

Last year, I attended a short artistic workshop that I found really valuable. This year, my girlfriend is attending a similar, but much longer and more prestigious workshop, and it's killing me. [more inside]
posted by Sock "Danger" Puppet on Jun 12, 2014 - 36 answers

How to combat mental shutdown triggered by feelings of inadequacy.

So this will usually be in a family setting. I live quite far away from most members of my family (brothers, cousins etc). I look forward to seeing them but when I do something happens. For the first few hours everything is great, I'm happy to see them. We're getting on great. Then slowly but surely I start to feel that my life is inadequate, and that I am inadequate. Witty responses become sarcastic putdowns and insults. I feel like I'm taking things the wrong way. My own capacity for conversation and fun becomes subdued and almost entirely non-existent. I overthink every word. I feel completely mentally drained. And I wish they would leave as soon as possible! I know I was happy before the visit or stay. I know I never felt inadequate with any of my friends or work colleagues. But I feel really bad that I feel this way and I feel even worse in the actual situation. [more inside]
posted by razzman on Apr 16, 2014 - 11 answers

Grad school self-comparison is the worst. Help me stop.

I'm in my second semester of a professional master's program at a top-10 program. I can keep up with the classwork, but I get really caught up in comparing myself to other people. It not only makes me feel horrible, it significantly takes away from me doing my work. I'm prone to depression and lots of social anxiety anyway (I do have a therapist, we haven't talked about the self-comparison as much), but am well-liked in my program. I'd say I'm about on par with other folks in my program in terms of accomplishments (some have much more, some do less), so my intense feelings of inadequacy are mostly unwarranted. However, when I hear people talking about doing things I'm not (eg working with professors more than me, getting fellowships), I feel absolutely terrible. What should I be doing or trying to do to knock it off? Mental hacks, philosophical approaches, practical tips all welcome, though I should say I understand intellectually that there will always be someone doing more than me and that's life.
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2014 - 10 answers

How to deal with feelings of inadequacy?

I'll be blunt: I think I married a man who is too good for me. I'm having trouble dealing with my feelings of low self-worth and am tormented by insecurity. It's like the relationship version of Imposter Syndrome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2013 - 27 answers

"Treat him mean to keep him keen"?

I'm a nice, friendly person, not a passive doormat, just... nice. But apparently I need to be a mean bitch. I thought "men love bitches" was just a cliche... [more inside]
posted by rose-selavy on Aug 15, 2012 - 34 answers

Please provide some anecdotal evidence that it can, as you claim, get better...

Help me find some inspiring examples of individuals who floundered and failed through their young adulthood, but ultimately obtained success and/or happiness (either by their own or society's definition). [more inside]
posted by lordcorvid on Jul 1, 2012 - 18 answers

How can I stop comparing myself to other people?

How can I stop comparing myself to other people? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels on Jul 1, 2012 - 27 answers

Why does the idea of sex make me so uneasy?

How to overcome feelings of sexual inadequacy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2010 - 15 answers

How to get over advanced-degree-phobia.

I want to shake my irrational fear of going back to school. It's for my own good! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2007 - 5 answers

House Anxiety

How can I stop caring so much about the appearance and status of my house and neighborhood? [more inside]
posted by LoriFLA on Jan 9, 2007 - 46 answers

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