My boyfriend and I haven't been together for a very long time, but it has already started to feel very serious and I see the potential for a longterm future together. We are both extremely close with our families and I know that family life and children are a huge priority for both of us. We're on the same page there. However... By extraordinary coincidence we both suffer from the same rare, semi-inheritable disease.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 10, 2013 -
25 answers
How do balance respecting a parent's age and experience and treating them well when they aren't acting their age? Sorry for the length. I am not sure how to make it shorter.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2013 -
19 answers
Depression has upended my life and the people trying to help aren't really helping, what do I do?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2013 -
19 answers
I am unemployed. My disorganization, lack of goals and mental illness (ADD first and foremost) is taking a toll on my job hunt, and life in general. Fellow ADD'ers, what do you do to cope/deal? Details inside.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 3, 2012 -
14 answers
What to do about a mentally unstable brother who's taking advantage of my elderly mother?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2012 -
8 answers
My friend is ill with a condition that might be psychosomatic. She doesn't believe or trust her doctors, and she is continually diagnosing herself with new illnesses. What's the best way I can be supportive?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2012 -
22 answers
Are there online forums/communities for support for medical professionals/students with serious mental health diagnoses?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2012 -
2 answers
I am looking to transplant to Los Angeles to take care of my mother who recently got very sick. I need to find an apartment for the two of us, but I have one constraint and one hope: 1) money problems are going to be a very big deal, so keeping rent cheap is a must, and it needs to be wheelchair-friendly. 2) I would like to be in some kind of artsy, young neighborhood, just so I can stay sane and keep this up for as long as possible. My mother is extremely abusive, and I would like to try to live an actual life as much as possible. I am still young, and a fun neighborhood would change the picture significantly.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 23, 2012 -
20 answers
[family support question] my partner's mom is sick. multiple autoimmune conditions, potentially cancer now. how can i best support my partner (on multiple levels)?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 27, 2012 -
6 answers
Is there anything illegal about being verbally abusive in a triggering way to someone with mental illness?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2012 -
14 answers
Relationship filter: New guy. His former flame. Her very bad medical condition. Wondering how to control my anxieties.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2012 -
17 answers
I used my health as an excuse for something being late. This was a mistake. The door has opened to a question about the status of my health from someone who is my superior, but *not* my manager. How can I deflect their question?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 23, 2012 -
11 answers
A new part of being in a relationship: sharing illnesses. Having some mental (as well as practical) difficulties with this. Special snowflake details below.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2011 -
29 answers
Is there such a thing as heat-induced diarrhea, is it a cause for alarm, and is there anything I can do to thwart it?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2011 -
12 answers
How to support and comfort a friend through the illness/loss of their pets? What helped you?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2011 -
19 answers
Pain you choose + pain you don't choose. Who is writing (either on the web or in print) about intersections of BDSM and chronic pain/illness?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 14, 2011 -
6 answers
My boyfriend just started chemo and I'm more than slightly terrified. How do I deal with my fear and support him?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 4, 2011 -
14 answers
My father has just suffered a minor stroke (a cerebrovascular accident) which caused him partial blindness on one eye. This is the first significant health related incident he ever had. His self-image was one of being a healthy person, so this event is causing him a lot of stress, in fact I believe he is in shock.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 19, 2010 -
8 answers
I thought I could get health insurance through my school. I can't. They don't offer it because they assume everyone has it through work or their parents. I can't afford COBRA. How do I shop for the best insurance for myself? What kind of insurance can I expect? How do I know which plans are useless?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2010 -
9 answers
My partner and I would like to raise a child. We both have hereditary illnesses in our families (diabetes, cancer, heart disease), and this is one reason we lean towards adoption. But it recently occurred to me (duh) adopted kids can have hereditary illnesses too. So is adoption really better odds in the disease gene pool?
Ignoring other factors for a moment, if our only consideration for deciding to adopt or not was the likelihood of our child having (or less significantly, carrying genes for) hereditary illnesses, how bad would our genes need to be before adoption is clearly the better option? Are there specific types of adoption (e.g. international vs. American) that greatly improve the odds?
posted by anonymous
on Sep 9, 2010 -
21 answers
Help me cope with multiple major life stressors in a situation where I can't seem to see many choices, at least in the short term.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2010 -
10 answers
How to cope with sexual desire in a long term relationship with a partner who is unable to participate due to chronic illness?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 4, 2010 -
23 answers
Parent with mental issues (in Maryland) at end of her rope... how do I help without enabling or having to provide long-term financial support?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 4, 2010 -
8 answers
My girlfriend has serious
bipolar disorder. I love her, but living with her is very, very difficult. She breaks down all the time. I don't know if I should commit to a life with her, and deal with this into perpetuity, or if I should move on and try to find someone better adjusted, leaving love for peace and stability.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2009 -
26 answers
How do you tell someone that they're "crazy"? I need to help a best friend who is losing his sanity. It's a long story...
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 15, 2009 -
22 answers
How should I go about handling my (very) mentally ill father who goes through (primarily) emotionally/psychologically abusive phases with anyone he holds a relationship with? Completely cutting off contact is
probably not a solution for a few reasons.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2009 -
23 answers
Is my perception of being increasingly freezing cold a sign of something wrong with me?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2009 -
17 answers
Not allergic to onions, but they make me feel sick. This is causing some problems that I'm not sure how to solve.
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2009 -
17 answers
How can I best support a staff member returning to work after a period off with depression?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 30, 2008 -
8 answers
Having kids or not when you have chronic health issues: how did you decide and come to terms with it?
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2008 -
12 answers
Still crazy after all these years filter - what can be done about my dad? (long post following)
[more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2007 -
14 answers
