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What to do about a nasty email sent to the wrong person?

My mentally ill mother likes to send me super mean emails every once in a while, which I don't usually reply to. I just discovered today that she has accidentally been sending emails to a random person with a similar email address to mine. I'm not sure what, if anything, I should do about it. [more inside]
posted by thelaze on May 20, 2015 - 26 answers

My mom is lonely and alone. Can I offer healthy support with boundaries?

I recently posted my current situation here. I'm still struggling with a longstanding issue: My mom's undiagnosed (notwithstanding a brief stint on anti-depressants 15 years ago following her divorce) possible depression. About once or twice a year I find myself with her while she sobs uncontrollably and talks about how lonely and alone she feels as she ages. These are all valid feelings and fears, but everytime I bring up seeing a counsellor to help her get her life back on track, giver her tools to cope, filter out the negative energy in her life (such as her codependent relationship with her 29 y/o son), she refuses to admit there is a problem. [more inside]
posted by stumblingthroughitall on Mar 31, 2015 - 12 answers

Let me know if there's anything I can do to help... no really!

What can I do to help my co-worker who's dealing with family illness? My co-worker's mom was diagnosed with brain and lung cancer several months ago and going through treatment with a poor prognosis, and then this week her dad had a seizure. My co-worker is now in the situation of having to be the sole care-taker (both physically and emotionally) of two very ill parents. I'd like to do something to help -- any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by purplevelvet on Feb 6, 2015 - 23 answers

Pre-marriage counseling is fine. But how committed is he?

It's been a few months after my fiance proposed and he made plans to move in with me and my 15-year-old son this summer. As predicted, my son began acting up, basically in the form of talking back and being a little rude to me in front of the fiance, who comes here every weekend. It's important to note my son does not act this way when it's the 2 of us and I completely understand what's going on and we're talking to someone. [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Apr 27, 2013 - 26 answers

Family Drama -- Aunt revisited

I wrote this question about my Aunt. As it turned out, I just wrote back a very polite reply -- "thank you for your good wishes" ...I was polite. I felt good about this. Thank you for all the helpful answers. My Aunt wrote me again -- long story inside. Thank you for taking the time to read it. [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Mar 26, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me sort out what I should say to my aunt -- family drama.

Background: When my father learned I was gay, he disowned me. Think radical old-world "you are dead to me." This was many years ago -- well over a decade. He was very serious and cut off all contact with me. Made it clear I was out of the will and all of that -- very dramatic. I did try to initiate contact a few times many years ago, but was rebuffed. This is not what my question is about though -- I am at peace with this. I know I am a worthwhile and lovable person and I have many people in my life who care about me/love me. I had therapy when all this happened and I really feel I dealt with the emotions then. I know I am lovable and valuable person. Also, my relatives on my late Mother's side -- who are also quite old-world -- surprised me with their acceptance... [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Feb 22, 2013 - 14 answers

She doesn't want help, but I want to help her.

How to convince someone who may be schizophrenic to seek help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 24, 2012 - 9 answers

What to expect, and how to deal?

My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in May this year. We've just been told she now has 6 months to live. Help me with what to expect. [more inside]
posted by sunshine arakhan on Dec 10, 2012 - 22 answers

How do I help my wife who is bed ridden with stomach flu?

My wife has stomach flu. What can I do for her? [more inside]
posted by alshain on Nov 18, 2012 - 32 answers

Family Ties

Relative robbed our grandma who has Alzheimer's... took $10,000 worth of gold belonging to me. Not the first time. What to do? [more inside]
posted by kettleoffish on Aug 15, 2012 - 21 answers

Cheap Quirky Neighborhood in Los Angeles

I am looking to transplant to Los Angeles to take care of my mother who recently got very sick. I need to find an apartment for the two of us, but I have one constraint and one hope: 1) money problems are going to be a very big deal, so keeping rent cheap is a must, and it needs to be wheelchair-friendly. 2) I would like to be in some kind of artsy, young neighborhood, just so I can stay sane and keep this up for as long as possible. My mother is extremely abusive, and I would like to try to live an actual life as much as possible. I am still young, and a fun neighborhood would change the picture significantly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 20 answers

Elderly grandparents and young children

How do I best manage a visit to my elderly/dying grandparents with my young children? [more inside]
posted by Lulu's Pink Converse on Jun 13, 2012 - 12 answers

Worried about my little sisters

I'm worried that my little sisters may be in an abusive situation, but don't know what's really going on or where I should go from here. [more inside]
posted by whalebreath on Apr 26, 2012 - 18 answers

How to support my partner in a time of fear?

[family support question] my partner's mom is sick. multiple autoimmune conditions, potentially cancer now. how can i best support my partner (on multiple levels)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 27, 2012 - 6 answers

Quit my job, no new one, bad circumstances

I just quit my (bad) job and have no new job to go to. I know I need to be proactively seeking work but I'm suffering from confidence problems and bad personal circumstances and finding it difficult. Any tips or similar stories? [more inside]
posted by Franny26 on Dec 8, 2010 - 14 answers

How can I figure out if my uncle is really sick?

My uncle has cancer...allegedly, and our family members are rallying together to help him. How can I give without feeling like a sucker? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Jul 19, 2010 - 11 answers

How to help a crazy person?

Parent with mental issues (in Maryland) at end of her rope... how do I help without enabling or having to provide long-term financial support? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2010 - 8 answers

What's a "mass" doing on my dad's brain?

What's a "mass" doing on my dad's brain? Does anyone have any idea how I start researching this or what I can expect to see from all this? [more inside]
posted by bash on Feb 23, 2008 - 12 answers

What can I do to help my mom in her new role as the full-time caretaker for my ailing step-dad?

What can I do to help my mom in her new role as the full-time caretaker for my ailing step-dad? [more inside]
posted by greta simone on Feb 17, 2008 - 11 answers

How to cheer up my BF?

How do I cheer up my SO? He just found out that his dad is in hospital following a hemmorhage. [more inside]
posted by barrakuda on Oct 6, 2006 - 10 answers

How to cope with a sick family member?

A family member of mine may be seriously ill and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I deal with everyday life in the meantime? [more inside]
posted by huskerdont on Aug 31, 2005 - 10 answers

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