One of my grandparents who I love dearly has had multiple lingering illness for the past few years. The nurse is soon recommending hospice care. It is so difficult to know that my grandparent has been suffering and largely bed-ridden for the past years. I live a few hours away and visit every few months. My husband is very supportive but I still feel sad about it often. I guess this isn't much of a question, but I am looking for ways to help process what is occurring. Thanks in advance.
I recently posted my current situation here. I'm still struggling with a longstanding issue: My mom's undiagnosed (notwithstanding a brief stint on anti-depressants 15 years ago following her divorce) possible depression. About once or twice a year I find myself with her while she sobs uncontrollably and talks about how lonely and alone she feels as she ages. These are all valid feelings and fears, but everytime I bring up seeing a counsellor to help her get her life back on track, giver her tools to cope, filter out the negative energy in her life (such as her codependent relationship with her 29 y/o son), she refuses to admit there is a problem. [more inside]
Can you set me straight about the urge I get to control my husband's eating and exercise habits? [more inside]
Hi, I struggle with chronic illness and disability and have one very part-time job that I split my time between attending in person and working from home. I need to bring in some more money, however, though I'm not expecting anything grand income wise. Ideally I'm looking for jobs that have enough work available that you can sign in or pick up an hour or two or three of work without the obligation of sticking to meeting a set schedule each week. It's hard because my illness is so unpredictable. Any ideas would be appreciated. [more inside]
My family had unusual ideas about health, illness and contagion, and now I have confused instincts about when to go to the doctor, and when to worry about giving someone my nasty cold. Do you know some resources or rules of thumb that might help? [more inside]
I understand women have been doing this for hundreds of thousands of years, but I'm "delicate". How to not lose my job while feeling this ill? [more inside]
I seem to have acute anxiety lately, which is causing a cognition deficit for me. My memory is quite poor and lax these days - I'm not certain if it is due to my vegan diet, or my ongoing intensive anxiety? Are there any tips on how to improve my memory and stabilize my anxiety? [more inside]
I recently started seeing someone that disclosed that he has a serious mental illness that needs a lot of medication to keep somewhat under control. I got freaked out and after giving it a few weeks of thought, broke it off. Did I over react? [more inside]
I was physically ill as a child, in the hospital more than school, and through young adult years as well. Mom was/is classic hypochondriac. As an adult for the last 20 years and in my early 40s, I have let it hurt my work record and advancement. [more inside]
I had a minor cold about a week ago that has turned into a sinus infection (I think). The cold was pretty bad for a couple days, but then I was completely fine for 4 days. I'm having some nasal congestion, and swollen lymph nodes, but the worst problem is that I am getting this nasty headache whenever I'm on my feet/trying to do anything. No tiredness, no fever, no aches or chills. I've been getting these awful headaches for 3 or 4 days. I'm off work until Tuesday, but I'm worried that this won't be resolved by then, and am looking for any ideas to stop/lessen these headaches. [more inside]
What can I do to help my co-worker who's dealing with family illness? My co-worker's mom was diagnosed with brain and lung cancer several months ago and going through treatment with a poor prognosis, and then this week her dad had a seizure. My co-worker is now in the situation of having to be the sole care-taker (both physically and emotionally) of two very ill parents. I'd like to do something to help -- any suggestions? [more inside]
I recently had pretty big health scare. I am recovering now, but I am still very freaked out about how close I just came to dying. [more inside]
I just finished reading The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer again and it was just as incredible if not more so the second time around. I'm wondering if there are other nonfiction books of similar quality and comprehensiveness for other topics - primarily looking for a diabetes book but also interested in any other comparable books. [more inside]
I have had a long, difficult year, and I'm starting to crack. All year, I was dealing with things pretty well and now I'm not, and I can't stop beating myself up over losing my grip. [more inside]
I thoroughly cleaned my water bottle just now and wiped black stuff from the sides of the inside. I assume it's mold, and I think it's probably been there for a while (days? weeks?) already. I drink at least 1 L of water from it daily. Will I suffer any effects? [more inside]
Whenever I get sick, I also get concurrently really sad. Something about the physical crapness and being alone all day really gets to me. Any suggestions for keeping your spirits up when you're feeling low both physically and mentally? What has worked for you? [more inside]
Is living overseas too risky for a person who has gone through a psychotic episode? Should I give up on the idea of going back to teaching overseas? [more inside]
It looks like I'll be discharged from my week-long stay in the hospital tomorrow. (Fingers crossed, knock on wood.) I've been treated for double pneumonia, chronic migraine, trigeminal neuralgia breakthrough pain, and severe constipation. This is the longest I've ever been hospitalized. I'm weak as a day old kitten. Still having pain from the migraine and TN. Still having difficulty pooping. Still short of breath. But they say I'm better enough to go home. Give me your best hacks, skills, and advice for transitioning home and having an easy recovery. [more inside]
I'll be accompanying my mother-in-law to her first chemo appointment tomorrow. What can I bring her to make the experience as comfortable as possible for her? [more inside]
An American friend became ill while in Norway last year while on vacation, and had to spend a day in hospital. The hospital now wants >$5,000, despite the bill supposedly being paid by insurance in January (the American insurance company is supposed to have covered it all except for a nominal copayment). They keep on sending him letters from Norway. What should he do? [more inside]
Last couple of years i notice that 2-4 hours after eating pork, (with the exception of cured pork like bacon) I feel sick: achy, stomach ache, vaguely feverish. My father admits he hasn't eaten pork in years but simply says; Just don't really like it i guess. But then he recalls that his father couldn't tolerate it. Made him sick. Poking around the internet I can't really find a reasonable explanation for this. Thoughts?
Solo Travellers - what practical tips do you have for handling the unpleasantness of getting sick while on holiday? [more inside]
I have been suffering from health problems with cumulated in a diagnosis of fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. Except most doctors I've seen don't think that's what I have, and frankly neither do I. As a long shot, I ordered a 23andme DNA test and ran it through Promethease. How can I use this data to further my quest for a proper diagnosis? Is that even possible? [more inside]
For the second time within two months I have come down with an odd illness. The only symptom is that I feel tired and weak, similar to the tail end of the flu. My body is clearly telling me I am sick, but there are no other symptoms. None or the fever, runny nose, aches, sore throat that I can expect to see when I "normally" get sick. [more inside]
They threw two gallons of saved up, putrid urine on the front of my house, getting half a gallon on my roof and some under the eaves. Police were called. I cleaned the best I could. The smell was nightmarish. This was in the spring. We are now into the fall and the smell returns when it rains. I've had three sinus infections since this happened, after not having a sinus infection for years. Could this be related? Is old urine soaked into my roof dangerous to my health?
I have a neighbor who is mentally ill and his condition is not improving. He leaves trash on our street and parks his car in front of my house with his trash inside. His house is unfit to live in and I don't know what we can do to help. I'm afraid to approach him 'cause it's progressed to him barking and talking to himself. We live in suburbia and I need resources that can help him.
I’m having troubles working out if I’m being unreasonable in the below scenario. [more inside]
I'm ill—down with a flu—stuffy head, terrible cold and sneezing, aches and pains. I know what I need most of all is rest but my brain just won't cooperate. I'm full of this crazy hyperactive energy and totally unable to rest. Any ideas?
Why do sriracha and harissa disagree with my digestive system, when many other spicy foods that also contain chiles and garlic do not? [more inside]
I am kind, youthful, energetic, bright, and capable and my resume is bare due to prolonged illness. I am working retail and I am bored, underpaid, and frustrated. Help me find my way. [more inside]
My husband was laid off from his job a few weeks ago. We have a toddler and live in Chicago. I've lived here forever, all of my family and friends are here, and I have a job I love here. So far, he hasn't come across any opportunities in this area, but we've seen some great looking job postings in smaller cities in flyover states. (Think Des Moines and Omaha.) Should he consider pursuing these opportunities, or should we stay where we are and struggle along? [more inside]
None Of You Is My Doctor, but before I spend money and time at Urgent Care, I'd like to ask those of you who have experienced this kind of thing if what I am going through right now is something you just have to wait out, or if I need to go see someone. (Warning: discussion of vomiting and other bodily functions inside.) [more inside]
I was always a very high achiever but in my late teens, I was diagnosed with a debilitating chronic illness. I spent most of my 20s severely limited. In my mid 30s now and still struggling with the feeling that life is unfair. [more inside]
I found a lump in my armpit and will be getting it checked out by a doctor. Unfortunately, I work in a contact-based job and my next contract is schedule to begin in August. My benefits, including health insurance, will be in place again at that time, but I'm uninsured during summer months. Is this the sort of thing that can wait until I have insurance again or do I need to go to the doctor right now? [more inside]
So I've noticed a convention that using someone's name--and only their name--as the subject line in the email message means that something pretty severe has happened to them. Like, if Jane Bloggs had a healthy baby, the subject line would be something like "Jane had a baby!", but if the subject line was just "Jane" or "Jane Bloggs" or "Aunt Jane" (assuming I'm Jane's nephew) then either Jane or her baby or both would be in the (N)ICU or more likely the morgue. I'm wondering where this started. Any help?
I am having some difficulties explaining/trying not to explain my spouse's chronic health condition in social and work situations. I need some stock answers I can give for various occasions. [more inside]
Note: I am the patient. Describing the symptoms is pretty difficult task but I will try to do my best. The patient has not felt normal since sometime in October of 2013. The best way to describe it is a feeling as if patient is about to get sick. That feeling as if a sickness is coming on but never really comes on. This feeling is often strongest at night and continues throughout the day and will be gone by night. This toxic/sick feeling that radiates throughout the body seems to come and go at times. [more inside]
My husband's new job only offers one plan: a high deductible plan with $5,000 and $10,000 deductibles. We both have chronic illnesses with lots of medications and several doctors. We cannot afford to pay out of pocket for everything. What can I do? [more inside]
I want to get fit because it would help my health long-term, but exercising more than a gentle walk makes me sick short-term, so I am stuck. I have specific restrictions on what I can do because of stroke risks, and expect to continue to frequently fall ill. I would like new ideas and especially advice from others with chronic illnesses that fluctuate on how they handle exercise. [more inside]
It's not that I want to vacation with my cat, but he requires medication at this point twice daily and I don't want to leave him alone. [more inside]
I am sick on vacation and need to decide if it's necessary to see a doctor. [more inside]
My brother passed away on Monday. My father is coping by lashing out. What do I do? [more inside]
Hi there Hivemind, at what temperature (fahrenheit, preferably) does it become unsafe for a person to spend the night in a car? [more inside]
My dad's cancer has come back and he's lost a lot of energy in the last year. In the next few weeks, we and his doctors will be discussing treatment/chemo options. What can I do for him? [more inside]
When I start to feel a cold coming on, the last thing I want to do is spend time and energy trying to figure out the best treatment approach. I am seeking a guide that will help me identify and self-treat common/mild illnesses (both attacking the root cause and alleviating symptoms) as well as indicate when it would be wise to see a doctor. I would prefer a printout rather than an interactive tool like WebMD.
I don't know what help I need anymore, or even if I need help. I have a lifelong history of depression and the past two and half years, I've experienced more life stressors than normal. The original reasons I made the appointment was to a. get a new script for my anti-anxiety medication (which is also meant to help my depression), especially as I accidentally abruptly ceased it over 5 days ago, and b. a referral to a new psychiatrist to prescribe ADHD medication. [more inside]
My SO has a lot of anxiety about holidays - and so we try do something to make them special. We're all sick (with colds). What can I do to still make this work? [more inside]
I haven't known him for that long. And am in a position of privilege [more inside]
How do you know if a counsellor is a good fit? [more inside]
My husband is spending some time in hospital to deal with his depression. This is a good thing and means he will be getting help. But I need help in framing how, and what, I tell different people. In particular gossipy people who ask what hospital he is in. [more inside]