How do mixed-race people (i.e. with multiple ethnic backgrounds) reconcile living in white supremacy? Do mixed-race people ever transcend the barriers to become grounded and thrive in their identity? (so no, I don't mean a mixed-race person who has settled for a singular identity as the pricetag for membership benefits in a single ethnic group; I mean mixed-race persons who've thrived in spite of membership or acceptance by either group). [more inside]
I'm stricken by overwhelming concern about the world (environment, hunger, refugees, corrupt corporations) coupled with guilt that I'm not doing anything to improve things. What can I do with the tools available to me? [more inside]
I am on the membership committee of my church, and once a week we get a report, complete with full names/emails if provided, of visitors who've signed in. Often, this make them easy to find on Facebook. Sometimes they share mutual friends with me or other members on the committee. Lots of other committees get that email also. My question is: would you find it creepy if someone from a church you visited sent you a FB friend request afterwards? [more inside]
How do I approach moving people on the street to interview them about racial identity and what sorts of questions should I ask to get the most out of them? [more inside]
Looking for articles, anecdotes or books about coming to terms with motherhood identity. Nothing sappy, heavy handed or mommy-culty. [more inside]
How inconvenient is it to change your email address in the modern Internet environment? Nearly every web application in the world treats your email address as your login or account name: is updating that everywhere feasible? [more inside]
I went to pick up cold medicine today. Because I don't mess around, I went to the pharmacy counter to get something with pseudoephedrine. But the pharmacist scanned my ID and said that according to the FDA records, I'd already reached my pseudoephidrine quota for this month and she couldn't sell me any. I have not purchased any cold medicine in three months, though. What's going on? [more inside]
I used to be a granola hippie. Now I'm more average. How do I shake the feeling that I'm dishonoring my past identity by being who I am now? [more inside]
I have been experiencing terrible bouts of depression and anxiety for the past four months or so now. I also have turbulent mood swings, ranging from being content in the morning, and scornfully miserable in the afternoon. I'm not certain what is causing all of this. I'm not an emotionally stable person; always unhappy and anxious. I have lost all desire to fulfill my hobbies, which includes: writing, reading, watching documentaries, deep conversations, watching old films, debating, poetry, social activism, and learning knowledge in general. I do not think I'm intellectual or socially exciting enough, therefore I have abandoned all of my hobbies. [more inside]
Some kid who shares my fairly uncommon name is trying to use my email address to register their Instagram account and I keep getting emails about it. How can I make them stop? [more inside]
I'll be changing my name very soon. Problem: My employer will also file my W-2 soon. I don't want mismatched documents to make SSA or IRS send a no-match letter. It'd inconvenience us both, and since this is due to a gender transition, it would also accidentally out me. Is there some time early next year when all the W-2 forms will be processed, and I can tell the SSA of my name change, then my employer, without triggering a no-match? Or is my best option to tell everyone ASAP and hope for the best?
As I'm edging closer to middle age, I am struck by how little I know myself. Occasionally I am asked to talk or write about myself (mainly for work purposes) and I have no idea what to say. I am fairly aware of my range of skills, but I have very little insight as to my personality traits. I have done the Myer-Briggs test, read several books and completed various career assessments, but I still struggle to define who I am. More details inside - but in short: how do others define and describe themselves? How do you become aware of yourself? Think more pragmatic/philosophical descriptions of your personality traits and less about CV bloats. [more inside]
My legal name and gender change court order will be finalized in late January and I will immediately go and change my SSA, DMV, and birth cert information. My W2 will probably arrive before I can get my new documents to my HR department. Will this cause problems filing my taxes? What should I expect and prepare for? I'm in California and use Turbotax.
I've been wondering about this for years. I have no concept of what it means to be female, apart from the body parts (which, as I've learned, don't, by themselves, mean a lot). All I can think of is a lot of cultural stuff, which doesn't seem to be universal all over the world, so surely that's just what we've learned? I get the impression that there is such a thing as a female or male identity, as inborn gender. If you have one, what does it feel like? How do you know what gender you are? [more inside]
What website am I thinking of - make clothes selections, creates a fasion profile, and then makes suggestions? General advice on how to figure out what to wear... why does 30 feel so...weird? I feel like I'm either dressed like a 20 yr old or a 60 yr old - awkward, all the time. [more inside]
I want to mentally rebuild myself, so to say. There's a lot of wrong and/or conflicting info in my head. I noticed that I have too many prejudices, too many predetermined opinions about people/stuff, I do too much quick jumping to conclusions and too much judging. I want to stop doing that. [more inside]
I was just going over our flight info-my husband and I and our two adult daughters are flying out to Texas to my son's wedding. I just noticed that our travel agent used my younger daughter's maiden name instead of her married name (she is separated but not divorced.) The travel agent is calling me back in a bit but how screwed are we? [more inside]
A business was leased to another party and they set up and curated a business page on FB. When the lease expired they left and set up a competing business. They took the FB page with them and changed the name on the business page - keeping all the old content and relationships. How do I get the page back? [more inside]
I enjoy using Facebook for entertainment purposes - I get a ton of party invites and information about my friends that way. However, I believe Facebook can also be a useful networking tool for my professional career, and I've underutilized it in that capacity because I'm hesitant to friend my co-workers or managers. [more inside]
I’m a snowflake with a “weird” name. How do I start using a common nickname instead? [more inside]
My email address being used by someone on bn.com (Barnes and Noble)... [more inside]
Credit monitoring? Identity theft protection? Wouldn't it have been cheaper to just encrypt the data?
A few months ago, SAIC lost a backup tape with the names, social security numbers, addresses, and medical treatment information of roughly 5 million TRICARE patients in the San Antonio, TX area between 1992 and 2011. My name was amongst them, and I'm being offered a year of "credit monitoring and restoration services" as compensation. Are there any downsides to taking it? Any real upsides? [more inside]
How do I learn to accept my gender? [more inside]
Is there a simple solution for logging into one website under two identities simultaneously using the same (preferably Firefox) browser window during the same session? [more inside]
I'm an Englishman married to a Lithuanian - so we have 2 different, though similar, alphabets between us - how can we orthographically regularise our surnames? Alternative spellings? Double-barrelled names? [more inside]
Webcomic, drawn in a typical newspaper cartoon panel style, sort of raunchy, with a douche-bag main character who is sex obsessed. Ongoingstories, not gag panels Every weekend there is a retro strip, of the same character as a boy. What is it?
While some bands still have logos|symbols, they do not seem to be as essential a part of the band identity as they were in the seventies. What was it about the seventies music culture that encouraged the extensive use of band logos and symbols? [more inside]
Does anyone have any advice? A week ago I bought a $450 TV via Walmart and got it sent to a local store in Maryland via its site-to-store service. I was going to pick it up this weekend when I'm renting a truck to move into a new apartment. However when I checked the website yesterday it had stated that it has already been collected by me last Saturday. I did not pick the TV up. [more inside]
Mysterious shipment and possible fraud - would appreciate advice! [more inside]
To my amazement I just received notice of an Intention To Prosecute by my local UK police authority. What's surprising isn't the speeding ticket but the fact that it is dated and timed to a morning when my car was peacefully sitting on the driveway outside my bedroom window, listening to my snoring. [more inside]
I need a better domain name for personal and professional email, and perhaps as a landing page for people to find me on the internet. The problem is that I have an extremely generic name and all the usual suspects are taken. Please suggest or help me find something distinct and foolproof for email. [more inside]
I just finished reading Pat Cadigan's Tea From An Empty Cup which is one of the texts of my Lit and Tech Hons course. I started thinking about why the author refers to her world as AR (Artificial Reality) as opposed to VR (Virtual Reality), and that raised all kinds of questions about identity, real, fake and simulacra. So I'm curious to know what people see as the difference (if any) between VR and AR.
What language is this, and what is the translation of the part with my name on it? And who is the artist? [more inside]
Help me help my fiancé recover from identity theft. (Please?) [more inside]
Can I lend my girlfriend my debit card? She is visiting from overseas and might want to go buy groceries or stuff while I'm at work. We don't have a bunch of cash to hand nor any great desire to visit an ATM and withdraw some. Can I just lend her my debit card and tell her the PIN? It has my name on it, and it's pretty obviously not her name...
I have recently discovered that my identity was stolen. Fifteen years ago. I know the person who did it, or I did ... fifteen years ago. [more inside]
What philosophies of personal identity are out there? [more inside]