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How do I find people who want new identities?

I've just been assigned a project that involves interviewing people who want and/or need a second chance at life — people who want to leave their old lives behind and craft new identities someplace else. Where do I find them? [more inside]
posted by Lillitatiana on Aug 25, 2014 - 15 answers

Who am I and why should I matter to a boss, a boyfriend, or a friend?

What methods would you recommend to someone looking to develop a sense of self and a more accurate sense of their own value if they've spent most of their life defining themselves and their worth through their grades, their job, and their partner? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger on Jun 28, 2014 - 21 answers

State of Being Other

How to reconcile the differences between your origin and daily society? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Jun 27, 2014 - 12 answers

I'd rather not be branded

Can I be a freelancer without having a "personal brand"? [more inside]
posted by gakiko on Jun 22, 2014 - 10 answers

Book/movie recommendations with similar feel as A Prayer for Owen Meany?

Looking for books or movies (fiction) that have a character who is "different" in that they have been prepared (perhaps "predestined"?) to fulfill a purpose that is often misunderstood or ignored by others. They may intuitively know about this purpose from the start, or it might be slowly revealed to them, or it only comes together at the sentinel event; as a result, they may have some quality of "otherness" (as best I can describe it). Some examples below the fold. [more inside]
posted by sealee on May 28, 2014 - 25 answers

How do I get my own life

I am 21 years old (female). I just ended a long 5 year relationship a couple weeks ago and am finally feeling the happiness I didn't realize I was missing before. After planning out my future as a joint endeavor for so long, I am feeling pretty lost as to what to do with my life and how to define myself. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on May 22, 2014 - 36 answers

Witty fake surname instead of "Tan" for Facebook?

I don't want my real surname, but I want something that would let people who know me make the connection. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 12, 2014 - 36 answers

Needs More Personality

As I'm edging closer to middle age, I am struck by how little I know myself. Occasionally I am asked to talk or write about myself (mainly for work purposes) and I have no idea what to say. I am fairly aware of my range of skills, but I have very little insight as to my personality traits. I have done the Myer-Briggs test, read several books and completed various career assessments, but I still struggle to define who I am. More details inside - but in short: how do others define and describe themselves? How do you become aware of yourself? Think more pragmatic/philosophical descriptions of your personality traits and less about CV bloats. [more inside]
posted by kariebookish on Feb 20, 2014 - 32 answers

Thoughtful trans/queer/identity politics blogs

I'm looking for thoughtful, thought-provoking blogs (and books, I guess) covering topics like queer theory, trans/gender theory, identity politics, and maybe related activism. Transmasculine/masculine of center/FTM topics especially welcome. Extreme academic jargon is not a turn-off. A few additional notes inside. [more inside]
posted by dorque on Feb 19, 2014 - 3 answers

Neighbors are using my address - how to fix / report it?

Main details inside.. but the title pretty much says it. IRS and potential repo men involved. [more inside]
posted by rich on Feb 3, 2014 - 8 answers

Help me stop a guy who stole my info & is using my name to scam people.

So, one week ago I posted an ad on the website "HotPads", advertising my house in Portland for rent, for $2395. A few days later, I noticed that someone had posted a duplicate ad of my listing, but for $1900. People then started knocking on my door (the address on my ad), all saying the same thing -- telling me about a guy in Brooklyn, NY, who is USING MY NAME, posing as me, sending people emails and talking with them on the phone, trying to scam them into sending him a deposit for my house. Gah! [more inside]
posted by dacoit on Jan 29, 2014 - 6 answers

Name that tune

There is a short YouTube video that contains three songs. The second of three has me stumped. Can you help? Songs: 1. Kuomintang - Teargas & Plateglass 2. The second seems to start at about 0:35 of the video, seems to have a similar feel to Teargas & Plateglass but I'm stumped. 3. Cloud Atlas End Title
posted by firetruckred on Dec 28, 2013 - 1 answer

sweet jeebus i want to stop explaining this

Soooo...my name is Siobhan. However, the typist for my birth certificate spelled it Siobahn, which means my legal name is misspelled. It's not an alternate spelling, like Suzanne/Susanne. It's just wrong. I called Vital Statistics in PA and the woman there said I have to pay for a name change via a lawyer. I explained it was a typo, not a name change. Am I looking at several hundred bucks to fix this or is there something else I can do? I use the correct spelling for everything except legal stuff and bills. It's just getting to be annoying and I want to get this fixed the cheapest way possible. [more inside]
posted by sio42 on Dec 27, 2013 - 24 answers

Dear IRS, I swear I am who I say I am!

My legal name and gender change court order will be finalized in late January and I will immediately go and change my SSA, DMV, and birth cert information. My W2 will probably arrive before I can get my new documents to my HR department. Will this cause problems filing my taxes? What should I expect and prepare for? I'm in California and use Turbotax.
posted by blnkfrnk on Nov 19, 2013 - 7 answers

reverse cell phone number search

How to get information about a cell phone user with just the number when nothing comes up with cursory google search? [more inside]
posted by fromageball on Nov 6, 2013 - 6 answers

I've been burglarized, and I have a lot of questions!

I live on the first floor in an apartment building in a very heavily trafficked and busy urban neighborhood. It's not a terribly dangerous place, but it definitely has its illicit activity going on - it's a college town. You don't see a lot of bars on the windows or anything. At some point yesterday, somebody broke into my apartment by forcing a window open, and they weren't in my apartment long. They didn't really ransack the place, it was almost hard to tell someone had been there. I am frankly puzzled by how very little they took and what they did take as it wasn't very valuable. They did rifle through my filing cabinet and they did steal my laptop which they will need a password to use, but if they are able to get past that, they will have access to all of my online accounts and my financial information (which I have already locked down). I'm trying to work out a checklist for everything I need to do now, and I have one complicating factor about ID. [more inside]
posted by pazazygeek on Nov 6, 2013 - 9 answers

What does it mean to have a gender?

I've been wondering about this for years. I have no concept of what it means to be female, apart from the body parts (which, as I've learned, don't, by themselves, mean a lot). All I can think of is a lot of cultural stuff, which doesn't seem to be universal all over the world, so surely that's just what we've learned? I get the impression that there is such a thing as a female or male identity, as inborn gender. If you have one, what does it feel like? How do you know what gender you are? [more inside]
posted by Too-Ticky on Oct 29, 2013 - 53 answers

ID Theft Victim. Cleanup has begun, what am I missing?

So, it would appear that I am the victim of identity theft. What am I forgetting to do? [more inside]
posted by SquidLips on Oct 15, 2013 - 1 answer

At what point would it be illegal to have a fake online identity?

I am considering creating a fake online identity to run some websites (it's much more boring than you think, nothing sexy or whatever). A pen name. None of the website will be illegal or about illegal activity but my identity would be fake. Once I start going farther down the rabbit hole (agreements with Ad Sense and affiliates, for example) would I be doing anything illegal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 6 answers

Separating people from other people

Hey AskMetafilter - calling on all writers for help. I write screenplays, and I think my greatest weakness is that I have trouble developing clear, consistent characters in my work. I seem to constantly make characters do things that don't fit their personalities - which creates a lot of confusion for my readers. I need help figuring out how to create well-defined characters who are consistent throughout the text. [more inside]
posted by sidi hamet on Jun 7, 2013 - 26 answers

Using a relocation service to move to Qatar from the U.S.

I've obtained an extended leave of absence from my tenured position and will move my family of six to Qatar this August. We have been given an allowance of $2,500 for shipping our stuff. How do I locate a good shipper? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 on May 28, 2013 - 13 answers

Accepting bipolar

How do you get used to yourself as bipolar (II)? Trying to understand my lows and mixed highs better, but find myself slipping into despair. [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Apr 28, 2013 - 11 answers

How do I protect Ronnie Edwards?

I'm a female in the US, about to get married for the second time and taking my husband's name. Help me manage how my new name appears online before it starts to happen. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2013 - 3 answers

Website that helps you find clothes you actually like?

What website am I thinking of - make clothes selections, creates a fasion profile, and then makes suggestions? General advice on how to figure out what to wear... why does 30 feel so...weird? I feel like I'm either dressed like a 20 yr old or a 60 yr old - awkward, all the time. [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 on Mar 21, 2013 - 9 answers

"Finding yourself"/transitions/deprogramming *on a budget*

I want to shift my thinking style. I do therapy when I can afford it, which isn't a consistent option right now. I suspect there's a pea under the mattress at the core of several faulty thought patterns. I've shifted the pea in some contexts but not others. What are some concrete exercises and activities I can use - with minimal cost - that will help me unravel limiting beliefs, increase self-worth, highlight unproductive expectations so I can address them? Particular parameters inside. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo on Mar 3, 2013 - 5 answers

Science Fiction Short Stories About Personal Identity

I'm a graduate student about to propose a college writing class on science fiction and personal identity. The stories need to be short and brand name authors are preferred. I've got a prospective syllabus (see inside), but I bet there's a lot of good stuff that I'm missing that you know about. [more inside]
posted by vathek on Feb 12, 2013 - 50 answers

Name change logistics, both practical and social.

My partner is legally changing his first and last name and doing away with his middle name altogether. Help us think of everything? We're in the US. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2013 - 10 answers

How do I stop my old self from influencing my present self?

I want to mentally rebuild myself, so to say. There's a lot of wrong and/or conflicting info in my head. I noticed that I have too many prejudices, too many predetermined opinions about people/stuff, I do too much quick jumping to conclusions and too much judging. I want to stop doing that. [more inside]
posted by _Seeker_ on Jan 19, 2013 - 13 answers

Will they let her on the plane?

I was just going over our flight info-my husband and I and our two adult daughters are flying out to Texas to my son's wedding. I just noticed that our travel agent used my younger daughter's maiden name instead of her married name (she is separated but not divorced.) The travel agent is calling me back in a bit but how screwed are we? [more inside]
posted by St. Alia of the Bunnies on Jan 8, 2013 - 30 answers

Transgender reading list

Which books and articles are the most important for understanding transgender issues?
posted by morninj on Jan 7, 2013 - 19 answers

Books about people starting over

Can you recommend any good books (or films, but I prefer reading) in which a major plot point is the main character dropping out of their own life and starting again in a new location under a new identity? [more inside]
posted by jamesonandwater on Jan 7, 2013 - 38 answers

ID theft: any way to see account opened w/out credit check?

Identity theft: is there any way for me to monitor for accounts opened without a credit check? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2012 - 5 answers

Identity bootstrap

I am currently without any valid identity papers in Québec, Canada, of which I am a citizen since birth. What is the best way to bootstrap myself back into valid identity, since it seems all identity documentation requests require one form of valid identity to go through? I still have an healthcard that expired a year ago.
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2012 - 11 answers

who?

Movies where the plot stems from a case of mistaken identity? [more inside]
posted by mannequito on Nov 4, 2012 - 38 answers

Identity theft and fraud - former employer?!

I need some help: I am almost convinced my former Executive level manager stole my identity and rented an apartment under my name where he is presently residing....what to do? [more inside]
posted by Wazooga on Oct 8, 2012 - 21 answers

Heterosexual Civil Partnerships and UK Law

My girlfriend and I want to do that 'public display of commitment' thing, but we don't want to get married. Heterosexual Civil Partnerships are not yet available in the UK. Can we do it elsewhere with legal status? Or should we wait? [more inside]
posted by bollockovnikov on Sep 20, 2012 - 31 answers

Tell me about the history of identity.

Tell me about the history of identity. Today it's pretty easy (though not foolproof) to find out if someone was who they said they were, or to verify a communication is from who it's claimed. But what about 200-2000 years ago? [more inside]
posted by Ookseer on Sep 8, 2012 - 27 answers

Can I get ownership transferred on an FB business page?

A business was leased to another party and they set up and curated a business page on FB. When the lease expired they left and set up a competing business. They took the FB page with them and changed the name on the business page - keeping all the old content and relationships. How do I get the page back? [more inside]
posted by ElGuapo on Aug 30, 2012 - 7 answers

Help Me Establish A Double Life

I enjoy using Facebook for entertainment purposes - I get a ton of party invites and information about my friends that way. However, I believe Facebook can also be a useful networking tool for my professional career, and I've underutilized it in that capacity because I'm hesitant to friend my co-workers or managers. [more inside]
posted by wolfdreams01 on Aug 19, 2012 - 19 answers

Lesbian overthinks her gender expression. News at 11.

I'm a 22-year-old lesbian. I have never made any effort to look hot, but suddenly I want to, and it's raising some serious identity issues for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2012 - 65 answers

How to be private and individual when others judge me?

How can I balance my need for individuality and privacy with human tendency to stereotype and judge based on external facts? [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Jul 15, 2012 - 37 answers

Faking identity with permission: could I regret it?

In the US of A, what's the legality of pretending to be someone else? With their permission, over the phone, to health insurance companies and the like. I'm a personal assistant fresh out of college, and I'd like to know how my self-absorbed and well-respected boss could possibly screw me over later. [more inside]
posted by Baethan on Jul 12, 2012 - 20 answers

How to start using a nickname with people who already know you?

I’m a snowflake with a “weird” name. How do I start using a common nickname instead? [more inside]
posted by epanalepsis on Jul 12, 2012 - 28 answers

No, no, I'm not attracted to women! I just find women attractive!

Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 38 answers

Hope for Recovery and Repair?

Recovery from severe depression + sleep deprivation + personality change possible? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2012 - 9 answers

Stop using my email address, whoever you are!!!

My email address being used by someone on bn.com (Barnes and Noble)... [more inside]
posted by littleredwagon on May 21, 2012 - 29 answers

A run of ID thefts

Help me fend off the cyber brigands (and persuade my family that they need help)! [more inside]
posted by bad grammar on Apr 6, 2012 - 7 answers

At what point do you start worrying about your children's credit reports?

The other day my 13 year old received an application for a Discover Card in the mail. At the time, I dismissed it as junk mail. Trans Union mentions that receiving applications may be a sign of a problem, and even has a site related to the issue here. While diving into a fraud investigation request for one application seems overkill, how common is this, and at what point does one start monitoring all this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2012 - 10 answers

Are there any legitimate reasons why a person in India might be asked to provide a copy of their British aunt's id?

Are there any legitimate reasons why a person in India might be asked to provide a copy of their British aunt's id? [more inside]
posted by philipy on Feb 8, 2012 - 14 answers

Sharing is caring?

Is there any risk involved in giving my university student ID and password to an acquaintance? [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover on Jan 25, 2012 - 21 answers

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