Cumming but not cumming

Anonymous — Tue, 19 Dec 2006 19:31:13 -0800

Sexual anhedonia is a condition where you 'cum,' but don't have an orgasm. I have it, and would like to not have it. Okay, so the pretext is that I'm male, 20ish, healthy, and in a moderately serious, but non-sexual relationship. I last had an orgasm maybe 7 months ago.

Basically, I ejaculate (when I, yes, masturbate), but don't have an orgasm - none of the feeling, it can happen with my eyes open, like anything else.

The possible causes of anorgasmia (thanks to Wikipedia) are like

* Hyperprolactinaemia
Seems to be more common in women. I don't have any of the other side effects.
* Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), also called inhibited sexual desire
Uhm... I have a little bit of sexual repression thanks to a Catholic upbringing, but it doesn't seem active. And with this relationship.. I'll get to that later.
* Low levels of the hormone testosterone
Not really.
* Spinal cord injury
Nope
* Use of SSRI antidepressants
I've also seen depression as a cause. I'm neither depressed or taking SSRIs. The only thing I take is a multivitamin.

More: I've been getting some odd reactions. For one, I've prematurely come (came, whatever) twice in the past month, so that kind of knocks out the hypoactive sexual desire possibility. I'd like to figure out how to prevent that, too. The first time happened after I didn't masturbate for a month (after having a habit of 4-7 times a week), so I thought it was a result of that, but after changing back to what I used to do, I still did it once, and now, at odd times, I feel like I'm on the verge of an orgasm. Basically, that warm, sort-of-itchy sensation 'down there' - and, on (weird) occasions, I'll get a feeling like I'm flushed, and blood is rushing around, I can't think, and basically having a very weird sort-of-sexual thing without any stimulation - really, nothing. Sitting in a chair, and then getting the feeling that if you move, something bad will happen.

So, is there anything that I can do, at all? I'm wondering if this is psychological or sometime else. My current doctor had no idea when I described the fact that I didn't have orgasms anymore. Other than this thing (which is, really, messing with my mind, obviously) I don't have any prominent mental problems, OCD or whatnot. Could it be a prostate problem? That's been occasionally mentioned in other places. And, of course, this is all the more awkward because I'm not in a sexual relationship, so it's like I'm getting help for a problem with masturbating.

If anyone wants to say something anonymously, send it to anon159@gmail.com

Thanks for any help/guidance for getting me out of this ridiculously crazy situation.

Making Out and Still Being A Virgin

Anonymous — Sat, 19 Aug 2006 22:23:52 -0800

Making out with our clothes on. Ideas? My boyfriend and I (I'm a girl) are both virgins, and we'd pretty much like to stay that way (for personal reasons). That said, we both enjoy being physical, and we've been making out quite a bit. Mainly kissing and cuddling.

We're starting to run out of ideas for what to do that doesn't involve genitals nor being naked. (We're both not very experienced either when it comes to relationships - he's had a couple, this is my first) Any ideas?

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