I have come to the realisation that I can no longer safely or humanely look after the 2 cats my daughter grew up with. It is not fair to them, my neighbours, my landlord, and I am unwell and it is difficult for me. But my daughter has gone through so much in the past few years, bulimia, OCD, anxiety, depression, at least 2 rapes, her grandmother died, her father went to prison for a horrible crime. She can't take the cats on, she lives in a high rise on a limited income. There is no one else. I can't face telling her that I need to find a new home for them, and causing her more grief, but I can't keep doing this. It's too hard. I also love the cats but I'm not being a good enough kitty mama. What do I do?
The other day my partner did something and I am in still in shock. I can't think rationally about how to approach it and I am struggling with how to process it. [more inside]
I am looking for some very specific panty liners that I've bought before--I can't remember who makes them, though. Description is inside. Does this sound familiar? [more inside]
My partner needs to wash pretty frequently for work, and it dries her skin out. I'm looking for a type of soap (ideally block rather than plastic bottle) which will reduce her need to moisturise. Anyone got any tips?
Should you wash your hands after touching genitals (your own and/or a partner's)? Assume the partners in question are monogamous and STD's are not a concern. [more inside]
Brazilian wax has revealed unattractive skin issues. Is there anything that can be done to solve it? [more inside]
How do I *start* flossing? It's really painful... and apparently "not flossing" is my way of rebelling against society. [more inside]
How to avoid skin irritation from shaving? Best creme for women? [more inside]
For various reasons, it's significantly more convenient for me to handwash my dirty clothes/linens with detergent in the bathtub, and dry them on a rack in the living room. It's so convenient, in fact, that I'll bother to do my laundry, rather than wear rarely machine-washed and dirty clothes most of the time. [more inside]
I have extremely poor hygiene. I smell bad, and I want to change. [more inside]
Keeping the undergrowth in check - male edition. [more inside]
I have mild to moderate acne. My dermatologist is trying to push me towards Accutane, are there any other treatments out there? [more inside]
Am I being germophobic about the public toilet in my office? (possibly gross details within) [more inside]
How can I make sure that I brush my teeth every single night? [more inside]
How do you talk to your partner about their bad breath? [more inside]
Inspired by the wiping technique thread from earlier today - what is the proper, best way to wash one's ass in the shower? [more inside]
How can I get my husband to shower more than twice a month? [more inside]
I could use some help figuring out how to phrase a request that my boyfriend give his bedding a spin in the laundry. We're pretty newly minted, and I understand the need for tact here, but I am blanking on the best way to say this. [more inside]
Cavities: I have one in both of my two front teeth, one of which is fairly significant. Both of them are on the outside edge of the respective teeth, and thus sandwiched between my front teeth and the teeth next to them. How will a dentist fix this? [more inside]
Parent Filter: What can I do about this parent/child role reversal that is poisoning my mind and my life and how can I let this parent know that even though I love them dearly I will not continue to let them manipulate me and dump all of their responsibilities on to my plate???
Parent Filter: What can I do about this parent/child role reversal that is poisoning my mind and my life and how can I let this parent know that even though I love them dearly I will not continue to let them manipulate me and dump all of their responsibilities on to my plate??? [more inside]
Excessive body hair... what to do? (Probably NSFW) [more inside]
My significant other has, over the last few years, taken fewer and fewer showers. She now takes about one per week (yes I keep tabs). I don't notice any smells although her hair can get that needs-washing look. [more inside] [more inside]
Help me not smell like smoke on my job interview! [more inside]
How do you deal with the messy side of sex? [more inside]
Who gets to share food and drinks with your child - from the same cup or spoon? [more inside]
For the first time in long life experience, I have a girlfriend who is very stinky "down there". What to do? [more inside]
I have a friend who stinks. He has horrible breath (he's a chain-smoker), and his clothes and body reek. I'm not sure what to do. It's so bad that many people have commented that it's hard to be around him. But other than the smell, he's a great guy. He's also lonely, and can't get a date. His life would be so much better if he had better hygiene. So what do I do about this? Tell him face-to-face? Send an anonymous email? Do nothing? If I do bring it up, how do I do it sensitively? Added to the problems, he's very poor. He can't even afford a phone. My guess is that part of the problem is that he's trying to save money on laundry. Still, soap is cheap. I'm trying to obey the Golden Rule, but it's hard. If I was the smelly one, I would want to be told, I guess. But I would be SO humiliated! He's in his early 40s. Really smart and literate.