I have come to the realisation that I can no longer safely or humanely look after the 2 cats my daughter grew up with. It is not fair to them, my neighbours, my landlord, and I am unwell and it is difficult for me. But my daughter has gone through so much in the past few years, bulimia, OCD, anxiety, depression, at least 2 rapes, her grandmother died, her father went to prison for a horrible crime. She can't take the cats on, she lives in a high rise on a limited income. There is no one else. I can't face telling her that I need to find a new home for them, and causing her more grief, but I can't keep doing this. It's too hard. I also love the cats but I'm not being a good enough kitty mama. What do I do?
I have long, dark hair. I know that I will be responsible for a long trail of shed strands and hairballs, possibly for the rest of my life. Thus, I've developed various coping mechanisms: constant vigilance about certain areas of the bathroom, tying my hair up during food prep, &c. I'd like to know what habits you other longhairs keep in order to reduce your hair-trail in home/professional environments -- and on your clothes. [more inside]
I’m moving out in a couple of months, but I have to live with the possibility of rodent roommates until then. How do I do that hygienically and sanely? (Most advice I have seen focuses on getting rid of the rodents; I am asking, how do you protect yourself from the diseases they bring in the meantime. Without freaking out on the regular) [more inside]
What are the odds my face wash got contaminated with my grody eye bacteria? [more inside]
A few years back, this wonderful community helped me find one of my favorite personal items, a beautiful vintage folding comb. I use it often. The only trouble is, I use it after I have applied a variety of hair products, including, but certainly not limited to, petroleum-based pomades like Murray's and water-based pomades like Layrite and Reuzel. The result is gross grey-ish buildup that I suspect is a combination of hair gunk, scalp gunk, and pocket lint. [more inside]
Harmonica hygiene filter: A few years ago I was given a beautiful Hohner Chromonica 280C. Stories of fungus buildup in reeds (and later becoming aware of certain facts about previous owners) led to doubts which always prevented me from using it. So, how hygienic is it actually? [more inside]
A family member has rather strong body odor which she might or might not be aware of. How to tactfully bring it up? [more inside]
The other day my partner did something and I am in still in shock. I can't think rationally about how to approach it and I am struggling with how to process it. [more inside]
I am looking for some very specific panty liners that I've bought before--I can't remember who makes them, though. Description is inside. Does this sound familiar? [more inside]
My partner needs to wash pretty frequently for work, and it dries her skin out. I'm looking for a type of soap (ideally block rather than plastic bottle) which will reduce her need to moisturise. Anyone got any tips?
I'm writing a piece of software to go through a very large database and format last names in their correct casing (i.e., smith or SMITH or sMith to Smith.) However, I'm obviously aware some names should be kept as lowercase—but what names? [more inside]
People of color - what common health/beauty/hygiene axioms have you found not to work for you? Conversely, are there any regimes that you follow that aren't commonly seen as advice online? [more inside]
My 19 yr old son has poor hygiene and it's impacting his job prospects. What steps can I take to motivate him to clean up his act? [more inside]
Should you wash your hands after touching genitals (your own and/or a partner's)? Assume the partners in question are monogamous and STD's are not a concern. [more inside]
How often do you replace kitchen sponges? [more inside]
My boyfriend is a bike mechanic and he's going to be providing support for a large mountain bike stage race taking place over six days. He asked me to come, which sounds like a fun active vacation thing to do. It will be him and his business partner in a company truck, and me in a second car. There will be hot sweaty days of work, chilly nights and a mix of car camping and possibly a hotel here and there. I'd like advice on clothing and what else I should bring, for comfort and utility. [more inside]
My mom was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease in April, and also has major depressive disorder. She says that showering causes her to feel "unbearably bad" and gets very agitated (wringing her hands and pacing in the bathroom) when she is forced to shower. Does anyone know if this could be related to Parkinson's? It seems like more than the lack of hygiene that sometimes accompanies major depression. [more inside]
Is there anything I can do to feel less disgusting post-gym? [more inside]
It has been decades since I've worn deodorant. I think I need to start wearing it again for a couple of reasons. All of the deodorants at the drugstore smell to me either cheap, or like something a teenager would wear. Is there somewhere else I should search? Can anyone recommend anything? Roll-on, non-antiperspirant preferred. (Please no salt stone suggestions, they have not worked for me.)
How to sustain public hygiene and battle possible health hazards, possibly with strong chemicals, without poisoning the soil or thousands of people? [more inside]
This feels like a silly question, but what do I do about my long, curly, tangle-prone hair when I'm out in the woods for a very long time doing fieldwork? [more inside]
I've been looking for info on showering/bathing in relation to sweating and whether it's sanitary or not. I can only seem to find articles that basically say "yeah, you need to shower cause you'll smell" but can't find anything that confirms whether or not it's actually sanitary or not e.g. infections. What do ya'll think/know? [more inside]
I have a rather unkempt winter beard and I'd like to shape it into an actual (but still thick, long and luxurious) beard. Every time I try to do it myself, I fuck it up. I love my barber, but there's a bit of a language barrier and ever since this little mishap , I'm not yet willing to put my beard back in his hands. So I need some YouTube videos or sites or books or salon manuals or something that will allow me to work on my beard without reinventing the wheel. [more inside]
Brazilian wax has revealed unattractive skin issues. Is there anything that can be done to solve it? [more inside]
Beardsmen, do you wash your beard with shampoo or facial wash?
My friend is growing a beautiful bushy beard and moustache. After several months it's wonderfully luxuriant. But, it's got to the stage where he can't eat without spillage. As for soup, forget about it - he can hardly have a mouthful before he has to wield a napkin and wipe spoonfuls away. My friend is very elegant and finds this sloppiness excruciating, especially in public. [more inside]
Have I ruined my 7 lb turkey by leaving it uncovered at room temperature for 12 hours? [more inside]
How do I *start* flossing? It's really painful... and apparently "not flossing" is my way of rebelling against society. [more inside]
How to avoid skin irritation from shaving? Best creme for women? [more inside]
I apparently have a mildly unpleasant odor that permeates everything I own, and only one person can smell it. How can I find out what's causing it? [more inside]
For various reasons, it's significantly more convenient for me to handwash my dirty clothes/linens with detergent in the bathtub, and dry them on a rack in the living room. It's so convenient, in fact, that I'll bother to do my laundry, rather than wear rarely machine-washed and dirty clothes most of the time. [more inside]
Currently in the process of getting a mani/pedi at a salon my friends have been to, but I haven't. Question about hygiene. [more inside]
What's the best way to combine small shards of soap, the pale remnants of larger bars, into one usable bar? [more inside]
At the dentist today I was reminded again that I brush my teeth too hard and too briefly. The solution, obviously, is a theme song. Know of any songs about two minutes in length that will inspire gentle circular motions? Bonus question: Should there be a different theme song for morning and night? Thanks.
I have extremely poor hygiene. I smell bad, and I want to change. [more inside]
I have become adept at urinating without touching anything. Do I still need to wash my hands? [more inside]
Keeping the undergrowth in check - male edition. [more inside]
What did your parents tell you about health that turned out to be utterly wrong? [more inside]
YANMD but about once a month a week before my period, my gums are sensitive. I have very good oral hygiene so this bothers me. Obviously it is likely to be hormonal but what can I do about it?
Can anyone recommend a good defensive cologne to use to ward off the nasty smells I encounter in the New York City subway system? It has to be cheap and come in a small package that I can throw in my bag to be used when necessary. [more inside]
I have mild to moderate acne. My dermatologist is trying to push me towards Accutane, are there any other treatments out there? [more inside]
2 part question about morning breath: 1 - are there any movies in which the characters address this issue, rather than pretend it doesn't exist? 2 - Do you kiss with morning breath? [more inside]
I have a water squeeze-bottle on my bike. It has a black cap/drinking-assembly and I'm concerned that it might get really gross under there without me ever knowing about it. How should I clean it? Should I just get a different bottle?
Household tips for the immunocompromised? [more inside]
What are the ideal cupboard conditions in which to hygienically store cups? [more inside]
I'm looking for a lotion, oil, powder, etc. that'll help me get a closer shave with my electric razor. Any experience? While I'm open to less common solutions, I'm optimally looking for something I can just grab at CVS. In the past I've used baby oil which has worked well, but are there any other options (specifically for electric razors or alternative solutions) that might be better? I've seen commercials for Lectric Shave recently and was wondering. Thanks!
My boyfriend and I have very different views on what constitutes "clean". I'm not talking about differences when it comes to keeping one's room neat and organized. We're on the same page about that. I'm talking about re-using towels, sponges, dirty dish rags, and keeping counter tops SANITARY. Help me parse this one out. [more inside]
Can I salvage a working window-unit Air Conditioner that smells like the previous user's home cooking? [more inside]
Am I being germophobic about the public toilet in my office? (possibly gross details within) [more inside]
How do I insure hygiene under my foreskin? [more inside]