Scared of heartache. A brief background... I was together with someone for 5 years, married for less than a year before I initiated a divorce which was finalized this month.
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posted by love2much
on May 20, 2013 -
7 answers
Death of a parent and a breakup- how to disentangle the two, get a virtual lobotomy regarding the breakup, and for heavens sake just fucking move on regarding the breakup.
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posted by xm
on Feb 27, 2013 -
20 answers
I am looking for some suggestions of book titles for books that a 5 year old girl can understand though not necessarily be able to read. She's encountering cliques in her kindergarten class, being snubbed, and the teacher is offering no help. I realize this is temporary but in the meantime surely there are books letting her know it happens sometimes and maybe some suggestions of how she can work it out. Thanks for any help.
posted by july1baby
on Feb 6, 2013 -
17 answers
Sometimes, people will hurt me - and then get so upset about having done so, that they want
me to comfort
them. Or else they become so inconsolable that we can’t move forward without talking about their feelings. How do you handle these situations when what you need is time to process your own hurt?
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posted by Someone Else's Story
on Jan 11, 2013 -
35 answers
A problem that isn't one but still is: my partner and I are planning on getting married next fall. YAAAY! But I feel like I'm getting made fun of constantly by my sister for it...
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posted by PuppetMcSockerson
on Sep 11, 2012 -
45 answers
A close friend, "Tom" has just gotten engaged to somebody, "Jane", who, in the recent past, despised me for reasons unknown and said terribly hurtful things to me. I am 100% ready to be pleasant and graceful about this, but Tom wants me (and my spouse) to be good friends with Jane. I am not interested in this. Help me figure out how to navigate this situation.
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posted by Cygnet
on Aug 27, 2012 -
61 answers
Picture it: Brock "The Python" McMacho, three-time MMA middle-weight champion, retired Navy SEAL and two-time recipient of the Purple Heart, blearily stumbles to the bathroom in the middle of the night. He stubs his toe. Does it hurt? Does it hurt as much as it would hurt me, a big softie?
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posted by Admiral Haddock
on Apr 18, 2012 -
21 answers
Why do I still care about how my ex treated me when I don't have any feelings for him? How do I stop caring that he's getting married to his pregnant girlfriend?
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posted by biochemist
on Feb 1, 2012 -
31 answers
How (specifically) do people in successful relationships let an intimate partner know when he is being insensitive and hurtful?
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posted by sockratties
on Jan 20, 2012 -
37 answers
My friend agreed for me to full on tackle him... We are in the 10th grade, I outweigh him by probably 80lbs, and he said he would let me do it... Questions: can we get in trouble or suspended?
Im will only be a few feet away, and he will have pillows, a helmet, and will land on some grass, can he (or I) get hurt?
And finally, if one of us DOES get hurt, what will the injurys be?
posted by sizzil34
on Sep 2, 2011 -
28 answers
It's
me again. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. How do I minimize the guilt I feel for hurting him, and the hurt over him being back on the dating site already?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2011 -
63 answers
I’m feeling really devastated right now, and could use some solid, grounded advice. The big picture: last night I finally talked to my husband about why we weren’t having sex. Like, at all. Turns out it’s because I’m fat. How do I get over the pain of this revelation and what should I do about this mess I find myself in, emotionally?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 10, 2010 -
116 answers
My partner has a hobby/interest that is important to him--similar to music or art, it's something that he occasionally shares the labors of his love with the public. The problem? I'm not crazy about these particular creative fruits. Am I just being too snobby?
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posted by leemleem
on Jun 9, 2010 -
23 answers
I just threw my lower back out picking up my baby. Lots of pain in the lower back generally. Didn't hear a pop...it just seemed like my muscles seized up suddenly. This has never happened to me before, and need information on what I need to be doing.
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posted by murrey
on Apr 15, 2010 -
25 answers
Help! Can I salvage this friendship even after experiencing the searing pain of rejection?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2009 -
13 answers
Something funky is going on in my throat area. What could it be, and is it something I should be worried about?
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posted by alligatorman
on Oct 13, 2008 -
5 answers
Is there a common sense guide to symptoms requiring immediate medical attention?
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posted by waraw
on Sep 7, 2008 -
22 answers
I fell in love with my best friend, who is a guy. I’m a young bisexual guy. Apparently, he is not. Did the “wrong thing” and told him about how I felt, and was rejected, but things seemed okay afterward. However, I’m still hurting, I’m feeling delusional about it, and sometimes I think that he inadvertently isn’t helping… how do I live with my best friend now? Help me, Metafilter!
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2008 -
25 answers
Would you go crazy if you were living in the boonies and every couple of minutes some dude comes careening around your corner on an ATV or motorcycle revving up slowly and maliciously?
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posted by watercarrier
on Jul 1, 2008 -
29 answers
In relationships, I'm very, very afraid of the possibility having to break up and hurting the other person. DTMFA threads
like this make me want to hide under my bed. I often don't get into relationships or pre-emptively end relationships quickly -- even if things are going great -- if I can imagine a time in the future when things won't work out. The fear makes it hard for me to know myself how I really feel.
So my question to you all: can you give me advice -- maybe links to psychological studies or just from your own life experiences-- on how someone can know if a relationship is worth pursuing. Not looking for guarantees of eternal happiness and marriage, just the knowledge that even if things don't work out, I'm pursing the relationship in good faith... and not being an asshole.
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posted by specialfriend
on Mar 18, 2008 -
27 answers
How do I keep my dog active and busy, without her actually being physically active?
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posted by TheDude
on Oct 22, 2007 -
16 answers
My wife had a months-long affair and I've given her another chance. Any suggestions for getting rid of these awful feelings?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 2, 2007 -
51 answers
