I was recently in the situation where I met a possible new love interest but, due to interference by a mutual social group, the relationship never had a chance to begin.
How common is this and how can I protect myself? Snowflakes inside.
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2013 -
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Which kitchen appliances/gadgets do you keep on the counter, and which do you store away in cupboards or a pantry?
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posted by mudpuppie
on Feb 11, 2013 -
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I don't want to breech the fb borders yet, as I feel it could kill some of the mystery and magic of getting to know her in real life, but we may never cross paths again. Do I exercise my limited patience for a moment that I can't wait for or just send a msg and start the ball rolling?
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posted by talljamal
on Feb 1, 2013 -
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My theory is that, of all the emotions, people find anger the hardest to deal with. I know people don't like strong emotions in general, but they seem to be worse at coping with others' anger than in the case of other strong emotions. Why is that?
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posted by EatMyHat
on Feb 1, 2013 -
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I thought he was attracted to me. I'm really attracted to him. Turns out he's just really excited about my creative work. Help me find the words to be honest about the attraction and the fact that I'd like to get past that imbalance so we can do all the collaborations we want to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 16, 2013 -
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Kind of a two-part question: 1) Looking for affordable, secure, climate controlled storage units north of Kansas City, and 2) dealing with the illogical sense of feeling abandoned by my parents as they talk about being unable to store my stuff in the future. (Sorry, a bit long inside)
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posted by DisreputableDog
on Aug 12, 2012 -
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How do you reconcile with guilt and the feeling that something bad
should happen to you as a consequence of past mistakes?
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posted by ichomp
on Mar 3, 2012 -
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Maybe I'm overthinking this...about 15 years ago, boy meets girl, becomes good friends with her, tries to take the relationship to the next level, is rejected, loses touch with her.
15 years later, boy is happily married, watches all the news about Japan, thinks about/is concerned about girl (she's from Japan, works/worked near Tokyo for some time, and her family lives/lived in Osaka), and Googles her. Boy finds out that girl appears to be married and living in the U.S. Boy would like to send her an email to ask if everyone (family/friends) is ok, but can only find her husband's email address.
Boy thought about emailing her husband to pass along a message...something like "was an old friend but lost touch. Just wanted to say hi and make sure everyone's ok". That's it. No ulterior motives, no sneaky emails behind anyone's back. But then boy thought twice and wondered if that would be awkward or weird and if he should just drop it.
Hive mind: what should boy do?
posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2011 -
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Our dog doesn't like the roommate's girlfriend, what now? He barks and growls when she's in the house, which is incredibly unusual behavior for him. It's making me wary of the girlfriend, but I'm not sure where to go from here.
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posted by stoneweaver
on Mar 1, 2011 -
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How best approach an uncooperative credit union to retrieve the items from my deceased mother's safe-deposit box?
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posted by tangram1
on Jul 27, 2010 -
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Our rental just suffered a serious roof leak. What should we know and do concerning the needed repairs?
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posted by Pamelayne
on Jun 5, 2010 -
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How do I tell my manager to disregard a former classmate as a potential candidate at work without directly saying so?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2010 -
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I want to show my students Randy Pausch's "Last Lecture" video. I would also like to have them answer some questions about it, but I'm stuck. Some help?
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posted by CrazyLemonade
on Oct 14, 2009 -
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What should I do about my terrible family situation? What approach should I have towards my family members?
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posted by ThrowawayName
on Mar 10, 2009 -
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I noticed a suspicious-looking sore on my boyfriend... how to sensitively ask him to get tested?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 15, 2009 -
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Flame war burn victim asks: how do *you* perform soul grafts after a devastating flame war?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 6, 2008 -
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Does your workplace have a clearly-stated 'organizational culture' or defined theme or an
All-Encompassing Guiding Principle for employees? I've been told to create one for our company. From
scratch. HELP!
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posted by GuffProof
on May 17, 2008 -
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So there's this girl. She is brilliant and wryly funny and beautiful and we are grad students together in a program that will shortly be ending. Explain to me in the simplest possible terms - as though I were an extraterrestrial anthropologist with an academic interest in, but little direct experience with, human interaction - how I can show her that I'm interested in being more than friends...
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 12, 2008 -
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I have a coworker with intermittent odor issues (cigarette smoke and stinky food) and am hoping for some new suggestions in dealing with them. Non-confrontational, passive methods preferred.
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posted by cuddles.mcsnuggy
on Dec 11, 2007 -
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So, despite no one having told me this through high school, now that I'm in college I've been informed that everyone, everywhere, thinks I'm gay (and high school friends have confirmed this, now that I've asked). Men, women, doesn't matter. I am aware that I have a (very) slight lisp, which I hate because I can't control it (from birth). I am aware that I'm upbeat and tend to talk fast when excited. My body language is probably somewhat submissive, but I don't think it's THAT bad. I'm shy around a lot of women, don't make eye contact a lot, and a lot of guys don't like me because I'm not that into the "guy topics of conversation". Aside from, you know, how EFFING HOT random girl #43 is. (Cause she was!)
The point is, I'm disturbingly straight and finding out what everyone really thinks has thrown me for a huge loop--not only am I being perceived as something I'm not, but it's also been (continually) detrimental to my success with women and social acceptance by guys... and I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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posted by dmaterialized
on Dec 10, 2006 -
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How do you deal with someone who constantly seeks attention through exaggerations and impulsiveness?
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posted by pricklypear
on Aug 14, 2006 -
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I really am not excited about a friend's engagement and I think it's really stupid and rushed into. They're throwing a party. This is the second time they're trying to throw it, and I have a suspicion (because it was never cancelled before) that nobody even came the first time. I don't even want to be her friend anymore. Do I have to go? More generally, is it at all possible to handle the end of the friendship well?
posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2005 -
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Are there any circumstances under which adult children become responsible for a parent's debts?
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posted by widdershins
on Oct 28, 2004 -
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Do you play armchair pyschiatrist? How sure are you that you're right about people's inner lives? Do you act on your hunches? [More Inside.]
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posted by grumblebee
on Sep 10, 2004 -
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