A work colleague of mine lost her mother to cancer to one year ago tomorrow. I wanted to give her a card just letting her know that I am thinking of her and am aware that it must be a difficult day for her. Is it appropriate for me to do this? She has not been talking about the fact that the anniversary is tomorrow, I just happen to remember the date. If it is a good thing to do, what should I say on the card? Thanks for your help
posted by elis on Nov 12, 2009 - 24 answers

How have you made your best and most lasting friendships? [more inside]
posted by cymru_j on Nov 12, 2009 - 42 answers

My wife admitted she had a crush on a co-worker, but nothing happened. However, I now know that during her crush, she drunkenly told the guy she liked him and he said he liked her too. She has never admitted this. Things are really good between us now, like when we were first married. Do I let this new piece of information go, or confront her about it? I still have no doubts nothing else happened between them.
posted by boognish on Jul 27, 2009 - 34 answers

I want to stop being seen as odd or eccentric. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2009 - 46 answers

Please help me find a way to support my boyfriend's integration into my culture... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2009 - 14 answers

I'm fascinated by studies of body language and their application - yet my own body language sucks - I seem to have - 'hey, cut in front of me when I'm walking or queueing' or 'when I express an opinion, puff up and argue with me' - even though sometimes I actually do have the right info. Does anyone have theories on the type of body language I can use to dispel/improve this? Being short, female and 38 with a 'kind' face doesn't give me a good head start apparently. I look forward to hearing your thoughts. This can get to be tiring and annoying - and I'm actually pretty patient.
posted by IdleRepose on Mar 26, 2009 - 26 answers

I'm having the same problem as the poster below me "Help me deal with high stakes situations.." (BTW I read all those responses too). Like her it happens with meetings, people with authority, friends and dating. But, I'm a guy, and the only part I really care about is how it effects friends and dating. The rest I can live with.. [more inside]
posted by 0217174 on Jan 11, 2009 - 12 answers

How do I tell a work-assigned mentor that the relationship isn't quite working out? She's clearly too busy for me, and I don't want to participate in the program anymore. I feel that some of this is my fault, but I'm not sure how to handle going forward. [more inside]
posted by purplecurlygirl on Oct 15, 2008 - 6 answers

A good friend is getting married. All of our mutual friends (and acquaintances) are invited, but me. How do deal with the social awkwardness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2008 - 38 answers

Help me help the addicts (and possibly the enablers) in my family. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2008 - 10 answers

Am late 50s, living in Portland, OR, divorced many years, really don't want to be here (interested in relocating to southern california), but have early teenager daughter. How do I reconcile wanting to pursue what I want to do with the years I have left, with staying around in this area for my daughter (my ex has custody, zero problems with visitation, etc.). By the time she turns 18, i'll be in mid 60s+, which i know is not the end of the world, but...am i being selfish for wanting to pursue what I think will make me happy, versus "doing time" here just to be physically close to my daughter (we have a great relationship). Genuine feedback appreciated.
posted by america4 on Jun 22, 2008 - 26 answers

Newly single (after 10-yr relationship). How do I get from Point A to Point B, with Point A being meeting a potentially interesting person, and Point B being the point where I can smoothly ask them to do something with me. All, you understand, in service to just getting to know this other person better. The possibility of a hook-up is secondary (although not completely disregarded.) [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon on Apr 22, 2008 - 11 answers

I think my boss is trying to get me to quit. [more inside]
posted by Gular on Mar 13, 2008 - 21 answers

How can I encourage my talkative boss to stick to a meeting agenda? [more inside]
posted by katala on Jan 16, 2008 - 17 answers

How do I deal with a super-chatty co-worker I can't afford to offend? [more inside]
posted by katala on Oct 12, 2007 - 18 answers

What reason would there be for a male to pass himself off as a woman on the internet? Should I tell my girlfriend her online confidante is actually a guy? [more inside]
posted by misha on Jun 12, 2007 - 23 answers

I know someone who has, in the last six months, lost a husband, had a house go into forclosure, mother had a stroke, and is close to the breaking point. [more inside]
posted by theperfectcrime on Apr 28, 2007 - 10 answers

How do my co-workers and I deal with the owner of the start up company we work for when he doesn't want to change his ways? [more inside]
posted by jrdnbaade on Mar 14, 2007 - 10 answers

Help me stop being so paranoid and/or self conscious. [more inside]
posted by trampesque on Oct 22, 2006 - 21 answers

I'm constantly told I don't "look like" my ethnicity...do I? [more inside]
posted by sweetkid on Sep 7, 2006 - 59 answers

So my mother-in-law died and I feel like my siblings haven't been there for us at all..am I expecting too much? [more inside]
posted by cellardoor on Jul 29, 2006 - 30 answers

Can anyone suggest some diversity management exercises or activities? [more inside]
posted by Scottk on Apr 3, 2006 - 4 answers

Why do I get so easily aroused? [more inside]
posted by nona on Mar 29, 2006 - 30 answers

Mr. Straight Arrow pays all his bills on time, works like a slave, and has a joint account with his spouse, but wants some fun money to splurge with his kid at a ball game, buy a scooter or go nuts at Sports Authority without his wife giving him grief over spending too much. Is this a separate stash in joint bank account, or something else?
posted by terrier319 on Apr 14, 2005 - 20 answers