How do I develop more "grit" and push harder against life's challenges? Difficulty: OCD. [more inside]
I’m trying to wrap up some big stuff these days and could use some media to boast confidence, courage, and focus. Brief prose, poetry, non-fiction, religious texts, and music would be welcome. I'd prefer to avoid longer things in order to save time. Thanks!
I'm in the worst rut of my life and I am hoping it will help to put some of the gory details out there and ask for advice/encouragement/anecdata from impartial and hopefully wise strangers. I know there must be some way to fix my problems, but at this point it's a matter of finding that way and believing it is possible. [more inside]
My boyfriend has just been diagnosed with cancer of the colon. I don’t really know what I want to ask here, except to ask for some reason to hope that he’ll be okay, and to ask for advice if he’s not. [more inside]
I had a jar of delicious pickles. I really liked them. They're gone now but I still have the jar full of brine. Can I, like, chop up some cukes, toss 'em in there, wait, and then rejoice? Is this how pickling works? [more inside]
I'm looking for songs which have lyrics that are inspirational, particularly in terms of moving forward, overcoming adversity, or not losing hope. What made you think "things will be ok" when you first heard it, especially if it wasn't something you would normally listen to? Whether it's just a line, verse, chorus, or the whole song, all genres are welcome. [more inside]
I believe that popular wisdom holds that contentment or real inner peace is the goal for those who have been depressed and who have pulled out of the hole. But what about people who have been unhappy since childhood, for example. One popularly cited data point for whether someone has diagosable depression is they lose interest in what they've loved doing, and this notion assumes that they've had a chance to develop hobbies or friendships at some point until they became depressed. So short of having had hobbies or friends to return to, at what point do people "stop being depressed"? (I know that there are manuals that professionals use to tally up symptoms, but I am asking not about technical definitions of depressed versus not; I'm asking about the experience. Has anyone experienced a bright line shift in their thinking?) [more inside]
Ok, I'm blowing my question on this because I can't find it and I need to watch it right now. There's a YouTube video of courier typewriter text and voice-over which talks about "A fucked up situation" that the author is recalling. If the title doesn't indicate enough of the video to you, spoilers below the fold to help you find it... because I can't find it. [more inside]
Looking for songs that make you want to stay alive. About how wonderful life is, how fleeting and how it should be cherished. [more inside]
After a recent change in routers by my service provider it's taking a depressingly long amount of time to connect to the internet. I need a fix explained to me like I'm your grandmother's less computer savvy friend. Details henceforth. [more inside]
A while ago, my ex ended what had been a yo-yo relationship (on and off and on and off again) for 1.5 years. Now we are in different states and he wants to reconcile. Can this work? Has anyone done this and gone on to have a happy, healthy relationship? [more inside]
Are there any success stories of people who have gotten over relationships that you /know/ could have been fixed if circumstances had been different and have gone on to find greater happiness, especially with successful, committed relationships? I am worried that my recent relationship is going to turn into one of those "the one that got away" situations, and he's made it clear he doesn't want to work on it anymore, so I can't do anything about that. I had thought I would be settling down in a city with a long term partner by now, and the fact that that is not happening is really tough to handle. Help!!! I need encouragement. [more inside]
Hit me with some joyful, hopey songs that are less "everything is going to be all right" than "the bad shit is over -- everything is all right!" [more inside]
Help me spread hope around me as part of my new year resolution [more inside]
Help me pick the perfect audio book to get my friend through hospital awfulness. [more inside]
Please help me find this Obama campaign poster. [more inside]
How do I pull clips out of a DVD and export them as mp4s? [more inside]
I'm sick and depressed and I don't know how to stop it [more inside]
Quitting a prestigious job I really enjoyed but grew incompatible with, starting a new one that has more promise, but is still an unknown. I've listened the hell out of Moody Blues' "Story In Your Eyes" and Simple Minds' "Don't You." What other songs capture the essence of a bittersweet ending and an exciting but uncertain future?
Looking for stories, sayings, myths, etc dealing with hope. [more inside]
does it really get better? i'm a 40 year old single woman. i have just gotten out of the arguably the worst relationship of my life (with some equivalent badness from my late teenage years, but isn't that the point of late teenage years). you can see my posts here and here. I clearly have some issues to sort out and need to spend some time recovering from the chaos and i'm working on that in all the various ways (meditation, exercise, long walks, trying to eat right, time with loved ones, etc.) so hive mind, what i really need right now is some hope. please tell me your tales of 40+ happiness- romantic and otherwise. thanks!
How to maintain hope that I will find someone to be in a committed relationship in the face of what feels like overwhelming odds? [more inside]
Our two fifty-foot pecan trees are almost dead (90%+ of the canopy is bare).We know that we need to remove the vast majority of the trees -- the dead limbs hang over our yard, roof, and deck, and are a hazard. But there are a few green shoots coming up toward the bottom quarter of the tree, maybe ten to fifteen feet up the trunk and out of the bottom of some of the branches. [more inside]
Is it possible to get accepted at a community college or university without submitting prior college transcripts and still get financial aid? [more inside]
How to increase my confidence, engagement, risk-taking, and openness in the world... I feel like a phrase I read once: "she had all of her emotional widgets broken off one by one". (long) [more inside]
How can I maintain some optimism about my child's future, given the crappy crappy world we live in? [more inside]
The aughts were the worst decade (I hope) of my life. How can I say "fuck you" to them and welcome the next 10 years? [more inside]
I have to decide whether to return to medical school next year or not. Looking for lots of perspective. [more inside]
A coworker was robbed this week, and a box of very sentimental items was taken. Can anyone offer some advice for possibly having them returned or found? [more inside]
I need to pick a seminar/conference/class/training/whatever for work to attend within the next 6 months or so, I have until 10PM to choose, and I have no idea where or what the cool stuff is. It should be at least tangentially related to my job as a Unix Systems Engineer/Python Guy, and preferably within the Northeast (NYC is where I'm located), although feel free to recommend anywhere in the US. [more inside]
i am almost 30 and I have no future! help me convince myself I am wrong. [more inside]
"All you need is love." I need to find an empathetic rebuttal/clarification to this. [more inside]
What to send a friend in rehab? [more inside]
Any interesting, meaningful readings for a liberal Passover Seder on the theme of hope? [more inside]
In the article regarding the AP demanding compensation for Shepherd Fairy's appropriation of a photograph of Obama for the "Hope" poster, it says:
"I donated an image to them, which they used. It was the one that said "Change" underneath it. And then later on I did another one that said "Vote" underneath it, that had Obama smiling," he said in a December 2008 interview with an underground photography Web site.Which underground photography website would that be? Googling the quote, or variations of, only brings me this news article.
"Is the hope for profound change misdirected in a country where almost 50% of the population voted for the incumbent party?" (Historical perspectives on this question, please) [more inside]
Seeking advice about a quote from Hebrews 10:23, which states "Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful." This is from one of the books of the New Testament (Epistle to the Hebrews). [more inside]
I have fucked up yet another academic semester. This is the third time--I fucked up as a freshman, took time off, came back, fucked up again, took more time off, and came back and have repeated the cycle. Only now, now that I've realized I've shot myself in the foot again, I desperately want to recover my academic career somehow. Is it possible? Is it over? [more inside]
She might be leaving for good in one month, or not leaving at all. We find out in one month. How do I not ruin the next month for myself and her by being miserable about it? [more inside]
I would like to sense God in my life. I go to church regularly, pray, and read the Bible to understand Him better but I still have such deep bouts of depression where I either don't trust or sense his presence. There is a wide gap between what I believe with my heart and what I understand in my head. For example, I understand and believe in the sovereignty in God but when hard times come or extremely difficult emotions (despair) arise, that is the first thing I question. I am not looking for an easy life or a perfect life, just one that is able to trust God more. Any opinions on how to do this? I feel a great tension between trying harder, and just letting go but my letting go resembles more closely giving up than "letting God" if you know what i mean. To summarize, I want a stronger faith. Any ideas? Thanks so much for input.
Background: I am 41 years old. I am 16 credits shy of graduating with a BS in Mathemathics. my GPA is 2.79, I have over 250 hours of attempted coursework, 144 of that is being counted towards my degree. I program and design software systems for a living. The Problem: I really love math and computer science but I am lousy at learning. when I say lousy I mean slow. [more inside]
I'm in the bottom the stereotypical bleak pit of a crushing depression. I'm doing the therapy. I'm doing the medications. But what do you do with your brain meanwhile? How do you keep going on? [more inside]
With the coquihalla closed, what is the best way to get from Vancouver to Kamloops? [more inside]
I remember seeing about 2 years ago a clip where Anna Deavere Smith was doing a piece on Cornel West. Channeling him saying that he uses the "language of despair" because you must despair before you can hope. Something like that. It was quite moving...and I've thought about it many times in the interim. [more inside]
Sandman Fans: I need a quotation, but I don't have the graphic novel. It's from the first volume. He's leaving Hell after retrieving one of his toys, and Morpheus says something about how the worst thing you can do to the condemned in Hell is give them hope. What's the actual quote?
How do you convince a part of your brain that seems unaccessible by cognitive function, yet holds beliefs that are affecting your life poorly? The combination of two such "unalterable" opinions has me currently locked into a course that will exacerbate, not solve, some very long-lasting problems. [more inside]
How does an eternal pessimist find a ray of sunshine in a gloomy world? [more inside]