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Books about morals & civics to give to civic-minded moral Trump voters

I am looking for inspiring books that highlight the importance of moral and civil values as the foundation of democracy. By moral and civic values, I'm thinking of simple things like honesty, integrity, compassion, compromise, and a willingness to look at evidence. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust on Dec 15, 2016 - 16 answers

Help me clean up this oral sex misunderstanding

I didn't go down on her. How do I tell her why? [more inside]
posted by trinity8-director on Oct 2, 2015 - 17 answers

how to deal with deceptive students?

I administer an online learning platform for a university in Massachusetts. Whenever a semester ends, I always get several reports from students claiming to have completed work that the system has no record of. In a recent case, I checked everywhere I could and even contacted the vendor, but I didn't find a shred of evidence to support this student's version of events. Yet he still insists he completed the work and won't back off. What can I say to him, and other students like him, without seeming like an asshole who won't help?
posted by Ain on Apr 23, 2015 - 32 answers

"You can't handle the truth!" But I need to learn how to...

Last week, my partner admitted that he's been not just hiding things, but outright lying to me. The revelations hurt, but I need honesty if we're to stay together. How do I make it safe for my partner to tell me the truth when it's repeatedly been so startling and upsetting? Difficulty level: partner is dealing with Major Depression, and has been near-suicidal. [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Apr 17, 2015 - 56 answers

Are we more or less honest than a hundred years ago?

Are the citizens of the U.S. more or less honest than a hundred years ago? Is there any longitudinal research that explores this question? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 on Mar 11, 2015 - 3 answers

Tell met about times that you were honest but kind

I have only a vague idea of what honest-but-kind looks like in close relationships. I find it hard to imagine saying, "I like you, but I don't like that about you," without it coming across as a harsh rejection. Do you have examples of times that you were honest-but-kind? If it's something that you do well on a regular basis, what's the most important thing you're bringing to the interaction? [more inside]
posted by clawsoon on Jan 27, 2015 - 27 answers

Is this a therapy deal breaker or something I can salvage?

What do you do when a problem you've been trying to work through with other people in life suddenly becomes a problem with your therapist, too? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger on Oct 28, 2014 - 37 answers

Secrets, privacy, fibs or lies?

My partner frequently tells small lies. They also keep certain things secret, including behaviors they deem private. This is a lifelong strategy that long precedes me, and in many ways, has nothing to do with me, however, it drives me up the fucking wall. [more inside]
posted by socks-o-neurosis on Sep 15, 2014 - 30 answers

Seeking stories of professional boldness.

I'm looking for real examples of people who made bold, honest, and somewhat risky moves in a job situation and saw positive results. [more inside]
posted by ocksay_uppetpay on Jun 2, 2014 - 12 answers

Help me find an app developer

When I post ads to places like Craigslist or Odesk, I get responses from people who have hotel management experience but no reference to software, computers or anything related. Or, from seemingly highly qualified people in India. I would like to be close enough to meet the person I'm paying maybe thousands of dollars for this. I know face to face is no guarantee of honesty, but it feels better than anonymous. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind on May 5, 2014 - 12 answers

Do I tell my wife that I have a child with someone else?

A long time ago, I asked this question. Since, I learned that it is most likely my child, but the mother does not wish for me to play a role in his upbringing. I made the promise I would keep it between the two of us, but my wife demands to know what is going on. [more inside]
posted by Bathtub Bobsled on Dec 31, 2013 - 59 answers

Wait... what?

I'm struggling to parse something that just happened between my car mechanic and I. What the hell happened? Is this a red flag? Am I being lied to or not told something, here? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Nov 2, 2013 - 18 answers

Should I tell her?

A friend's ex-husband confessed a number of sins to me. Should I tell her? Drama below. [more inside]
posted by Josephine Macaulay on Oct 31, 2013 - 58 answers

Integrity 101

I want and need to have more integrity with myself. [more inside]
posted by mugitusqueboom on Oct 21, 2013 - 8 answers

Trust vs. Control

I posted a pervious question regarding dating a man who wasn't forthcoming about a detail in his life (a 2nd child with a different woman) and my creeping suspicions that learning about him hiding this child was an indication of a future of lies and trust issues. I have let this man go, not because of the child, but because I am unable to trust him for many other reasons and now I want to learn a healthy balance between Trust and Control in relationships and dealing with insecurities. How do you move past insecurities and know when to just trust someone and recognize if your insecurities are causing you to control and sabatoge. [more inside]
posted by BrandNewMe on Oct 9, 2013 - 8 answers

When to tell a prospective partner about my immigration status?

I am residing illegally in a country (I would rather not say which one) and am dating. I reached out to a person on a dating site. We have only been on two dates, but I quite like them and the person seems very into me as well. I feel like since I asked them out the onus is more on me to tell them about my status than if they had asked me out. When should I tell? I want to wait in order to protect myself from even the slightest possibility of deportation, but I also want to be as honest and forthright as I can be to honor both the person I am interested in and myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2013 - 15 answers

Old, beaten up van for sale. Want it?

I've a cargo van with about half a million kilometres on it. I was a courier. How do I sell it ethically? [more inside]
posted by converge on Aug 1, 2013 - 18 answers

A few good men (and women)

I'm looking for stories, personal and otherwise, about men and women showing extraordinary devotion, faithfulness, honesty, and integrity in relationships. [more inside]
posted by sockomatic on Apr 24, 2013 - 16 answers

Great books about honest people struggling against a corrupt society?

I have in mind two (fiction) classics on the subject: An Enemy of the People (Ibsen) and The Winter of Our Discontent (Steinbeck). I would appreciate it if you could guide me to other valuable works on this issue.
posted by Basque13 on Apr 23, 2013 - 27 answers

Trying to locate/confirm David Foster Wallace quote about life/honesty

Something about the importance or value of living honestly/doing something good while never being rewarded for your actions or even recognized for them. [more inside]
posted by fartknocker on Feb 10, 2013 - 8 answers

How do I stop snooping?

Please help me stop snooping. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2012 - 29 answers

Honesty vs Diplomacy

How do you balance being honest and being diplomatic in a way that works best for everyone involved? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Jul 2, 2012 - 35 answers

Amusia, not amusing...

It's getting more and more difficult to evade being honest, but I don't want to hurt him! The truth? My boyfriend of three years (and man I absolutely love) is a terrible... terrible singer. [more inside]
posted by thatbrunette on Apr 26, 2012 - 75 answers

Living with yourself after doing a horrible and selfish thing

I need help in moving on with my life after telling a lie. Many lies. That hurt someone very badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2012 - 28 answers

My girlfriend lies about hanging out with her ex

Is it okay for my girlfriend to hang out with her needy ex? Why she would hide their meetings if there's nothing to hide? Am I rational or am I the product of being cheated on several times in the past? [more inside]
posted by dreamsofhorses on Dec 21, 2011 - 42 answers

Maybe I'm just an asshole...

How or when is it okay to "correct" your SO? [more inside]
posted by doomtop on Nov 2, 2011 - 62 answers

“This is my last pack.”

How can I be more supportive of my girlfriend as she tries to quit smoking? [more inside]
posted by vkxmai on Aug 30, 2011 - 30 answers

What do employers look for during a credit check before hiring?

What would a prospective employer be looking for if they run a credit check, and should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by hippybear on May 2, 2011 - 16 answers

Actually, I just don't like you.

Someone I don't like has asked what she did to make me not like her - should I tell her the truth or just gloss over it? [more inside]
posted by cilantro on Apr 26, 2011 - 44 answers

How to respond to relatives' questions about parent?

How to respond to relatives' questions about my dad's lack of communication? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 20, 2010 - 21 answers

Ho's before bro's?

One of my best friends is totally and completely wrapped up in her boyfriend. And she doesn't feel like much of a friend as a result. [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Sep 9, 2010 - 51 answers

I love him and I love his music but not his CD. Now what?

He's talented. He's just finished his cd, poured his heart and soul into this thing. But -- he fell in love with the studio, all those toys, sucked the life right out of this record. I've had a copy two days, I need to call him and tell him I love the record. But I don't. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2010 - 41 answers

How can I successfully identify and release my emotions?

How can I successfully identify and release my emotions? [more inside]
posted by fan_of_all_things_small on Apr 6, 2010 - 16 answers

Could everyone be as open with me as the people I get stuck next to on airplanes?

How do you get people to tell the truth? [more inside]
posted by Ashley801 on Apr 4, 2010 - 14 answers

How to discourage piracy amongst a small community?

Seeking ideas for discouraging piracy of a DVD which has a small potential audience of only a few thousand, well-connected people. [more inside]
posted by puffmoike on Mar 22, 2010 - 28 answers

Should I let my housemate know where he stands?

Knowing that two of my housemates plan to leave the third one high and dry, while he has no idea about it, do I tell him? Or is this a breach of trust to them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2009 - 25 answers

What should I do about my dishonest job interview?

I was not truthful about my past drug use in a job interview. Now I have a job offer and need to get a secret security clearance. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2009 - 23 answers

Long-Distance Friendship for Introverts

Introvert Filter: please help me revive a friendship! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2009 - 18 answers

How do you let yourself "let go" of time?

How do you let yourself "let go" of time? [more inside]
posted by Seeba on Oct 11, 2009 - 27 answers

Its a numbers game afterall ...

How honest should my okcupid profile be? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2009 - 22 answers

RelationshipAngstFilter: Am I overreacting? More inside.

RelationshipAngstFilter: Am I overreacting? More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2009 - 62 answers

Should I tell my husband about my past with a friend?

I ran across an old friend on a social networking site. Five years ago, we went on a few dates and slept together a few times. He wants to have coffee. Really, just coffee. He's in a relationship, I'm married. Is it OK to see this guy? Should I tell my husband about our past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2008 - 44 answers

Honesty v. Mystery v. Good Faith v. Transparency

I'm really confused about how and when to bring up your level of interest in relationships. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2008 - 31 answers

Is honesty the best policy?

How should I handle a broken window at my apartment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2008 - 17 answers

How can I learn to be more certain about what choices I should make in my life?

I'm 27 years old now and haven't started a serious career yet, but I have graduated with an engineering degree. I decided I wasn't interested in engineering after some work experiences in the past and so I've tried to move into other fields. By now, I've dabbled in 3-4 other areas, but still can't make a decision. I'm afraid that this switching around is going to continue my whole life and waste my precious time. [more inside]
posted by dengxp on Jul 22, 2008 - 23 answers

I can handle the truth.

How can I deal with the dishonesty of the world? [more inside]
posted by By The Grace of God on May 29, 2008 - 34 answers

What's the point of anonymity?

Can extreme honesty improve the quality of a person's life? [more inside]
posted by mpls2 on Apr 24, 2008 - 37 answers

The good, the bad, and the ugly

How do you critique a friend's work, without hurting his feelings? [more inside]
posted by hadjiboy on Feb 21, 2008 - 20 answers

Help me identify a book about honesty.

Help me identify a book about honesty [more inside]
posted by spacewaitress on Feb 3, 2008 - 1 answer

Being believed, Believing others

Have you ever successfully explained yourself to someone who was angry at you, didn't trust you, and never particularly trusted you? Have you ever been persuaded by someone who you didn't particularly like or trust when you were angry at them? [more inside]
posted by Capri on Dec 4, 2007 - 19 answers

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