I have this friend, we've known each other since we were five and I see her every time I go home. She helped me deal with my abusive ex and recently attended my grandad's funeral which was a difficult time. It's all good until she writes offensive, provocative stuff on FB and I feel like I don't know this person. Do I brush it to one side or engage with it? How would you deal with this?
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posted by everydayanewday
on May 1, 2013 -
35 answers
What happens psychologically to people who fight or confront bigotry for longer periods of time? Are there any studies about depression, PTSD or self-esteem issues? How do anti bigotry/discrimination organizations help their members with these problems?
posted by Foci for Analysis
on Mar 31, 2013 -
8 answers
My boyfriend of a little more than a year is a totally. great. guy. With one exception: he thinks that being funny means saying whatever overtly racist, homophobic or sexist joke he can think of as a response to many situations. I always stop and tell him it's not cool, then he says, "what? I'm just kidding." Now, I worry he might actually be pretty sexist. What to do?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2013 -
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The live-in super of my building has confided in me that he does not like homosexuals. They're already complaints regarding his work but not his homophobia. If I report him, there's a chance he'll lose his job.
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posted by mizrachi
on May 31, 2012 -
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Had a brief, but harsh exchange of words with someone on an online message board where I stated his response of "No Homo" made me feel uncomfortable. He said I was the most humorless person on the board. Should I learn to accept a joke even if I don't like it?
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posted by anonymous
on May 14, 2011 -
36 answers
I'm a trans-man looking into a month-long NOLS course. Is NOLS a safe place for LGBTQ folks?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 14, 2011 -
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i'm a queer with some serious internalized homophobia. how can i move forward without my insecurities hurting me more? (nsfw?)
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 8, 2011 -
14 answers
This is for all y'all who are GBLTQQIA-identified (let's use 'queer' for short). Do you find--or how do you find--that living in a non-queer world puts pressure on your intimate relationships and partnerships?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 29, 2011 -
24 answers
My workplace is casually homophobic (e.g., "That's so gay," "I think so&so is gay," "Wow dude, how long have you been gay for?"). I'm gay and find this annoying, but one of the offenders is my boss, whom I'm reluctant to correct. How do I deal with this situation tactfully?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 13, 2010 -
39 answers
How can I stop a group of young boys who I have a leadership role over from making homophobic comments, in a way that will make them ACTUALLY stop, not just when I'm around?
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posted by Quadlex
on Jul 13, 2010 -
69 answers
My husband is homophobic.
I need to do something about this because it's Not Okay, but I think he's got such a deep rooted gay panic I don't know what to do.
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posted by Omnomnom
on Jun 7, 2010 -
64 answers
“That’s so gay”: How do you ask/remind people to be a little bit more sensitive without being a buzzkill in social situations?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 17, 2010 -
101 answers
My brothers-in-law tell racist and homophobic jokes at family gatherings. This makes me and my husband uncomfortable. What should we do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2010 -
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I had an absolutely terrible incident with a homophobic doctor. I have taken all the steps to report him to the local College of Physicians and Surgeons, and I hope he gets disciplined, but that doesn't address the systemic problem of homophobia in family physicians in my area (and it doesn't help me find a less homophobic doctor to switch to). I would like to blog about the incident, contact gay and lesbian associations, etc, but I am worried about being sued for libel/slander/I don't know. Will I get in trouble if I write publicly about this incident? Can I use the Dr's name? I'm in Alberta, Canada.
posted by arcticwoman
on Sep 11, 2009 -
25 answers
Asking for a friend: how to deal with someone who deflects criticism with accusations of homophobia and social ostracism?
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posted by StrikeTheViol
on Aug 9, 2007 -
18 answers
Everywhere I go - walking down the street, hanging out in a bar, sitting there minding my business - nearly everybody that passes me, whether on foot or in a car, feels the need to make some kind of comment about me of the form, "what a fuckin fag," or "you know you're fucking gay," etc. I'm not insecure about my sexuality but the sheer constancy of it is driving me nuts. What would you do?
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posted by Astragalus
on Oct 12, 2005 -
37 answers
BadWordFilter - Does the word "buttf**ker" refer to a man who sodomizes a woman, and in turn is just a "dirty sex act" word, or does it refer to a homosexual who sodomizes a man and in turn is a homophobic word? Likewise for "cocks**ker"? When calling someone a "cocks**ker" are you calling them a "girl" or are you calling them a "homo"? Am I thinking too much about it, or should I avoid using these words around women / homosexuals so not to appear sexist / homophobic?
posted by pwb503
on Jul 14, 2005 -
41 answers
Xian Theology: most of the teachings of my wife's Church that
really irritate me are either old testament, or from Paul. Given that Paul was not one of the 12 apostles (did he even meet J.C.?) and also that the Bible was put together at Nicea in the 4th century, is it possible to be a Xian and reject all Paul and Leviticus' homophobia? Any speculation as to what Xian teaching would've been like if Paul hadn't sent so many damn letters?
posted by Pericles
on Jul 6, 2004 -
50 answers
