I'm a woman who is living with two straight cismen who routinely have loud, offensive, misogynistic/racist/queerphobic conversations in the apartment's common areas. I'd like them to stop doing this in shared spaces because it makes me and my guests uncomfortable. I need tips for talking to them. [more inside]
My partner and I (both female in our 30s) will be traveling to Central Europe soon and the last leg of our trip will be in Budapest. When we planned the trip, we simply forgot about the current political climate there (right-wing extremism, anti-semitism, xenophobia, homophobia, you name it). How bad is it? Should we be extra-careful? [more inside]
I have this friend, we've known each other since we were five and I see her every time I go home. She helped me deal with my abusive ex and recently attended my grandad's funeral which was a difficult time. It's all good until she writes offensive, provocative stuff on FB and I feel like I don't know this person. Do I brush it to one side or engage with it? How would you deal with this? [more inside]
What happens psychologically to people who fight or confront bigotry for longer periods of time? Are there any studies about depression, PTSD or self-esteem issues? How do anti bigotry/discrimination organizations help their members with these problems?
My boyfriend of a little more than a year is a totally. great. guy. With one exception: he thinks that being funny means saying whatever overtly racist, homophobic or sexist joke he can think of as a response to many situations. I always stop and tell him it's not cool, then he says, "what? I'm just kidding." Now, I worry he might actually be pretty sexist. What to do? [more inside]
My family's house was egged. What can I do, and how should I react? [more inside]
The live-in super of my building has confided in me that he does not like homosexuals. They're already complaints regarding his work but not his homophobia. If I report him, there's a chance he'll lose his job. [more inside]
How can I show my support for a new co-worker in my company's homophobic environment? [more inside]
Had a brief, but harsh exchange of words with someone on an online message board where I stated his response of "No Homo" made me feel uncomfortable. He said I was the most humorless person on the board. Should I learn to accept a joke even if I don't like it? [more inside]
I'm a trans-man looking into a month-long NOLS course. Is NOLS a safe place for LGBTQ folks? [more inside]
i'm a queer with some serious internalized homophobia. how can i move forward without my insecurities hurting me more? (nsfw?) [more inside]
This is for all y'all who are GBLTQQIA-identified (let's use 'queer' for short). Do you find--or how do you find--that living in a non-queer world puts pressure on your intimate relationships and partnerships? [more inside]
My workplace is casually homophobic (e.g., "That's so gay," "I think so&so is gay," "Wow dude, how long have you been gay for?"). I'm gay and find this annoying, but one of the offenders is my boss, whom I'm reluctant to correct. How do I deal with this situation tactfully? [more inside]
How can I stop a group of young boys who I have a leadership role over from making homophobic comments, in a way that will make them ACTUALLY stop, not just when I'm around? [more inside]
My husband is homophobic. I need to do something about this because it's Not Okay, but I think he's got such a deep rooted gay panic I don't know what to do. [more inside]
Help me fight my own prejudices. [more inside]
“That’s so gay”: How do you ask/remind people to be a little bit more sensitive without being a buzzkill in social situations?
“That’s so gay”: How do you ask/remind people to be a little bit more sensitive without being a buzzkill in social situations? [more inside]
My brothers-in-law tell racist and homophobic jokes at family gatherings. This makes me and my husband uncomfortable. What should we do? [more inside]
The homophobic looney tunes are protesting this weekend. What's the funniest sign I could possible have? [more inside]
I had an absolutely terrible incident with a homophobic doctor. I have taken all the steps to report him to the local College of Physicians and Surgeons, and I hope he gets disciplined, but that doesn't address the systemic problem of homophobia in family physicians in my area (and it doesn't help me find a less homophobic doctor to switch to). I would like to blog about the incident, contact gay and lesbian associations, etc, but I am worried about being sued for libel/slander/I don't know. Will I get in trouble if I write publicly about this incident? Can I use the Dr's name? I'm in Alberta, Canada.
I'm about to be involuntarily outed as a bisexual at work. What should I expect? [more inside]
Question for people familiar with the Polish language and/or political scene: What are the "Patriotyczny Ruch Polski" newsletters I recently found in my heavily Polish neighborhood (Greenpoint, Brooklyn) all about? Here's a scan of a front page. [more inside]
Who are the most dangerous "Christian" fundamentalist leaders? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: how to deal with someone who deflects criticism with accusations of homophobia and social ostracism? [more inside]
How to respond to "casual" homophobia and other similarly immature behavior? [more inside]
Songs with homophobic lyrics? [more inside]
Everywhere I go - walking down the street, hanging out in a bar, sitting there minding my business - nearly everybody that passes me, whether on foot or in a car, feels the need to make some kind of comment about me of the form, "what a fuckin fag," or "you know you're fucking gay," etc. I'm not insecure about my sexuality but the sheer constancy of it is driving me nuts. What would you do? [more inside]
BadWordFilter - Does the word "buttf**ker" refer to a man who sodomizes a woman, and in turn is just a "dirty sex act" word, or does it refer to a homosexual who sodomizes a man and in turn is a homophobic word? Likewise for "cocks**ker"? When calling someone a "cocks**ker" are you calling them a "girl" or are you calling them a "homo"? Am I thinking too much about it, or should I avoid using these words around women / homosexuals so not to appear sexist / homophobic?
I'm looking for a link to a specific website that debunks anti-gay arguments. [mi] [more inside]
Xian Theology: most of the teachings of my wife's Church that really irritate me are either old testament, or from Paul. Given that Paul was not one of the 12 apostles (did he even meet J.C.?) and also that the Bible was put together at Nicea in the 4th century, is it possible to be a Xian and reject all Paul and Leviticus' homophobia? Any speculation as to what Xian teaching would've been like if Paul hadn't sent so many damn letters?