How do I best support my partner when he sets boundaries with his passive-aggressive family, particularly when the boundaries are about how they've been treating me? Wall of text, with bonus holiday drama, inside!
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posted by SeedStitch
on Dec 26, 2012 -
38 answers
A couple of weeks ago, I moved out of my marital home (details in my posting history). Whilst I seem to be doing okay, most people expect me to not be. In fact, they seem to expect a fragility and sadness from me that I'm not feeling even remotely. This has lead to some judgements from people that I could have done without.
How can I navigate the sympathy of folks during the holiday season without having to pretend to be an emotional mess (which I'm not) and without suffering judgement from people who don't know the whole story (Which I can happily live without).
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posted by six sided sock
on Dec 22, 2012 -
27 answers
My family's Thanksgiving has been hijacked by unwanted guests. Please help with etiquette so we're all happy.
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posted by Cloudberry Sky
on Nov 11, 2012 -
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My mother and I are not talking. I am thinking about skipping Thanksgiving. How do I do this without causing even more turmoil?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 25, 2012 -
32 answers
How can you "fake it" or "power through it" or "put on a brave face" to make the holidays as normal as possible, when other people depend on it?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 3, 2011 -
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I have family (parents and siblings, no young'ns) visiting me in South Florida around Christmas. How can I best entertain them?
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posted by Bokononist
on Nov 21, 2008 -
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My family members decided to suddenly start celebrating Christmas this year. I feel weird about it. Help me deal with these changes.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 31, 2007 -
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Is there a way to excuse oneself from family obligations during the holidays? A way that would minimize gossip and guilt-trips? Any successes out there?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2007 -
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I want to bring alcohol for Christmas. This being AskMe, of course there is...
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posted by jammer
on Nov 9, 2006 -
12 answers
Evil In-Laws Filter. Alternatively, do I need to learn to take the high road? My pseudo in-laws insist on maintaining a relationship with my boyfriend's ex-wife. This irks me to no end and I am exhausted from trying to ingratiate myself to them. Do I have to include them into my life?
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posted by Lola_G
on Nov 22, 2005 -
43 answers
The Christmas holiday is fast approaching as we all know. My fiancee is Muslim, and we have always celebrated religious holidays separately. This year, I would like him to be a part of the family celebration. For my family it is more of a family bonding time (and become more of an American Tradition) than a religious event. If I'm correct, the celebration of Christmas is for the birth of Jesus. From what my fiancee has told me of Muslims, they believe in Jesus as a prophet, but have many differences in beliefs from Christians overall about who he was.
So would there be a debate between the two religions over the actual birth of Jesus (how he was conceived, is he the son of God....etc.) that would be conflicting for him to join us for dinner and this particular holiday itself? I want to be well informed when talking to him about it, and try to find a way to celebrate the holiday.
posted by Gooney
on Dec 8, 2004 -
20 answers
