It seems that "the girlfriend" is no longer going to go by that sobriquet. We have decided, after about 15 years of living together, to get married. I am as nervous as I could possibly be. We both come from two previous failed marriages.
OTOH we love each other so much, it's scary sometimes.
I'd like some advice from people who were in very long term relationships who decided to take the plunge. As well I'd like advice from people who are in long term relationships who think it's less than a good idea.
posted by anonymous
on Sep 15, 2010 -
26 answers
My 38 year-old sister is a bit of a train wreck. A dog-obsessed train wreck. How can I help?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2010 -
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It's my dog's first move and I suspect it will be a rocky time. Help me figure out how to transition and help her not stress out!
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posted by actionpact
on Aug 25, 2010 -
6 answers
So I bought a used Jansport dome tent. It is nice and cost me very little, but I was wondering if there is a complete list of Jansport tents online somewhere that I can use to identify it.
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posted by mecran01
on Aug 23, 2010 -
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HurtKittyfilter: My cat has (as far as the vet can tell) injured a ligament in her knee. What can I do to help her?
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posted by torisaur
on Aug 22, 2010 -
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My husband suffers from what appears to be diabetic neuropathy pain in both feet and one hand. Could this be caused by something else? What can we do to make it more bearable?
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posted by fifilaru
on Aug 20, 2010 -
9 answers
Is it appropriate to sponsor a fundraiser for an individual and their family and how would I go about organizing this?
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posted by mcarthey
on Aug 18, 2010 -
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I'm looking to rent a house in Tampa, FL (to live in, not a vacation), but I'm not sure where to start looking. I see all kinds of listings online, but I have no way of judging the worth of these - they look like cross linking listing spam and they make me hesitant to trust them.
This is the first place I'm renting - everywhere else I've lived has been with friends and family.
Where do I start? Suggestions on people to talk to or places to look for decent homes for rent?
Also: What questions should I be asking prospective landlords?
posted by Ikazuchi
on Aug 16, 2010 -
6 answers
Bookfilter: In 2007 I read the first part of a science fiction novel that I would really love to find again. I'm pretty sure the basic premise was that the book was a historical/academic biography about a famous general or other important figure in a future (possibly post-apocalyptic) America. More half remembered details below!
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posted by cimton
on Aug 15, 2010 -
12 answers
What are the potential problems, if any, of venting a portable A/C unit into a closet or attic?
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posted by wordsmith
on Aug 13, 2010 -
14 answers
When I moved to Montreal about 5 years ago I signed up with Videotron as my internet provider. They had an "Extreme" plan that was fast and had unlimited data for a flat rate. I haven't really made much use of this package since I got it, but last month I ended up downloading a fair amount of data. Soon after I ended up getting a bill for over $800!
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posted by Smuth
on Aug 4, 2010 -
8 answers
Financial moron w/kids and no investments needs to think about the future. Help needed, I don't know where to start! (mess described inside).
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posted by Ponderance
on Jul 28, 2010 -
18 answers
Where can you buy a tent in Tuscany, Italy? Friends on holiday over there are in need of one.
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posted by Harry
on Jul 24, 2010 -
2 answers
I opened a glass shop thirty years ago, and it will soon succumb to the economy. In those thirty years I've always thought of my employees as one big family, and that's the way they think about myself and each other.
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posted by ok
on Jul 16, 2010 -
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I'm taking a software dev class at the local community college and need help picking which language I should learn. I also have dyscalculia, which makes learning certain things sort of.... difficult.
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posted by fiercekitten
on Jul 4, 2010 -
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[new home crafty storage ideas filter]: hi hive! my sweetie and i are trying to sop (sort, organize and purge) now that our things are combined. i need some creative (and attractive) ideas for organizing a few things:
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posted by anya32
on Jul 1, 2010 -
13 answers
Please help my wife! She is locked out of Hotmail but is mysteriously still able send and receive from the account on her Blackberry.
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posted by gergtreble
on Jun 20, 2010 -
6 answers
Recently I used a 4GB thumb drive to help a friend fix some partition issues on his laptop using Dell's Utility Partition software. It worked. However, once I tried to remove the software from the thumb drive, it sealed the space used by the software and I cannot seem to make that space usable again. I have tried using Norton's Partition Magic, Windows 7's Disk Manager, gparted, and a few others I can't remember. Any ideas?
posted by 29
on Jun 13, 2010 -
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I feel like I have no control over anything in my life and just drift around feeling helpless and miserable. What to do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 7, 2010 -
9 answers
Chicago-transit-filter: I have to get to McCormick Place tomorrow at 7:15 AM. Best way to do this without a car?
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posted by Wulfhere
on Jun 4, 2010 -
7 answers
Help me find this t-shirt I saw online: Black with a distressed white print of a man in a suit (possibly with a briefcase and/or hat), with no facial features. Completely blank.
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posted by Jairus
on Jun 1, 2010 -
13 answers
My husband has convinced himself that his life is worthless and the world is better off without him. How can I help a man who refuses help?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2010 -
31 answers
I work in the marsh and we need to carry some pretty heavy equipment soon; we have been trying to think of some way we can carry it all. We are thinking of some sort of sled/wagon that could handle diverse ground going from firm ground to puddles/ponds to very muddy, soft ground. Does anybody have good ideas?
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posted by Rustbeard
on May 28, 2010 -
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I have no phone and little contact information on a friend who may be suicidal right now. I need quick answers -
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posted by deacon_blues
on May 27, 2010 -
18 answers
I feel bad giving tough love to my mom when she is feeling depressed about breaking up with her asshole boyfriend. I don't know how to make her situation better for her, or to ease her pain. All I can do is lend an ear but its annoying that my privacy is invaded constantly because shes totally out of it. I never had a private moment to myself all my life, that's a different story. How can I make light of the situation without losing my own sanity?
posted by InterestedInKnowing
on May 27, 2010 -
25 answers
I need some help identifying a character, I think it's Chinese but I'm completely unsure. Can anyone help?
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posted by reverendjim
on May 25, 2010 -
11 answers
I installed a program on my Recently Upgraded Ubuntu OS to help me manage mounting/unmounting various drives plugged into the computer. Big mistake; I've royally messed things up. Now my computer won't mount anything, and so cannot reboot properly. Please help!
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posted by carsonb
on May 25, 2010 -
6 answers
My Sleepy's mattress & box spring make creaking noises when I make the slightest movement in bed, help me successfully return or exchange them!
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posted by thankyoumuchly
on May 19, 2010 -
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My mother is depressed, and I suspect she's abusing alcohol. I'm doing the best I can, but looking for suggestions as to what I should actually be doing to help.
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posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2010 -
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I'm in a bit of a bind for a physics midterm. The professor's notation is idiosyncratic to the point of incomprehensibility, he's gone far afield of the recommended textbook, and his posted lecture notes have only the math (not the physical insight). What can I do? Bonus: the exam is Wednesday morning. (long)
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posted by d. z. wang
on May 4, 2010 -
10 answers
Help me brainstorm names for my brother and his wife's new real estate team!
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posted by Sully
on May 3, 2010 -
10 answers
Illustrator trying to relocate from Phoenix to Portland, having yet another hare-brained idea of how to raise funds for such a venture. Lots inside. Help!
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posted by actionpact
on Apr 25, 2010 -
6 answers
I need help with what to *do* with my life - career wise...certain conditions apply. I would really appreciate any help. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2010 -
6 answers
I have lived for half a century and packed in a century or more of life. And I need an interviewer. I need someone near me who will ask the right questions and get the story out of me.
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posted by Splunge
on Apr 22, 2010 -
28 answers
How do I go about planning a vacation on my student budget? If it helps, I don't care much where I go...
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posted by niles
on Apr 10, 2010 -
19 answers
Help me boot my computer, please! I'm running XP and my computer will no longer boot even in Safe Mode, after a failed firewall installation. I don't have the XP installation CD (my Windows is definitely legitimate), and worse yet, my CD drive doesn't seem to work. Would booting Unbuntu from a flash drive be my best option? Where can I find non-technical instructions for how to do that?
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posted by surenoproblem
on Apr 5, 2010 -
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