My best friend has been seeing someone for about 7-8 months now. Initially, he seemed very nice and friendly. However, as the months have gone by he's turned out to not be right for her. To make things worse, she's being emotionally abused by him on a rather subtle level, to the point where several times she's been crying while talking to me about him. A couple of weeks ago almost broke up with him after talking with me about recent problem, where I got fed up with the crap she was dealing with and told her she should end it. Since I know she tends to listen to me and to trust my thoughts, should I make a bigger effort to convince her to leave this guy? [more inside]
I'm a college biology major. Everyone I know is applying to medical school, but the idea of medical school scares me. I'm not qualified for jobs in my field. Can you help me identify alternative jobs or careers? I have some experience with radio, GIS, and computer-y things like Python. [more inside]
Flight out of Philadelphia tomorrow evening. Looks like it will be canceled. Help me get my boyfriend out of the city and not waste a visit we both really, really need and have been planning for months. [more inside]
Tell me about temp agencies in Toronto. What are the best ones, how do they work, and how can I tailor my pretty specific skills to a more general employment audience? [more inside]
I switched over to iCloud a number of months ago. I currently have rules set up in Apple Mail to filter incoming mail into folders. I want these emails but I don't want them in my inbox. The problem is it doesn't work as I anticipated. It would appear if Apple Mail isn't open, the rules won't apply themselves on my iPhone. And even if Apple Mail is open, the rule doesn't apply itself immediately, and my iPhone is pinged, I check my email, and then the email "disappears" into the folder. This is getting really f*cking annoying. [more inside]
I'm looking to change careers and my goal is to be doing "that what is most effective towards helping the world". I asked in a previous question "What is the cause with the most leverage" and since then effective altruism seemed to be the best solution for making a difference on the biggest scale. But if I wanted to help that cause it seems like there's no better way to do it than to make a ton of money. Other than earn a ton of money, I suppose I could try to work for an organization like LifeYouCanSave. But would I be necessarily of greatest help doing that i.e suppose they have all the help they need other than people to donate. I'm not looking for importance or anything. If somehow standing on a corner counting how many red cars go by is the best thing I can be doing for the world, then so be it. I just want to know that I'm being useful.
So, I just finished building a new computer and have installed windows, all the driver CDs, etc. Then I went to connect it to the internet so I could install some anti-virus software, download the rest of the drivers, etc and no dice. I feel bad having to ask for help, since I'm a computer geek, but well, it is ethernet straight into a modem; normally I just plug it in and it works. [more inside]
How to approach therapy when I'm not really sure what I'm going for but feel depression has a huge part of it. Kicker - the standard tests show I'm not and I don't know how far to push to get some help or what I even need help for. [more inside]
I've been dating a guy since the summer. I need help with asking for things I need in the relationship. [more inside]
Okay, we just bought a new wireless router. Our two smartphones are wifi connected. So are two different computers plus two Nooks. The only thing that refuses to connect is our Roku box. The ONLY thing we use to watch TV. This is Not Good. Roku support was worse than useless. Hive mind, we turn to you. GO! [more inside]
Today my father (who I live with; I'm 22) woke me up by banging on my door loudly and yelling at me. He made serious physical threats and destroyed some of my computer equipment. I'm at a loss for what to do. [more inside]
Can anybody help some Canadians fix this passport debacle? Need some help ASAP [more inside]
I'm a few hours from the end of a very successful Kickstarter campaign, and as a result I'm suddenly in charge of a company with nearly 2000 customers and a lot of work to accomplish. I need to hire some help, but not having done this before, I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for or how to find it. Basically, I want to use some of my project funding to make it so that I can focus all of my efforts on project goals that only I can accomplish. I think that means hiring a secretary and/or a personal assistant, and someone who I can trust to answer my emails, tell me when I actually need to deal with something personally, and potentially even have access to my credit cards for buying groceries, outsourcing project-related tasks, etc. What's involved in finding someone who does good work and is trustworthy? (I'm in Los Angeles, though I can imagine having someone do much of the secretarial work remotely)
Hi Mefi Community, I would like to apply for an MFT grad program but feel a huge block when it comes to the personal statement, as well as the letter of reference(s). One of my recommenders has asked that I draft the letter of reference and he will approve it after review, but I've never actually even seen one of these before, so do not know where to begin! [more inside]
At the parent-teacher conference Dec 5th the teacher told me my autistic/ADHD/OCD/GAD child is so aggressive the staff fears their safety and want to use restrainsts, and they want to bring it up in the next iep. This is the first I've heard of any aggression. [more inside]
So my sister in law missed a court date after moving out of Wisconsin. She failed to keep her address current with her child custody court and missed the notification of a court date. She now has found out she has a bench warrant out for her arrest. So what is next for her and can anyone recommend a good lawyer in the area?
I am lost on how to proceed with my life/diet. Because #1 - There are many positives to eating strict #2 - There are many negatives to eating strict. [more inside]
For the past year or so I've been daydreaming about buying a classic leather motorcycle jacket, like this or this. Tragically, though, I cannot afford to spend $700. My budget is more like $200. Can you help me fake it? [more inside]
I have one day left to online shop for my brother's Christmas pressie and I'm drawing a blank. I've already gotten him a couple of things, but I need one more item to make it a worthwhile parcel. He is 33, a drummer, and wears casual, laid back clothes, but no "funny" tees etc. Is there a t-shirt/ book/ small piece of drumming gadgetry/ anybloodything that would suit him? Will have to be available in an online UK store for it to be delivered in time, and my budget is about £20-25. He will be travelling back to London from Belfast after Christmas so it needs to fit in carry-on luggage. Thanks!
My hello dolly bars are a delicious but crumbly mess. How do I salvage them? [more inside]
My hands and my wrists really hurt doing any activity that engages them, I don't see my doctor for until December 29th, and I have things I need to get done involving my hands. Looking for some ideas/short term solutions to keep functioning until I see the doc next in a couple weeks. [more inside]
To summarize I had people over and someone accidentally broke the lamp. I am staying in a rental and it is not my lamp. PLEASE can someone provide a link where I can buy this lamp? I would REALLY appreciate it! Here is the lamp.
I'm looking for advice on balancing out the sweet and savory flavors of homemade soup, without resorting to the evil of celery. [more inside]
For various reasons, I'm in currently in a domestic situation with a family member who is really, really draining. This person has quite a few traits that seem narcissistic/borderline/non-respectful of boundaries. [more inside]
The timeshare market is awful, and due to new financial emergencies, I absolutely cannot afford to pay rising maintenance fees and assessments on a very nice 1 bedroom timeshare I own on Paradise Island in the Bahamas. Donate for a Cause does not want my timeshare, and I've been listing it on ebay for almost a year now, with the price ranging from $.01 to $99. I've offered to pay the transfer fees. No takers. I've contacted various charities and NOBODY wants this condo. I've checked into TUG and it appears there are no reputable resellers. The developer will not buy my property back. I don't owe any money on the place, it's just the annual fees. There are no fees for the 2 weeks per year when I'm there, but I can't afford the maintenance and assessment any more. How do I get rid of this thing??? I owe it until 2035 and I can't afford it any more. And suffice it to say that I've asked and nobody I know and nobody in my family wants this place.
I have a niece and two nephews. As the one among my siblings who's into comic book culture, my brothers have started asking me for input and recommendations for the kids, and I'm finding myself having some trouble. A lot of superhero comics may or may not be age appropriate and I also worry about some of the weird sexist subtext in a lot of stuff. I am asking this partially for input in picking Christmas gifts, but also in order to be a better family resource. [more inside]
A fellow aspiring entrepreneur and friend of mine is in desperate need of help. Time is of the essence! Here's the story: Two years ago he created his own business that sells custom hand-made clothes and products. He owns a website and is on all of the normal social media. One of his most effective tools to connect with customers is through instagram. He's worked hard over the years to develop a fan base of over 27K followers. Mysteriously, last night this account was hacked. They changed the password, hacked the business email, and have taken control of the brand. This account is the business' main source of revenue and advertisement. Although he's trademarked the company and taken all the normal preventative measures, the admin. at instagram claims there's nothing they can do to help. Assuming this is true, what are his available options? Essentially, my friend's ship just got hijacked by some evil bastards and he's going to need a seal team to get it back. [more inside]
We would like to get a puppy. Special snowflake details mean we need to find a good breed not just overall but for our circumstances, and for the love of god, someone who sells them. I have been scouring the internet for some time and can find nothing useful because of the noise. [more inside]
The problem is that sometimes is is quite difficult to get a help from my colleagues - I can clearly see that they know how to help me, but just can't really get them talking. [more inside]
I co-own and manage a financial services company and I stopped liking my job about 2 years ago. I'm growing increasingly frustrated because I have to spend my time doing things I don't like, and the job (actually thew industry) has changed so much over the years. My problem is to find an alternative. I read many books about finding my path and did many tests, and the usual result is that I love inventing things, fixing things/problems and helping people. [more inside]
Have you ever read any autobiographical writing that has since helped guide how you make decisions or choose to live your life? Any length is good - particular passages, articles, or even full books. [more inside]
Hi! I have a website, which contains a blog. I haven't posted to this blog in ages and ages. I would like to start updating the blog again and do some stuff to the website, but embarrassingly, I don't know how. [more inside]
Here is a MIDI file of a melody that is stuck in my head, from deep recesses of old memories. I'm not sure why it came back up today. Please tell me where it came from. Difficulty level: pretty sure it's a fairly famous Chinese or other East Asian language pop song, but I can't remember any lyrics.
Is there anything I can possibly do or say to ease my Dad's emotional suffering caused by his terminal prognosis? [more inside]
I am fourth-year student, soon graduating with a Marketing Management (BComm) degree from Ryerson University in Toronto, Canada. This University doesn't exactly have an amazing reputation, especially for its Business Management program...It isn't bad, but it isn't great. I think the institution is good and I enjoyed (for the most part) my years here. I'll probably be graduating with a 3.5 GPA. Tell me mefites, how can I improve my chances for meaningful, successful employment when I'm graduating from a university with a lame reputation, a less-than-amazing GPA? [more inside]
One day I googled "what is the most effective way to help the world" and found a link that told me to "identify a cause with lots of leverage".
My ex attempted to committ suicide three months ago; I've come to know about this just today as I've been made aware of the fact he asked about me to a friend of his. I'm torn between not going and keeping him and our relationship in the past to protect myself or going and risking having him think that means we can become close again. [more inside]
A hummingbird is trapped in my garage...and it seems to be a pretty stubborn one. The real problem is that we have a fixed skylight-type window that it constantly tries to fly out of - it won't go any other way. We opened the other window and the garage doors, but it's just so darn stubborn! [more inside]
I have never had an allergic reaction before so I don't know what to do. I just had hives that lasted for 2 weeks. I went to the doctor and they gave me some shots and it was gone in a day, but it came back the second week - I kept taking my meds so the hives are mostly gone now. Some spots were still kind of itchy but its mostly just dark marks on my face. I was wondering if anybody knows how to remove these dark spots on my face because I really feel uncomfortable looking at the mirror and seeing myself like I'm looking at a moon. [more inside]
So I have never played any of the Pokemon titles, but they seem like something I would like. The game stores around me seem to have several different titles for the Nintendo 3DS that they are selling used pretty cheaply. Which Pokemon title for the 3DS would be OK to start with, assuming I've never played any of them, with bonus points for an older one that might be cheaper? Or should I have started playing from the first title and I'll be hopelessly lost about the gameplay now? [more inside]
The question came up in a thread on the blue linked within and it was suggested that I come here. How do I tell the story of a disabled student's fight against bullying? How do I not make her a victim while still making an impact? [more inside]
Having found the lump a year ago this June, it took me until today to find the courage to try doing something. Many of the sites I found said to go through my local health department, so I finally worked up the courage to walk in today. They had no idea what to say, and no longer offer any program that would help. I walked out with a pamphlet for a clinic in another town that they think "might" have a program to help with a sliding payment scale but they weren't even sure about that. [more inside]
Low energy/mood/will in the past weeks- now feeling the desire to get back on track, but I'm unsure about the way to go about it. I'd love to have your take on some ideas I have and how to put them into practice. [more inside]
I am trying to learn Vectorworks, specifically Spotlight. I'm looking for groups, message boards, etc. where I can ask questions when I get stuck. [more inside]
The vet recently diagnosed my pup with seasonal allergies. She suggested I give him weekly oatmeal baths and gave us a round of antibiotics. Even with those, he's still chewing at the base of his tail when I'm not home. What can I do to soothe his poor little itchy bottom? [more inside]
I'm meant to start working on the graduate entry scheme for the NHS around now. I've quit my old job, moved to a new city where I don't know anyone, and started renting a flat. I was given the 2nd of September as a provisional start date, and have just been told today it will be at least two weeks, probably a month before I begin. What do I do now? [more inside]
Microsoft Security Essentials Missing From System Tray. [more inside]
I know self help books have a bad reputation, but some transcend the genre. Any subject, from parenting to finance to spirituality is ok. [more inside]
So, I just bought a new computer! It's shiny and powerful and it smells good and I ❤ it. But it has Windows 8. I have some philosophical disagreements with Windows 8 (the short version: I don't like the trend of making computers more like locked down, spy-on-you-y Consumer Electronics Devices a la smartphones) but I'm more or less happy with it. Except, oh wait, right clicking anything makes Explorer crash. WHAT AN INCREDIBLE, INNOVATIVE AND TERRIBLY USEFUL FEATURE! Please help me help my new electric dream not do that anymore. [more inside]