144 posts tagged with help by Anonymous.
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Is my boyfriend cheating?

My (20sF) boyfriend (30sM) of 7 months has engaged in lying, gaslighting, and deflecting behavior for the entirety of our relationship. I found a headband and a pair of obviously feminine tweezers (heart on them and used for lashes) in our shared bathroom drawer. Should I leave him now? Please help me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 7, 2016 - 60 answers

ISO Alice in Louisville

My dear friend is battling a serious illness in Louisville, KY. She has two very young children. Hopefully she will be recovered in 3 months. I live far away. I would like to temporarily hire Alice from the Brady Bunch to help her and her husband manage their household chores and help them take care of their children. Barring that, looking for ways to support a young mom from a distance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2016 - 5 answers

What can I do for a family with a toddler with a chronic illness?

I have a nephew, just shy of two years old, who has a rare autoimmune disease. It's very complex, and he is going through a battery of experimental treatments. The success of those treatments is far from guaranteed. Life is crushingly hard for him and his family. We are having trouble coming up with ways to help them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2016 - 11 answers

Help me manage wedding drama before it becomes wedding drama

My partner proposed to me yesterday! Hooray! We will be planning a very small wedding (under 20 guests). Here's the thing: neither of us like the woman my brother is dating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2016 - 15 answers

How do I respond to help that's not helpful?

My husband is a good guy. He consistently provides me with solutions to problems that a) aren't actually the problems, b) cause more work and stress for me, and c) perpetuate purchases instead of pitching in. I need help. But not like this. Advice on/scripts for discussion, please? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2016 - 43 answers

Struggling to Help in a Difficult Family Situation

My brother is in his late thirties, has no job, lives in rural Alabama, is on probation for a while after spending a year in prison, is a registered sex offender, and is a (hopefully) recovering addict. He is still living off my parents, who are at a loss to find a way for him to get a job. The state of Alabama has some incredibly strict limitations on what registered sex offenders can do, which makes dealing with the stigma even more difficult when trying to find employment. Help me come up with suggestions for a job for him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2016 - 13 answers

Is this depression or am I just being dramatic?

Can I technically be depressed if I'm still finding joy and comfort in my relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 1, 2015 - 15 answers

Help me not live in a garbage can.

My apartment is very messy and I need a one time deep cleaning thing. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2015 - 13 answers

Unemployed/transition phase - how to handle future dating issues?

How should I let someone know whom I'm potentially dating that I'm unemployed and going through a transition phase in life? Should I even be dating? Any advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2015 - 16 answers

Dear MetaFilter,

Help. I am suffering from the most debilitating crush (on a guy) I have ever had. Interest is being returned; obviously not quite as strongly as I am feeling it inside. That's fine; the real problem is that my past relationships have been abnormally fast paced and for a variety of reasons this one is going to have to be of the sustained-effort variety, something I have no experience whatsoever with. How do I steadily build up this relationship and what is reasonable for me to expect from him (and him from me) as time passes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2015 - 20 answers

Considering contacting an ex...

After 18 months of virtually no-contact, I am considering reaching out to my ex. I think my reasons for doing so are healthy, with an eye towards moving on and letting go (as opposed to courting drama) - but I would like input from others who have found themselves in a similar position. Also, if I do go ahead and reach out, what is the best way to do so? Behold the great wall of text: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2015 - 49 answers

Turns out, I'm an asshole

It's become abundantly clear that the way in which I lose my temper and the frequency with which I do so is (and it's hard to admit this) abusive. My wife has rightly given me an ulitmatum. I need a plan and I have no idea how or where to begin. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 20, 2015 - 71 answers

How do I create a B2B marketing strategy?

I want to CRUSH IT as a one man marketing team... but I'm inexperienced and don't know where to begin. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2015 - 9 answers

Help us make sex at each other pls thx.

My boyfriend of the past 4 months and I are still struggling to have consistently successful sex with each other for a number of reasons and I need suggestions for things we can do to fix it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2015 - 30 answers

How do I stop asking for help?

I have my first post doc job and am feeling out of my depth most of the time. I also don't have much supervision and can easily panic with problems that I don't know how to solve. I keep reaching out to my former PhD advisor that has given clear signs that he doesn't want to help anymore. Help me stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2014 - 21 answers

Can this marriage be saved?

I am a 35-year-old female, my husband is 44. We are having issues with mismatched libidos, but it goes deeper than that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 4, 2014 - 19 answers

Making friends halfway through college?

I'm a college junior who has had trouble making many friends, help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2014 - 20 answers

Finding a long term effective therapist for a first timer?

Looking for advice on finding a suitable therapist for some issues I'm having and just for a long term self improvement. I have been putting it off, but finally am at a space where I'm ready to find a good long term therapist. About a year ago I met with a therapist a few times but we didn't "click" plus I couldn't afford it at the time. Things I want to work on: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2014 - 5 answers

Friend/employee sexually assaulted

I am a manager and have an employee in my department who is also a friend. She's been having trouble with marriage for some time now and she's confided that it will be ending. Yesterday, she came in an asked to talk privately outside. She was a mess, saying she had been sexually assaulted by her husband the night before. I comforted at best as I could, offering several options for help on a professional. But at this point, I'm not sure of the best way to proceed, privately or professionally. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2014 - 15 answers

Not the front porch kind...

A friend is considering dipping her toes into her local swinger scene. Help me offer non-judgmental help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2014 - 12 answers

Best way to sell a privately owned office building in Northern VA?

There is an 4-story commercial office building that we'd like to sell. The building's tenants are professional businesses. We'd like to sell the building as soon as possible. Teach us how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2014 - 9 answers

Worried in Chicago

Today my father (who I live with; I'm 22) woke me up by banging on my door loudly and yelling at me. He made serious physical threats and destroyed some of my computer equipment. I'm at a loss for what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2014 - 23 answers

There must be something I can do to help

Is there anything I can possibly do or say to ease my Dad's emotional suffering caused by his terminal prognosis? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2013 - 25 answers

Advice for coping with abusive partner when I can't simply leave

My partner of 6 years is behaving more and more violently each day. The worst of it manifests as screaming threats to divorce me or hurt me, but even on "normal" days I walk on eggshells to avoid triggering my partners's sensitivities. I've fled my house on more than one occasion in the last month. I've called on about as many friends as i can for temporary housing, and I have no family left in this world who would care for me longer term. I can't just leave my house because I hold sole responsibility for the mortgage (plus the down payment and the refi and the majority of the income that keeps this whole thing going). Also, my beloved pets live here and if I disappear to avoid abuse, I don't know what would happen to them. "Just leave" is not a solution. What reasonable actions can I take to protect myself, my pets and my property? Yes, I have a lawyer and a therapist and neither have ever dealt with someone who is splitting from a partner that is so awfully mean, so I am short on constructive strategies. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2013 - 32 answers

How does one go about getting welfare?

I'm clueless as to how one goes about getting welfare. What can I expect? Is it easy to get? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 4 answers

Going to a deposition for a sexual assault. Advice, please.

Last night an acquaintance told me that she was sexually assaulted last month. She's going in to talk to the State's Attorney this Friday afternoon. It sounded like she needed a friend so I offered to go with her. What can I expect? How can I help? This is in Chicago. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2013 - 11 answers

I need medical care and I'm too ashamed to go to the doctor.

I need to go to the doctor, but intense shame is keeping me from seeking help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2013 - 46 answers

I love my girlfriend, but cannot shake this feeling.

I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and am very much in love. She is bipolar and it is affecting my emotional and mental health. I cannot shake these feelings of leaving her but I know love is hard to come by. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2013 - 25 answers

Detective Says I'm A Witness, But Won't Say To What?

I know you are not my lawyer. I have a Kafkaesque situation invovling the cops. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 51 answers

Help me help my partner help his father

My father-in-law lives alone, has a poor diet and a heart complaint, is a hoarder, is lonely and socially isolated, and it makes my partner miserable worrying about him. How can I help my partner, help my FIL, and help my partner help my FIL? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2013 - 10 answers

Help me learn to get the most out of ReverbNation and its moods

Why would our Reverb Nation ranking drop a very lot in a very short amount of time? How does it work in general? What can I use to ensure our ranking best reflects our fan count or fan base on other sites - That's sort of the purpose of the band equity, I think, which - could someone explain it to me? What does it value? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2013 - 0 answers

Help me out. I think I've been harassed and I don't know what to do.

So I need some sound advice. I think I was harassed a number of months ago at a local YMCA by another member. I decided to file this complaint internally, and now I'm worried I'm being stonewalled. Normally I would let something like this slide, but I've decided to take up this cause because I think it's the honorable thing to do. If only because I am inspired by the anti-bullying movement. Do I have legal options? Can somebody with any experience or strength with this sort of thing help me figure out what exactly happened to me, and share what they did in a similar situation? Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2013 - 32 answers

How do I deal with my SO's depression?

My SO has depression, and he's about to start taking medication for it. Seeing him depressed makes me upset, and sometimes I show this in front of him, which makes him feel worse. How can I deal with this better, and how can I help him deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2013 - 7 answers

My sister has joined AA. How can I support her?

My 20 year old sister has finally decided to get clean. She is currently doing the 30 meetings in 30 days, and is 2 weeks into it. Her problems are more with drugs than alcohol (she did not abuse alcohol), but as part of this she has also quit drinking. What can I be doing to help her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2013 - 8 answers

How to anonymously and non-creepily help a neighbor?

I don't know my neighbor, but I do know she's going through a rough time. Can I anonymously help her without freaking her out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2013 - 49 answers

How can I help my friend get help for suspected mental illness?

I'm sure that my friend (who lives cross-country) is dealing with un-diagnosed untreated mental illness. I'm 99% sure it's bipolar disorder, based on lots of information and evidence. I don't want this thread to be about diagnosing, but rather about how to help (I think we can agree that the steps I should take to help would be largely the same regardless of what he's grappling with, right?). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2013 - 7 answers

Tips and Tricks for playing concerts?

I have a big important concert that I'm playing coming up sort of soon. I'm not even sure what to ask... but here goes. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2013 - 15 answers

Am I Going Insane?

Considering seeing a psychiatrist for a personality disorder evaluation. Should I go now or wait for some time to pass? Details inside [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2012 - 18 answers

how to help?

Aside from donating money, is there anything that I can do to help the victims of Hurricane Sandy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 2, 2012 - 8 answers

Help for the spouse of someone with mental health issues

I really need help with being married to -- and raising a young child with -- someone who's living with long-term anger issues, depression, anxiety, and OCD (obsessive fear of doing violent things). I feel alone, sad, exhausted, and in way over my head. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2012 - 9 answers

What to do about friend's drug use?

Uncertain about friend's increased drug use, could use some meta-advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 20 answers

How do I get better at managing multiple social cues?

How do I get better at managing multiple social cues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2012 - 8 answers

Eczema on my new tattoo! Help!

Over the last six months, I've had a case of eczema on the backs of my hands. Sometimes it's bad; sometimes it's not. Right now, it's totally raging -- worst it's ever been. The rash never spread anywhere else -- until I got this new tattoo... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2012 - 17 answers

I just want to get back to normal. This is hard.

My depression is getting out of hand. I’ve started therapy, and will probably soon be on meds. But I’m having trouble coping, during the in-between times. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 16, 2012 - 10 answers

Would this be an example of letting my fears control my life?

Is leaving my job because of (possibly irrational) fears an example of avoidance? Or a realization of limitations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 13, 2012 - 7 answers

Is asking for immediate help from your partner unreasonable?

Is asking for immediate help from your partner unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2012 - 191 answers

How can I encourage my brother to leave his extremely toxic workplace?

How can I encourage my brother to leave his extremely toxic workplace? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2012 - 12 answers

Work-y Love Triangle: Help Me Keep It Simple.

I like him, I am pretty sure he likes me, yay! Complications: we essentially work together, and he theoretically has a girlfriend. Tips/suggestions needed for navigating this situation with maturity, honesty, and a minimum of hurt feelings. Stories and anecdotes about similar situations--with good outcomes or otherwise--VERY welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2012 - 63 answers

Reality check on not caring and not knowing what to do?

I feel like something just snapped in my head. Alternatively I'm being a baby and a drama queen, but a tiny voice is telling me something isn't right and I need to ask for help. I'm not sure if the site is really for this, but I would really appreciate a reality check and for someone to tell me what to do now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2012 - 40 answers

Need help from SO during a stressful time

Having a very stressful time lately, and not sure how to ask for help from the SO. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 19, 2012 - 20 answers

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