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How can I help a friend in an abusive relationship that she almost left?

My best friend has been seeing someone for about 7-8 months now. Initially, he seemed very nice and friendly. However, as the months have gone by he's turned out to not be right for her. To make things worse, she's being emotionally abused by him on a rather subtle level, to the point where several times she's been crying while talking to me about him. A couple of weeks ago almost broke up with him after talking with me about recent problem, where I got fed up with the crap she was dealing with and told her she should end it. Since I know she tends to listen to me and to trust my thoughts, should I make a bigger effort to convince her to leave this guy? [more inside]
posted by hytrack on Feb 15, 2014 - 22 answers

Advice for coping with abusive partner when I can't simply leave

My partner of 6 years is behaving more and more violently each day. The worst of it manifests as screaming threats to divorce me or hurt me, but even on "normal" days I walk on eggshells to avoid triggering my partners's sensitivities. I've fled my house on more than one occasion in the last month. I've called on about as many friends as i can for temporary housing, and I have no family left in this world who would care for me longer term. I can't just leave my house because I hold sole responsibility for the mortgage (plus the down payment and the refi and the majority of the income that keeps this whole thing going). Also, my beloved pets live here and if I disappear to avoid abuse, I don't know what would happen to them. "Just leave" is not a solution. What reasonable actions can I take to protect myself, my pets and my property? Yes, I have a lawyer and a therapist and neither have ever dealt with someone who is splitting from a partner that is so awfully mean, so I am short on constructive strategies. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2013 - 32 answers

Helping a victim of physical abuse

A friend (who is 30) of my wife, who lives in Chicago, is being physically abused. We have offered her a place to stay at our home in East TN. As of right now, she seems to want to take us up on that offer. Unfortunately, she and I have never really got along in the past. Assuming she does come to stay with us, how can we best be supportive? [more inside]
posted by Groundhog Week on Jun 11, 2013 - 13 answers

Stare down the emotional pit or look elsewhere?

How do you deal with difficult family situations without imploding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2011 - 8 answers

Is there hope for my brother?

Mentally ill brother is getting worse...and worse...and worse. What are our options? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2011 - 12 answers

I want the babe to be safe.

Neighbor behavior filter: I hear my neighbor's baby (definitely a baby) crying. I hear the sound of a man yelling things like "shut up" or "stop crying". And then I hear the sound of a smack. This makes me feel horrified. But is it any of my business to try to help? [more inside]
posted by your mom's a sock puppet on May 25, 2011 - 40 answers

Upcoming trial

How can i get through this when i have nobody to relate to? [more inside]
posted by xopaigexo on Sep 24, 2009 - 19 answers

Low cost or pro bono legal aid for domestic violence / abuse victims in California?

My friend and her ex-boyfriend got in a fight, he got violent and beat her up pretty bad. She got in the car with their baby and fled cross-country to stay with her parents. There is a hearing next month to determine custody of the child, and she doesn't want to lose the kid to what is likely going to be an abusive father. Lawyer up, right? Problem is, not a lot of money. Can you point me to any organizations in California that provide pro-bono / sliding-scale / low-cost legal aid services for abused women? [more inside]
posted by sergeant sandwich on Jun 28, 2009 - 10 answers

Please help me help my friend.

My friend has just confided that her new husband is often verbally abusive, and occasionally physically abusive. I honestly don't know how to help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2008 - 35 answers

Need help in choosing a psychologist.

Need help in choosing a psychologist. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 2, 2005 - 13 answers

How do you best support a survivor of childhood abuse?

How do you best support a survivor of childhood abuse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2005 - 17 answers

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