There is this guy I've liked for the past four years. I'm 25 and he's 33. We were always good friends, very attracted to each other, but he always told me he never wanted a relationship, not just with me, but with anyone. But I always had very deep feelings for him, he was the first man I ever had sex with, and he cared for me a lot too; even got a little jealous when I had a boyfriend.
Anyway, he's been seeing this girl for a few months that he told me tonight he's really serious about her. It's killing me. He said the reason me and him never got together was because of timing, our age difference, and the fact that we are at different stages in life. He said he sees a better match with her than with me.
He said I'm amazing and it has nothing to do with me, but this whole scenario killed me. With me, it was casual hanging out, and with her, it's nice vacations,meeting his family, spending holidays together. He also came back to me once over the summer while they were broken up, but went back to her. It hurts so much to see him giving to someone else what I always wanted. How can I feel better? :(
posted by summertimesadness1988
on Nov 14, 2013 -
Researching the human heart for an essay. The real heart. not the metaphorical one. I'm having trouble finding interesting articles online that go beyond 10 FACTS ABOUT THE HEART-type-things that get repetitive. I have already done a good bit of research into transplant history and fetal heart development, and I have a story about NASA growing cardiac cells in a bioreactor.
But I still need more! Can you either tell me interesting true stuff or link me to it?
posted by mermaidcafe
on Oct 29, 2013 -
I have made a succession of poor decisions. What are the steps I should take to improve my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 18, 2013 -
You are not my doctor, but you might know what kind of doctor I need to find or what kinds of questions to ask. Please help me piece together a plan so I can get some health issues sorted out. [more inside]
posted by gursky
on Jun 9, 2013 -
Looking for ways to soothe oneself during especially trying times in life. One day at a time is fine and dandy but its the hours and minutes that get excruciating, especially when everything seems void of joy and meaningless. If you have gone through some truly rough times, how did you soothe yourself in the moment? While many have family and friends close by, I have neither so I am looking for ways to manage my pain myself. Any tips and tricks will be much appreciated. Thanks!
posted by xm
on May 30, 2013 -
Scared of heartache. A brief background... I was together with someone for 5 years, married for less than a year before I initiated a divorce which was finalized this month. [more inside]
posted by love2much
on May 20, 2013 -
My father was born with a heart defect, and had surgery as a baby. It was always described to me as his heart being "half veins". Can anyone make a good guess as to what it might have been? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here]
on May 16, 2013 -
One of my closest friends is moving away, like tomorrow. I'd like to get her one of those silly heart necklaces that split in half, one for each friend. No time to order online. I have all day tomorrow, but don't really want a wild goose chase. If I can find such a thing, I would like to spend about 50 bucks., but I'm not firm about that Anybody?
posted by functionequalsform
on Feb 22, 2013 -
Amphetamine filter: I’ve taken Vyvanse four times. But the last time I took it, it did something to me. I suddenly developed some weird heart behavior and some other symptoms. I haven’t touched the stuff for three weeks now, but I still don’t feel like myself from three weeks ago. Help me. I don’t know what’s going on. [more inside]
posted by NotSoSiniSter
on Nov 27, 2012 -
Medical advice... What could be causing extended and ongoing heart weirdness? Long-ish details inside... [more inside]
posted by Ziggurat
on Sep 20, 2012 -
I am unconscious, I've been in a terrible accident and I am in a rural area in the United States. Who decides whether I should be flown to the nearest city or taken to the local rural hospital that may not be equipped to handle my emergency? [more inside]
posted by cda
on Aug 25, 2012 -
I went to see the doctor this morning about some stomach pain I thought might be an ulcer. When the nurse checked my heart rate, it was 48 bpm. Neither the nurse nor my doctor (who knows my med history) said anything about this. I wasn't concerned until I googled it when I got home, and now I'm having a lot of anxiety about it. Called my doctor and he said that a one time reading of 48 with no other symptoms is not troubling. Nurse said I should check my pulse tomorrow and if it's still in the 40s, call them. How much should I be freaking out right now? [more inside]
posted by The Pantless Wonder
on May 16, 2012 -
Internet strangers well-versed in cardiology, lend me your insight! My sister had a stress echocardiography / treadmill test today and is awaiting the results. The attending physician had some funny questions for her that made her wonder about a possible abnormal result. [more inside]
posted by heigh-hothederryo
on Apr 3, 2012 -
Last year, I was diagnosed with having minor left ventricular hypertrophy. After a series of ECGs and an echocardiogram, my doctors decided that my heart function was basically normal and no treatment was required. I haven't really followed this up because I'm a bit frightened of doctors and I'm not registered with a GP.
I'm about to go to a theme park. I know you're not my doctor - but am I likely to die if I go on a few rollercoasters? I'm a 26 year old male, BMI about 23, otherwise healthy. Thanks.
posted by Ted Maul
on Apr 2, 2012 -
I feel like I'm losing my mind from grief due to a broken heart. The people I have tried to trust since my break-up have let me down (except for my one true friend and my therapist but they can only help so much and they are kind of like Saints). I'm scared of my paranoia (big business is corrupt and it rules our country without scruples -- today I decided Verilli must have been drugged by the GOP to have so royally flubbed the Health Care oral arguments which may not be insane but if it's true it makes me want to die). What can I do for myself in NYC to not lose my mind and keep growing as a person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 30, 2012 -
Our son couldn't wait another two or three weeks to come out of his mums tummy so he popped out on Tuesday morning. But he's had a rough first few days of life. There's numerous issues, the most serious of which is a heart defect (teratology of fallot). Tell us it's going to be OK, drawing on your experience with this to help reassure us. [more inside]
posted by Effigy2000
on Nov 11, 2011 -
What are some good muscle-building, resistance-based exercises that don't place a lot of strain on the heart? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph
on Jul 5, 2011 -
Yes, yes, YANMD. When I'm very stressed I feel slight pain/weakness on the left side of my chest, under my armpit and sometimes across my shoulder. [more inside]
posted by joyeuxamelie
on May 1, 2011 -
Tested, consulted and faced with imminent surgery for repair/replacement of valve.
Male, 60, congenital MVP, a problem since contacting bacterial infection. Severe mitral regurgitation, enlargement, familial thrombocytopenia, fatigued, otherwise good health.
Looking for 2nd opinion, Doctor recommendations in NYC.
posted by ebesan
on Feb 11, 2011 -
Should I suck it up and get into a relationship with/sleep with someone I'm not really attracted to, to gain some relationship momentum (ie break the streak) and get over someone I can't have? [more inside]
posted by vilolagrl
on Dec 28, 2010 -
A recent heart stress test shows according to my GP that I'm probably going to have to go to the hospital and have another heart stent put in. I see my cardiologist this Friday for more details. I presently have 7 stents in place. I'm staring to wonder if there is a upper number of stents that a person can have on board.
posted by malhaley
on Dec 9, 2010 -
Is it possible for your cholesterol levels to be transiently elevated, and if not, what should I do about mine? [more inside]
posted by bad grammar
on Nov 3, 2010 -
I happened to stumble upon several health articles yesterday that mentioned that young, normal people should not feel a pulse in the little notch between your collarbones at the base of the neck. However, I can definitely feel a pulse in this area. [more inside]
posted by starpoint
on Sep 28, 2010 -
My 58 year old dad has been having a squeezing pain in his heart. It has happened a few times, and then just goes away. He went to the emergency room, got a lot of tests done including the stress test, and they determined that his heart is healthy. He has healthy blood pressure and has a manual labor job, and so gets a lot of exercise. The doctor said it might be stress. Does anyone have experience with this? My dad is ready to just try to relieve his stress, but I am worried that it could be something else that the doctor may not have picked up on. Any solutions, including alternative medicine? Thank you!
posted by tessalations999
on Jul 10, 2010 -
Why do we typically take our pulses at the neck or wrist as opposed to the chest or side right at the heart? At least from my n = 1
self-observations, it's both an order of magnitude stronger and easier to find if you just stick your hand on your chest and count off that instead of trying to find the right spot on the neck or wrist. [more inside]
posted by floam
on May 25, 2010 -
Recently was hospitalized for acute bacterial endocarditis.
The follow-up cardiologist visit is summed up as follows;
"..had his echo/doppler study performed today. It shows mitral valve prolapse, which is quite severe. There is a suggestion of ruptured chordae involving the posterier leaflet. There is thickening of the posterier leaflet and a very severe mitral regurgitation. His left ventricular systolic function remains normal and his left atrial dimension is only mildly dilated. At this point, we are going to manage him medically and further management will depend on his progress".
There is no medication yet, and I am due for a follow-up visit soon.
Have been researching; and also want to ask advice of hive, for areas/questions to prepare.
Subjects include his mention of future possible replacement; exercise and diet for heart health; anxiety related to MVP.
Help me focus on a valuable discussion with the doctor.
posted by ebesan
on May 24, 2010 -
ParanoidFilter: For the longest time I've been getting chest pain with my anxiety. Will I be able to tell the difference between the physical symptoms of a panic attack and a heart attack? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 8, 2010 -
For seven minutes everyday, a part of my job nearly kills me. I need the assistance of people with computer programming abilities. [more inside]
posted by tylerfulltilt
on Apr 7, 2010 -
I've had PSVT for about 9 years. Recently it has become significantly worse. I am uninsured, and very scared. What to expect financially from treatment, and am I going to die? [more inside]
posted by lazaruslong
on Mar 6, 2010 -
A dear friend had emergency heart surgery last week. He did not have insurance. Does the hospital just bill him the full amount and wait for him to declare bankruptcy, or...? [more inside]
posted by hegemone
on Feb 19, 2010 -
Is the chest pain I've been experiencing directly related to stress and anxiety? If so, how can I alleviate some of the discomfort and put my mind at ease? [more inside]
posted by Tenacious.Me.Tokyo
on Dec 28, 2009 -