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I've fallen down a well and can't get out

I was a high achiever during high school and college, but after 10 years of working in the real world, I'm stuck in a mediocre career with few options for advancement. How can an achievement-oriented person such as myself find happiness in mediocrity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2016 - 26 answers

Should I go on a trip with my relatively new partner?

I've been dating a person for three months. We booked a short trip but since the booking I learned things about how he processes conflict that concern me. We've had a good conversation since then. I'm not worried for my safety, but is this trip still a good idea? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres on Jul 29, 2016 - 44 answers

Do I make a lateral career move strictly for happiness?

Hola Mefi, Here's the rub: I work at a place that I do not like very much, but is on the up and up with lots of funding. I am the last person in my department who has not quit and hold a lot of tribal knowledge. I got a job offer from a competitor for the same amount of money and the same title. Do I make a happiness move or do I try and make a few bucks? Deets inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2016 - 14 answers

More Happy Than Not-Happy

What are some great art & photography resources? With absurdity, originality, variety, and quality? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser on Mar 26, 2016 - 3 answers

How to make these good feelings last....forever

Feeling a breakthrough in my depression. Damn, this feels good. I’m getting more actively engaged with life, and I feel happy about myself. To be honest, I don’t remember feeling this good. But there’s this underlying fear – how do I make it last? And how do I avoid the destructive thought patterns that got me here in the first place, especially during times that’ll inevitably be harder than being 23 with very little responsibility? [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Jan 14, 2016 - 10 answers

Anxious girlfriend bringing me down - can this be stopped or prevented?

My girlfriend has anxiety. My last girlfriend did too, as did the one before her and the one before her. What is it about me that's attracting anxious people, and how can I change it? And how can I best handle my girlfriend's anxiety without getting caught up in a caretaker role? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2015 - 34 answers

How can I feel grateful for things I don't feel I deserve?

Keeping a gratitude journal is supposed to make you feel happier, but instead it frequently fills me with guilt and shame because it reminds me that my life is full of good things I've done nothing to deserve. How can I allow myself to be happy about the good things in my life? [more inside]
posted by cortisol on Nov 19, 2015 - 31 answers

How do I not want a relationship?

How can I become satisfied enough by non-relationship pursuits that a relationship no longer feels necessary? Using "relationship" to mean a romantic relationship, here. [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Nov 4, 2015 - 20 answers

How to properly enjoy happiness?

I realize this is almost a bratty question to ask, but it's giving me a hard time. I am happy. Things are going well. I feel like I'm looking at a pretty sunset and thinking "eh, okay. enough of that. ho hum." How can I maximize my enjoyment (?) of this blessedly uncomplicated time in my life without screwing it up? [more inside]
posted by witchen on Oct 6, 2015 - 21 answers

How can I make my life worth living for its own sake?

I want to make my life worth living for its own sake, but I've got some limitations that mean the standard advice on this topic doesn't work for me. Has anyone been in a similar situation, and managed to improve things? [more inside]
posted by RedRob on Aug 31, 2015 - 21 answers

Longing in another language

I know there are words in other languages for things we don't have words for in English sometimes. I am looking for a word that means something along the lines of "longing for things that one feels one is missing out on due to circumstances beyond ones control". In addition I am looking for other words that describe specific types of sadnesses or happinesses. These can be in any language.
posted by jitterbug perfume on Jul 15, 2015 - 14 answers

How to stop visiting parents so frequently?

Both my parents and parents-in-laws are in the same city. The same city we're in. We feel overwhelmed with the once-a-week visits. How do we mitigate their expectations that we visit so frequently? A storm of culture-specific and special snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll on Jun 10, 2015 - 31 answers

Help me find a hobby for my retired parents

My parents have been together for almost 50 years, with their ups and downs. Because of their individual situations, I'm afraid they'll drift into an unhappy final period of their lives, and I'm trying to figure out something to prevent that. All the details below. [more inside]
posted by caudingo on Jun 9, 2015 - 26 answers

My bf always asks if I'm okay, and it's frustrating.

I don't like being asked on such a regular basis (five times or more a day) if I'm okay. I just want to go about my normal activities and feel my normal range of emotions without having to be self-conscious about it. I know he means well, but I feel like if I'm not always smiling and outwardly placid -- like if I'm trying to find something in the house or concentrating intently on writing an email -- then something is wrong, the kind of wrong that I suddenly have to open up and talk about to placate his need to know if I'm okay. 98 percent of the time, I am fine. I'm not a naturally perky person, and I'm a bit introverted so my inner life is important to me. I've mentioned all this to him several times. How do I get him to stop?
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2015 - 42 answers

Support my wife with her new career, that hasn't paid yet.

Marriage / Employment filter: My wife is finally incredibly happy in her job (a new career), but it hasn't paid a check for 6 months. I want to be supportive, but all I see is her working her ass off and not getting paid. What do we need to talk about / to weigh at the 1 year mark when we assess her getting a job with a salary? (see within for a very long story) [more inside]
posted by lonemantis on Mar 4, 2015 - 35 answers

little ways to make the world a slightly better place?

When I'm out drinking, I bring my group's empty bottles and glasses back up to the bar so the bartender doesn't have to come out and get them. When I go out to eat, I consolidate the plates and cutlery after the meal so they're easy to bus off the table. What are some other similarly inconsequential-seeming habits I can adopt to help make the world a slightly easier and more pleasant place for my fellow travelers to live? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Feb 6, 2015 - 81 answers

Tales of frugal & thrifty inspiration

As I work to pay down my debt, while simultaneously learning how to better enjoy life without spending money, I am always in search of essays and books that demonstrate the same: a life well-lived that isn't dependent on having much (if any) money. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on Feb 2, 2015 - 15 answers

Looking for info on the impact of having children on happiness

Does having children impact men and women's happiness differently? [more inside]
posted by orsonet on Jan 23, 2015 - 5 answers

Single parent dating: I want to start meeting nice men again

A long time has passed since I posted here, and a lot has happened in that long time. Quick update is that now I am legally divorced. I also got laid off last year and thankfully was able to find another great job quickly. Moved to NYC, which is a fantastic city and I went to school here so have a lot more friends here than when I was in Boston. Anyway, so I want to date. I don’t know if I want to get into a serious relationship just yet, but I just want to share my life with someone and do fun things on weekends. Where do I meet responsible, loving, educated men who would want to date me? I haven’t seen anyone in two years (since separation/divorce)… I think I should change that… [more inside]
posted by Spice_and_Ice on Dec 31, 2014 - 12 answers

Help me experience joy again.

I have been experiencing a really limited ability to feel actual emotion, even though I'm not having a depressive episode, and I am having a lot of trouble finding a way out. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Nov 5, 2014 - 11 answers

C'mon, get happy

I am in a pretty emotionally difficult time in my life. (I'm in the midst of a season of high stakes interviews, and my finances right now are rather limited.) I've got access to professional help, so I'm all covered there, but I think it would be helpful to have a list that I can turn to on a regular basis of easy to do things that are 1) free or very low cost, 2) outside my apartment, and 3) schedule-independent* to help me keep my spirits up during this difficult time. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco on Nov 4, 2014 - 25 answers

Happiness in Daily Doses

What small steps/actions do you take to increase your daily happiness/contentment? I'm interested in practices that can be easily adopted in a full life of work, exercise, home & health care.
posted by CMcG on Oct 1, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me be stronger and more resilient

Self defeating thoughts make it hard to get things done. I want to be able to enjoy my time at school, but my low self confidence causes a lot of anxiety. Is there a way I can shift my perspective? [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Sep 28, 2014 - 7 answers

How to develop a positive worldview

I had a really lousy childhood, and it left me with the belief that the world is basically cruel and threatening and that people are just looking for excuses to judge you and put you down. I really envy the kind of people who feel like the world is good to them, that they are lucky, that people generally like them, and that things will turn out for the best. I'd like to shift my mindset, but how? Do you have any good techniques or reading suggestions that will help me develop a more positive worldview? [more inside]
posted by lemerle on Sep 18, 2014 - 27 answers

Simple pleasures: or, how to have a good (great) day?

Because I often need inspiration and a gentle nudge or two, I like to hear what others 'simple pleasures' are in life, this list and this other list being two examples I'm keen on. What simple pleasures do you all enjoy? What makes for a great day, especially one you're spending by yourself?
posted by nightrecordings on Aug 24, 2014 - 29 answers

Help me sort my routine out please

I'm struggling with my routine as I am new to work life, details inside. [more inside]
posted by aivilo91 on May 18, 2014 - 5 answers

Solitude 101.

Solitude, isolation, introversion...how to be happy with related life choices and what to watch out for. Advice? [more inside]
posted by Caskeum on Apr 22, 2014 - 29 answers

iOS/Android games that cultivate your happiness or lift your spirits?

A new, simple game I downloaded this morning, Personal Zen, got me thinking. What games do you play that cultivate happiness? Literally lift your spirits? It doesn't have to be a game "designed" to do so like this particular game necessarily.
posted by dep on Mar 23, 2014 - 18 answers

How do you stop thinking of something that still hurts?

If you've decided to let something go in a relationship, how do you get past it while it still hurts you? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Feb 8, 2014 - 21 answers

choose: job and lifestyle OR friends and family

Which would you choose: a great job and lifestyle OR being close to your family and friends? Especially if you really can't have both at the same time...? [more inside]
posted by elizamina on Jan 25, 2014 - 33 answers

Oh the fun you'll have!

Magical video of festive people speaking lines in rhyme about life and fun? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo on Nov 25, 2013 - 2 answers

Help me focus less on my fears and more on my dreams.

I'm struggling with a lack of self-confidence and undercurrent of doubt, and hoping that I might be able to shift my attention more towards what I hope for the future than what I fear from it. What are some simple techniques that I can use to gradually move the spotlight over to the positive? Looking for very concrete exercises or practices. Something like: “start each morning writing a vision of what you want.” Would that actually work? I'd think it might just freak me out more, make me feel guilty that I'm not there yet. But something concrete like that. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by Calicatt on Oct 4, 2013 - 11 answers

How do I learn to make myself happy for me, not others?

Keeping myself happy: How do I maintain the mindset that it's for me and not to find a partner? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Sep 1, 2013 - 9 answers

Making life more bearable in a province/lifestyle we hate?

My husband and I are dying to move to another province where we have tons of family. People are much more laid back there; they know how to have fun without spending a lot of money. They enjoy each other's company, chat with strangers, tell great stories and place a lot less value on money. It's a beautiful province with lakes and tons of beach access. Houses have decks and fireplaces. To me, it's paradise. The family component is wonderful for my daughter. The problem is that in our home province, we make crap-tons of money. Moving to the other province could mean as much as a $50,000 pay cut. We've decided to stay here another 2 years to build up some super-savings. My question is: What can we do to make our lives here more bearable until we are ready to move? If worthwhile, I could spend up to $500 a month on any changes. [more inside]
posted by kitcat on Aug 19, 2013 - 40 answers

Blogs, books, and other resources like The Happiness Project

I recently listened to The Happiness Project and started reading the blog. I have enjoyed this and found it insightful, so I'm looking for more resources like this. I'm currently listening to The Happiness Hypothesis. Basically, I'm looking for information (with or without personal anecdotes) on possible means of achieving a happier, more balanced and enjoyable life that might not otherwise be obvious.
posted by wansac on Aug 18, 2013 - 12 answers

Some lawyers are happier than others, right?

What kinds of lawyers are happiest? Personality types, practice areas, employer types -- or any other relevant factors. Anecdotal evidence welcome, although certainly non-anecdotal information would be great, too. [more inside]
posted by J. Wilson on Jul 18, 2013 - 31 answers

No thanks, I'm good here

Pushing your work beyond the upper limits of your comfort zone: what is this phenomenon called? [more inside]
posted by Argyle_Sock_Puppet on Jul 1, 2013 - 6 answers

I can't find this cool toy I saw at the park yesterday!

I saw the coolest little foursquare toy, kind of a portable mini-court, yesterday at the park. I wish I'd stopped and talked to the guys playing with it, but I thought I could find it pretty easily... but not so. So there's a little trampoline, I guess that's about two feet square, with a circular wall around it divided into four sections. They had a ball smaller than a kickball but bigger than a tennis ball, and if they hit it on the trampoline and it went between one person's section of the bordering wall, then it was like it had hit their square. Does anybody know what this? I must have one. Immediately.
posted by dubadubowbow on Jun 16, 2013 - 4 answers

How to be more process-oriented and less goal-oriented?

I'm trying to train myself to find more joy in creative pursuits, and I think a key would be in becoming more about the process and less about "success." Any advice on how to rewire my brain to this end?
posted by malhouse on Jun 4, 2013 - 12 answers

What strategies can I use to successfully do a job I don't like?

I need help constructing mental snowshoes that will prevent me from falling into deep drifts of work BS and frustration at a job I can't leave. [more inside]
posted by lastwomanstanding on May 21, 2013 - 14 answers

Looking for happy, uplifting book suggestions!

Help me find books that are as happy, joyful and well-written as Silas Marner! Last time I visited my grandmother I gave her my copy of Silas Marner. She loved the book so much she read it three times in a row within two days… She told me it brought her "an unexpected deep and quiet sense of joy"… Because she's pretty sad and depressed right now I'd love to find other books that might lighten her long and lonely days! Can you help me? :) [more inside]
posted by mugitusqueboom on Apr 22, 2013 - 29 answers

How can I inspire my partner to be a healthy, fit person with me?

I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2013 - 31 answers

Working with employee cynicism

How to work with employees who don't like what you're doing, but won't work towards making things better? Specifically vocally negative long-term employees who think they know it all, but refuse to share their wisdom beyond flat-out complaints because it's "not their job"? [more inside]
posted by tzb on Apr 4, 2013 - 38 answers

Help me become more happier and optimistic

I've become an unhappy Grumpy person. I would love some suggestions on positive music and notebooks, calendars which have inspiration positive quotes ? I just need some motivation in times of stress. Some blogs on positive thinking would also be useful. Thanks to all!
posted by happiness01 on Mar 17, 2013 - 18 answers

Our cat hates everything. Help us make him happy.

Our year-and-a-half old cat hates being touched. He's incredibly aggressive towards anyone except me and my wife (and sometimes towards us too). We've yet to find a toy that holds his attention. What would make him happy? [more inside]
posted by and so but then, we on Jan 26, 2013 - 42 answers

2013 will be our year! How?

2013 will be our year! ...But how? Have you had a storybook year or season at work or school or in a club? Something that felt like a Lifetime movie, making it to regionals for the first time for choir, or smashing your sales goal for the quarter, or collecting a ton of stuff for your canned food drive? I am trying to figure out what factors influence extraordinary success in a team setting. [more inside]
posted by estlin on Dec 31, 2012 - 4 answers

Career vs. Comfort

I work in IT and am 32. I've recently left my job of 11 years for a 10K pay increase and to try to advance my career. I really didn't want to do it because I was comfortable and happy where I was in the old job. I'm an ISTJ (introvert) and my nature is to not make big changes in my life. I worry about not having a clear path in my life. Ive been at the new job for 2 months now and It's been up and down but i'm definitely not as happy as I was at the old job. [more inside]
posted by qxmbati on Dec 2, 2012 - 20 answers

Rave Filter: am I going in with the right expectations?

Rave Filter: am I going in with the right expectations? [more inside]
posted by Sine_Agraphia on Nov 5, 2012 - 27 answers

Books/advice on how to let go of perfection and be happy with where you are?

Books/advice on how to let go of perfection and be happy with where you are? [more inside]
posted by mcav on Aug 20, 2012 - 14 answers

Secular songs of communal joy

Secular songs of communal joy? [more inside]
posted by Egg Shen on Aug 17, 2012 - 33 answers

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