There are about a zillion goal-tracking and habit-forming apps out there with a bit of gamification ingrained in them. Which are great? [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne
on Jun 3, 2014 -
I'd like examples of traits/personality types/habits/behaviors wherein most people fall into two or three "camps", none of whom are generally aware of the existence of the other(s). "Ask Vs. Guess Culture"
and "Sit Vs. Stand to Wipe?"
are two examples (a LOT of people are absolutely gobsmacked when they learn that Asking and/or Standing is not only an option, but a POPULAR option). I'm NOT interested in predefined typologies (e.g. the MBTI or Buzzfeedy "What Garden Implement Are You?" kinda stuff)... just ones that, 1. Arise kinda organically, 2. Involve Group A and Group B people frequently being unaware of one another's existence.
posted by julthumbscrew
on May 12, 2014 -
Has anyone conquered the overwhelming task of personal and life goal setting and tracking?
I just got a Tools4Wisdom weekly planner and I don't know where to start.
Specifically I'm looking for a simplification and breakdown of making this process a new long term habit. I think that someone who has been there and done that who could share their insights on how they made it manageable will be really helpful.
I've looked at some websites on this but it's too much data to process. I guess I'm looking for a dumbing down of some sort based on personal experiences.
posted by mrflibble
on Jan 11, 2014 -
Having finished, and loved, The Good House by Ann Leary
, I'm interested in other novels where addictions, problems, obsessions or bad habits affect the (unreliable?) narrator as part of their character rather than the main plot theme. [more inside]
posted by mippy
on Dec 5, 2013 -
former chronic procrastinators, reformed flighty people, etc.: What's the #1 change you've made to improve your organizational and time management skills? (new mantra or mindset? taking a course? etc) [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita
on Nov 19, 2013 -
I've kind of started to implement htid's excellent advice
regarding breaking depression-based habits, but I don't have a good way to keep track of my goals. So, what's a good way for me to keep track of how many times I've done multiple different tasks? Paper and pencil doesn't really work for me. Something I can do on my iPhone would be best. [more inside]
posted by SugarAndSass
on Aug 18, 2013 -
I don't floss regularly, and I want to. I just can't seem to get over the hump and really do it every day. Please hope me. Did you develop a habit because you felt like you really had to but sorta didn't really care? How? Bonus: I seem to not form habits (or at least this one) very easily. People say that thing about doing something for 21 days and then it's a habit? Not so much. I can very easily fall off the wagon with flossing after months. I have floss I like, so I don't think that's going to be the answer.
posted by stoneweaver
on Aug 13, 2013 -
There are tons of "Don't Break The Chain"-style motivation tools in the iOS App Store and online, but I'm having trouble finding one with a feature I find essential: the ability to skip days on the fly
without breaking your streak. [more inside]
posted by Ian A.T.
on Apr 13, 2013 -
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
posted by markbao
on Dec 19, 2012 -
Some weeks/months, you feel closer to your partner. Other weeks/months, not as much. Time and the natural course of things usually propel the cycle back around – is there anything you can do to hasten the process? What strategies do you employ in your relationship to rebuild closeness in your long-term relationship/marriage? [more inside]
posted by booksandwine
on Nov 20, 2012 -
If I wrote down all the witty/funny/odd/insightful things that cross my mind all day long, I'd have tons of ideas for creative projects. The problem: I'm missing the part of my brain that says "Hey, write that down!" [more inside]
posted by Rykey
on Aug 21, 2012 -
I need more sleep and I have the means. But I don't seem to want to, you know, actually sleep. What gives? [more inside]
posted by iamkimiam
on Jul 17, 2012 -
I am a messy person who doesn't like to clean. Should I put more effort in being cleaner, or just accept this part of myself and get over the guilt? How? Or is this a psychological problem? Or maybe it's normal. [more inside]
posted by lacedcoffee
on Jul 8, 2012 -
This is for my mom. "Luke, baby i keep, ten months old, keeps spitting/blowing for lack of a better word, his food out. he is still on baby food plus a little table food. does it to both of them. does it to his mom too. what can we do about it? Will you ask people you know with babies about this situation? not fun."
posted by bleary
on Jul 7, 2012 -
How can I stop messing with my cuticles and nails? I don't want sad-looking hands forever! [more inside]
posted by sucre
on Feb 24, 2012 -
The guy I am dating has unusual tendencies, is this a part of his ADD? Or his quirkiness? How should I approach the subject? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650
on Feb 13, 2012 -
I'm freeing up two hours a day in my schedule, and thinking about my mortality. In the next five years I'd like to spend that 3,600 hours to get really good at something in the area of music, art or programming, or some combination thereof. Which areas are most likely to show dramatic improvement with 3,000 hours of practice? [more inside]
posted by mecran01
on Feb 2, 2012 -
What did you do without removing your tonsils
that helped reduce the frequency of your bouts of tonsillitis? [more inside]
posted by telegraph
on Jan 3, 2012 -
I am a 27 year old girl and I'm still living like a teenager or college student. I have no adult habits and put absolutely no effort into taking care of myself. I don't understand how I got this way or how other people my age have transformed into real adults.
I don't even know what I'm asking.. I guess I need help figuring out how to develop good habits, how to take care of myself, and hear from people that have experienced this same problem. [more inside]
posted by chickibaby
on Oct 22, 2011 -
One of my reactions to stress is to stop eating. It's not a conscious thing, food just stops being palatable and my hunger vanishes. Two days of nothing but coffee leaves me in a worse state and I ended up more stressed and it just starts over again. How do I force myself to eat when I really don't want to and break this cycle and/or what can I eat that will give me enough energy and nutrition to plow through a mood and not end up on accidental fasts?
posted by The Whelk
on Jul 2, 2011 -
What are some handwriting uses that encourage regular, repeated sessions? Difficulty: Meaningful output (i.e. not rote exercises), creativity optional (i.e. writing short stories, composing lyrics are less desirable). [more inside]
posted by brentajones
on Jun 29, 2011 -
I feel sometimes like I'm fighting a losing battle with myself: to accomplish certain things, stave off certain bad habits, develop certain good ones. How do you actually change yourself for the better when your lizard-brain is fighting you every step of the way? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500
on Jun 2, 2011 -
One of my few habits is that I have no regular routines/habits. Is this something I definitely need to change or is there a way to leverage this to do everything I want to do in life? [more inside]
posted by thorny
on May 31, 2011 -
I'm looking for an app I can use for checking the same things off every day. I use iPhone and have Windows. [more inside]
posted by dubadubowbow
on Mar 23, 2011 -
How did I develop such an aversion to looking people in the eye, and how I can overcome it? It was recently pointed out to me that I unconsciously avoid eye contact in all but the most intimate circumstances---one on one conversations, with friends, etc. Apparently, this makes me look "shifty-eyed" or even like I'm trying to peek down a woman's shirt, so I'd like to stop, but it's very difficult. Not only do I do it unconsciously, but making eye contact with strangers or more casual acquaintances actively feels wrong. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang
on Feb 21, 2011 -
Amazing skin forever? At my ritzy gym I constantly see older gentlemen with the most amazing skin quality: smooth, clear, even tone, even lightly tanned. What have they done to get/keep this peternatual skin quality and what can I do now as a younger man to get it?
posted by The Whelk
on Feb 18, 2011 -
How do I make a habit of failing successfully (or at least in ways interesting to myself and others)? [more inside]
posted by Bwithh
on Feb 8, 2011 -
In search of hacks/tricks/secrets and/or simple ways that you have successfully trained your two year old to go to sleep on their own. [more inside]
posted by joyride
on Jan 12, 2011 -
I realized recently that I prefer licorice when it's gone so stale it's almost rock-hard, and similarly I also would much rather eat dry, horribly overcooked turkey than a properly-cooked, moist bird. I think pristine new leather on bags or furniture looks ugly, and prefer it when it's battered and beaten up. I understand and appreciate the qualities that makes the "good" versions of these things good, but they just don't dovetail with my subjective experience. What are some other things that are better when they're worse
posted by hels
on Dec 5, 2010 -
Help me make my science-fiction story more realistic: what kind of mistakes might give away a bunch of born-and-bred military types trying to go undercover as civilians? Or, if you had military experience, what habits did you have to unlearn/relearn after discharge, that might be confusing or difficult if you hadn't had a civilian life previously and your off-duty time was much more regimented? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang
on Aug 19, 2010 -
I want to learn as much as possible about the psychology of purposely forming new habits (like exercising each day) or sticking to something which requires daily work (like learning a language). I am especially interested in the role that social pressure of peers can play in a person's success (Alcoholics Anonymous, study partners, even the recent findings that a person's weight is related to the weight of those close to them
may be examples). Books, articles, jumping off points -- academic or otherwise -- would be very much appreciated!
posted by the jam
on Aug 17, 2010 -
My roommate is a pretty heavy drinker and smoker and he spends his Saturday nights passed out on the love seat in the den. His feet extend over the arm of the love seat. He sleeps on his back and I'm concerned that the pressure on his leg from the arm of the seat could cause a blood clot. Is this a real danger? Example of his position here
posted by zzazazz
on Jul 31, 2010 -