I’m in a rut. I focus so hard on what I dislike about myself and my situation that I can’t motivate myself to get out of it. How do I stop dwelling on these things? How do I start? Lots of self-centered complaints inside. [more inside]
Loneliness, Stress at work, I created this bad habit to keep it together. Now what? Details inside. [more inside]
I can't stop reading PUA websites even though they make me unhappy, and I'm not sure how to deal with the effects it's having on me. [more inside]
I am by nature a restless, fidgety person, and when I'm eating out with friends, this tendency manifests as restless eating -- just because the food is there and I want something to do with my hands and with myself. It happens almost unconsciously. Any tips on how to avoid this behavior?
I saw an incredibly concise quote floating around social media a few weeks back that described how hierarchy becomes self-perpetuating. The gist of it was that those at the top of a hierarchy deprive those below them of the practice required to conceptualize and implement their own plans, and then turn around and justify their position by pointing out how incapable their subordinates have become. I'm almost certain the person quoted was female, and I'm fairly sure she was a social sciences academic, but may have been an activist of some stripe.
For some reason, probably a combination of sweet tooth and several years of conditioning, I don't feel full after lunch/dinner unless I eat something sweet, ie. a dessert. But I would like to change that, especially after witnessing family members dealing with medical issues which would benefit from a healthier diet and observing the daily negotiation for/extortion of candy in exchange for a few bites of food between a toddler and his mother (not me, thank god). So I'm thinking about starting a new habit, some after-meal routine which would make my brain and stomach know I'm now done with eating, in place of eating a piece of cake or chocolate. [more inside]
My life is crazy busy (whose isn't?) with school, small children and work, so often exercise is the thing that gets cut. I want to make my daily life more active, so that when I can't "exercise" I have still not been totally sedentary. I loved this question; I now stand like a flamingo every time I brush my teeth. But the question asks for general life tricks, and I am looking for exercise-specific habits. I am having a hard time googling for tricks because I am not looking for tricks or habits to implement while "exercising" or to get me to exercise. [more inside]
As soon as I write something down, I forget about it. This is very problematic for to-do lists... because as soon as I write down a thing I want to do, I no longer feel like doing it and find it uninteresting to even think about (because hey, I wrote it down, so I no longer have to think about it). Help me hack my motivation to overcome this. [more inside]
There are tons of "Don't Break The Chain"-style motivation tools in the iOS App Store and online, but I'm having trouble finding one with a feature I find essential: the ability to skip days on the fly without breaking your streak. [more inside]
Please tell me about the habits and skills you've picked up as a result of your profession. It might be something you don't even notice because it's second nature to you, but others have pointed it out to you, or it could be something you've noticed about others. [more inside]
Give me better rules of thumb for dealing with mundane failure: missing deadlines, losing things, and so forth. [more inside]
Customizable fitness gamification, or other ways to motivate myself to do slow-result physical therapy?
How do I gamify my daily physical therapy, or otherwise help myself to stay compliant? [more inside]
How do I get my toddler to stop shoveling in his food and take his time? [more inside]
Need some advice and strategies for quitting smoking, with a couple of other specific practical questions (including how to manage it as a couple). [more inside]
What's a simple workout that can help me get into the habit of regular gym visits? [more inside]
Should I train myself to sleep on my back? [more inside]
I've got some questions about driving after a hiatus of several years. [more inside]
When I get nervous in social situations, I feel the need to have something to sip on. If it's an alcoholic beverage, I can get over-inebriated. If it's non-alcoholic, I have to make constant trips to the bathroom. I need to break this habit or make it manageable. [more inside]
ResolutionFilter: I really want to start slowly adopting new, healthier habits. As it usually does, the inspiration has hit me just before New Years. But I don't want to make a resolution, I want to establish habits that I can keep. I've tried before, but here's where I always fall down: how do I make the new habits stick? They never actually make it to the "habit" stage for me. [more inside]
Please help me enforce my self imposed ban on nasal excavation! [more inside]
How to Comfort a Nervous Friend? [more inside]
RewardFilter: Inspired by the recent Habit Judo hoo-ha, what are novel and interesting ways to reward yourself ? [more inside]
How can I help my friend detox from heroin in NYC? [more inside]
How do I get a good idea in front of more people? [more inside]
I chew my mouth and I want to stop without using gum or other mouth foods as my main crutch. [more inside]
I use artificial sweetener. I think I shouldn't. Help me not. [more inside]
Wando the Reliable has carried me through multiple relationships and alone times, but I think it's time. Help me break up with my Hitachi Magic Wand. [more inside]
How can I train myself to do [anything] every day? Help me to re-calibrate my routine-resistant brain. [more inside]
Despite years of badgering, my mom will not stop smoking cigarettes. I've decided to compromise and buy her an e-cigarette device. Have you made this transition? What were your experiences, and what product(s) did you try?
Help me be less bothered by my husband's habit of worrying things and gnawing on them. [more inside]
I'm looking for figures on will-power. How many people who try to lose weight, quit smoking, kick an addiction, start exercising, etc. will be successful (particularly long term)? In other words, I'm looking for experimental or population studies on how often people are able to change their behavior in significant ways when they resolve to do so. Well supported anecdotal data about large groups ("vietnam vets were(n't) largely able to quit heroin on coming home") is only slightly less appreciated.
An app for that? I want to give my iPhone a list of things I want to collect data on. "How many of the last n days have I completed x" is exactly want I want to know. It's not a goal, it's not a habit, I'm not trying to hit a target weight, and I'm not trying to quit smoking. [more inside]
Fingernail Filter: I know its been asked many times how to quit this compulsion. While that is a concern of mine, I need to know what to do to alleviate pain in the fingers from excessive fingernail biting. What do you recommend? [more inside]
I'm looking for ways to change my behavior. It's important for various reasons that I start reinforcing some behaviors and stopping others. I'm a procrastinator for one, and tend to start projects and not finish them for another. Is there a research backed methodology for doing so? [more inside]
What can I do to stop/discourage my habit of pulling out facial hair? [more inside]
I have Tourette Syndrome, and I can't stop jumping up and down. Help me rewire my defective brain to channel this activity into something less destructive. [more inside]
Dogfilter: We need help training our dog to sleep in her kennel and not in our bed. How can we do this? [more inside]
I've always had a problem with pulling my beard hair out similar to other people's problems with biting their fingernails. This sort of behavior also runs in my family. What can I do to stop? [more inside]
I'm starting a new job soon. What are some good habits to incorporate from day one? [more inside]
I have a very strong image in my head of a nun who, instead of the traditional habit, is wearing a baseball cap of sorts. Where did I see this? [more inside]
What makes your todo list work for you? I don't care if it's digital or on papter, I want to know how you got in the habit of using a todo list everyday.
How do I stop the habit of walking around the house when thinking something or having my lunch or dinner ?
I have a habit of walking to and fro from one room of my house to another, whenever I am thinking something, or even when I am having my lunch or dinner ? I am aware this is not a good habit, as I waste valuable calories in the process (I am a thin person by the way). How do I get rid of this habit ? Please give some innovative ideas. Has anyone else suffered from the same habit ? Basically I am quite a restless person. This habit looks quite odd in front of guests.
Bottled juice is making me poor. [more inside]
I keep on getting in trouble for going over my daily download limit at work. Can anyone recommend an app which will track how much bandwidth i'm using throughout the day? (for Win XP) [more inside]
I'm finally doing it. I'm quitting smoking - yay me! Anybody who has done this (and succeeded) - how did you get over the rough patches when the urge to light up was almost too powerful to ignore? [more inside]
Is it possible for a mid 30's person to change their life habits? Even more specificially, can a lifetime of disorganization be turned around into one of organization? (MI) [more inside]
When I perform some everyday tasks, or walk past certain locations, I think the exact same things every time. It isn't just me, is it? Is there a term for these unbidden little standard thoughts, and can I train myself to stop thinking them? [examples inside] [more inside]