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How can a guy dress more sexy?

oxit — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 10:19:46 -0800

How can a guy dress more sexy? Being a guy I have a good understanding how women can dress more sexy, but for myself I have little clue. How do I dress more sexy for the opposite gender?

I have a decent wardrobe of things that I bought specifically for their looks and I do actively combine them so that they fit together and I supposedly look good. Still I wouldn't say it or I ever look sexy or hot.

If this is a stupid question, because (1) I already do look sexy, or (2) I have to behave sexy instead or (3) ... feel free to let me know, also.

[Background: Central Europe, 30-ish, average sporty, fashionable, and outgoing, healthy BMI]

Gifts of an "Adult" Nature

Diagonalize — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 14:40:26 -0800

What kind of stuff does a 20-something "grown-up" not know he needs/wants? No surprise, my boyfriend's birthday is coming up. He's turning 27, and his parents have been needling him to add things to his wishlist. Gifts are a big deal in his family, and the Amazon wishlist has been a crucial part of that for years. In the past, his list was populated almost exclusively by video games and the occasional movie, but lately, he's been trying to move towards a more grown-up selection. Well, that's super, but when he sits down to try to add "grown-up" stuff to his wishlist, he gets this panicked, "deer in the headlights" expression. I know there are plenty of things he likes/wants, but he has no idea where to start.

Him: scruffy, quiet, socially-capable, 27-ish, physicist

Likes: adventure/RPG video games, reading political and science blogs, puzzles (a la MIT Mystery Hunt), food (eating, not cooking), and Philip Seymour Hoffman films

Dislikes: mushrooms, Will Ferrell movies

Mostly clueless about: fashion, cars, power tools, professional sports, fine wine/booze, and any music other than classical or showtunes

Clearly, he's not a guy's guy, and I've had little luck finding a "manly, but not too manly" guide that wasn't just all gadgets. We'd love to point his family in the right direction, but with the lone exception of an iPhone, his wishlist looks about the same as when he was 14 (video games and Star Trek). He doesn't want to be viewed as the eternal teenager, so what do you want/need when you're "all growed up"?

What martial arts movie is this?

stlboi — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 20:23:16 -0800

What martial arts movie is this? White good guy vs. bigger fatter black bad guy in the end? I remember watching this movie on HBO in the 90s when I was around 12 or so. It's about a white guy being trained by a fat black guy who also turns out being the main bad guy at the end with a unique fighting style and so they both end up fighting each other in the end. That was a huge twist, and didn't see it coming because the movie made it seem that they were really turning out to be real good friends.

Any ideas?

Do guys really mean "just be friends?"

ShadePlant — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 11:37:28 -0800

I'm in my early 20's and asked a guy in my cooking class to hang out via email. The guy said we could but added, "I want to be clear that if we do hang out it will only be as friends." Does this mean I am on the "would not hit it" list? An internet profile say's he's into girls, single and looking for "friendship."

Help me identify this metal mouth-like object!

kpmcguire — Fri, 30 May 2008 10:28:03 -0800

Help me identify this mystery object. It looks sort of like a set of metallic false teeth, smaller than life-size, with a metal tube or something where the tongue should be. It's a long story, I won't get too detailed. I have my own blog, I know how to use it.

A got into a petty argument with a guy yesterday. During this argument he held up the mystery object. It was in a clamshell package, it looked like he had just bought it.

He was trying to make friendly with me, showing me how "cool" he was having just purchased this thing - but I don't really know. But I was really angry at him, so I didn't pay any attention to it.

But now I want to write about this ordeal on my blog, and I want to know what the object was.

Some clues:

For some reason, I assumed the object was marijuana-related. Perhaps some sort of novelty pipe? This is in part because there's a head shop right next to where the altercation took place. It could also be some bizarre sex toy, because the head shop also sells that kind of stuff. Or it could be completely unrelated. Who knows.

The guy was really drunk. I'm pretty sure he was at the Cubs game earlier. He's a huge, muscular guy, and if I were to take any guesses, I would say he was (at one time) in the military, I only mention this because it might help explain what he was showing to me.

Any ideas would be appreciated! Thanks! A links to a product page would be ideal.

Help a guy tweak his summer wardrobe.

boots77 — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 16:13:30 -0800

Guy fashion question: I need a new summer look...what's in? I'm a normal guy, normal build, normal height. Help me find clothes that might give me options to dress casually for the summer. The big store ads show guys looking too modelish, as in "A real-live guy would never wear that." I know this question is vague, but I'm open to any suggestion that you think would look pretty cool and casual on a guy for the summer. Not that it matters that much, but in terms of choosing colors, I have somewhat of a natural tan.

Wrong Impression

Anonymous — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 17:36:58 -0800

Want to be friends, but not be seen as too close at work. How do I tell her? She's a good friend who I don't have any problems with as a person, but she is in a serious relationship with a guy in another department who works different hours. Well her and I end up hanging out at work quite a bit and I get the feeling that other people, and especially his friends at the company, think that there is something more going on between us, which there's not. I don't want to be known as the guy who will steal your girlfriend away, especially when thats not even happening. Is there any way to let her know that it looks inappropriate for her to spend so much time with me without making it awkward?

Looking for stories with pitiful but sympathetic villains

phoenixy — Fri, 23 Nov 2007 08:00:21 -0800

What are some stories with pitiful but sympathetic villains? I'm looking for fiction/non-fiction/movies/plays/TV shows/whatever with a weak bad guy the audience is supposed to find sympathetic.

In particular, I'm trying to find cases where the bad guy is genuinely bad but who also doesn't really deserve what's coming to him. The character should not be too threatening or powerful--I'm looking for characters who are kind of pitiful and in over their heads. He doesn't have to be an antagonist, but it doesn't count if he is portrayed in such a way as not to seem all that bad (as in a lot of crime stories, for example, or stories where the character mopes around feeling guilty). It is also key that the character is *supposed* to be sympathetic and at least a tiny bit likeable.

I'm having a tough time coming up with examples for this kind of thing...two characters that are close are Kardue'sai'Malloc (from Daniel Keys Moran's Star Wars universe stories) and Fagin. Malvolio, Wormtongue, and Gollum are a little further off but still along the lines of what I'm looking for.

Meg griffin's shirt

Betty_effn_White — Wed, 25 Oct 2006 15:20:19 -0800

Where can I find a Meg Griffin (pink w/ white trim) tee shirt asap? I'm going to be Meg Griffin for Halloween, and I can't find her shirt (chaos.com/coverscan/690000/687300.jpg) anywhere. American Apparel doens't make it and neither does any tee shirt company I looked at. I can probably make my own if I have to, but I can't believe that shirt doesn't exist anywhere. Thank you almighty green.

great gadget gift?

beccaj — Tue, 07 Feb 2006 16:51:42 -0800

Best. gadget. ever? Valentines Day help. Even though my boyfriend thinks holidays are all about corporations trying to separate him from his dollars I figure I'll lead by example and get him something he'll love.

He loves gadgets- and gadgets that make sense. He's a bit handy and likes computers etc so I was thinking something like that cool touch soldering iron or a neat little jump drive. He needs a new alarm clock. Help- does anyone know where I can find the worlds coolest alarm clock or the leatherman like tool that will blow his mind?

That fresh feeling

XiBe — Fri, 25 Mar 2005 06:44:20 -0800

GuyFilter : preventing that last drop. We've all had this (I guess) : no matter how long you wait, or even how hard you shake (or even twist!) it, always you will leave the bathroom knowing that one last drop of urine is gonna soil your pretty underwear - generally when you sit back at your desk, getting that "hu ho" moment.
So, on to my question : has anyone among you found a way to prevent this last drop to happen at random, or the perfect way to "get rid of it" ? How do some of you keep "that fresh feeling" ?