My job involves many roles, one of which is IT support, at a medium-sized business. Even though this part of my work only takes up about 33% of my working hours, the negativity surrounding it is making my job a living hell.
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posted by daisies
on May 20, 2013 -
48 answers
My parents are seem to lack trust in my ability to manage my own life. They are controlling, have a strong tendency to emotionally overreact. How do I tell my parents I am taking a break from school with them overreacting? My mother is currently undergoing cancer treatment and I am concerned she will “worry herself sick” over me taking a break from school.
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posted by lovecricket
on Apr 29, 2013 -
13 answers
It appears my Dad is in the process of dying - I'm mostly okay with that, but really struggling with the rest of my family. Could use some words of wisdom.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 12, 2013 -
21 answers
Please help me with my incredible (and probably irrational) guilt and grief over my daughter's height. I know that she'll be okay but I blame myself. Is there anything that I can do now?
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posted by Toto_tot
on Dec 28, 2012 -
126 answers
A friend told me his baby was soothed quickly & consistently by Neutral Milk Hotel's "Oh Comely", despite its seemingly wildly inappropriate lyrics. What other songs have worked well as baby lullabies despite their actual meaning?
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posted by davebug
on Dec 22, 2012 -
52 answers
Relationship fall-out: How do you deal with knowing that the person's friends hate you for how you've hurt them?
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posted by Autumn
on Dec 19, 2012 -
56 answers
How honest am I obligated to be with my parents about dropping college classes?
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posted by efsrous
on Nov 14, 2012 -
29 answers
How can I reframe my thinking so that I stop comparing myself to coworkers who do all they do AND have families to take care of at home?
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posted by ArgyleMarionette
on Oct 15, 2012 -
16 answers
I'm an intelligent 20 year old University student with good-ish grades and overall, I get all the important stuff done. However, I have such frequent periods of lazy and unmotivated lack of productivity that I feel tremendous guilt for on a daily basis--Should I feel guilty? Is this common / normal?
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posted by rhythm_queen
on Oct 14, 2012 -
16 answers
My 'rents want to support me. I don't really feel like I need their support anymore. Am I being silly by not considering their offer of money?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 20, 2012 -
39 answers
The nutshell: how do you put relationship mistakes/guilt behind you? And contact with her would be a bad idea, right? (We’ve been broken up about 3 months now with no contact, except for one email exchange about two weeks after the break up).
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Sep 19, 2012 -
24 answers
I will soon be breaking up with my very dear partner. Typically, this is the point at which my life goes off-track for the next few years and I lose all perspective and any mental health I've achieved. I want to approach this period in a very different way this time. My question is how to avoid both zoning out/creating a protective fog/rewriting the past to be less dramatic than it is, and avoiding the other extreme of drowning in guilt for my partner's pain and their wasted energy and my destruction of our planned future.
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posted by teslateslatesla
on Aug 23, 2012 -
19 answers
I'm not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I love her personality and we get along great, what do I do?
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posted by curious-mind
on Jun 24, 2012 -
65 answers
Broke up with my girlfriend, but want her back. She's moving away. Some inter-faith drama as well. Thoughts?
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posted by kilbasar
on Jun 17, 2012 -
35 answers
I have a lot of autonomy in my job, along with a lot of responsibility. How can I get better at organizing my working patterns so that I get everything done, without always worrying that I should be working on some other task instead? Looking for recommendations for tactics, mindsets, books, apps, or whatever's worked for you.
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posted by Catseye
on Jun 13, 2012 -
6 answers
How much do you remember your teen years and, if not a lot, then when did you start to lose those memories?
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posted by kanata
on Jun 12, 2012 -
27 answers
Someone I sometimes work with asked me for a favor. I want to say no in the nicest and least dishonest possible way.
Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 7, 2012 -
20 answers
My husband has the opportunity to buy a [lower-end luxury brand sports car] from an ill family friend for a great deal. I am totally against it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2012 -
146 answers
I suffer from depression and issues relating to low self esteem. In a moment of unbelievably horrible judgment and extreme selfishness I slept with my best friend's husband. She found out. I'm pretty sure I've lost her friendship forever and I have no idea how to deal with this crushing guilt and regret.
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posted by anonymous
on May 8, 2012 -
35 answers
I feel (at the very least) tangentially responsible for another persons death (murder) and I just can't shake it.
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posted by holdkris99
on Apr 16, 2012 -
47 answers
Anyone know of any good readings on survivor guilt? (And maybe even how to deal with it?)
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2012 -
6 answers
I can't seem to stick to a goal or self-improvement regime for more than a few days before switching to a newer, shinier, better one. Help.
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posted by cortisol
on Apr 2, 2012 -
10 answers
I left him. Packed up my stuff, and the pets. He was there trying to keep it together even though I could see his pain. He killed himself 10 days later. Everyone is saying it's not my fault and not to blame myself. How?
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posted by puppup
on Mar 27, 2012 -
53 answers
How do you reconcile with guilt and the feeling that something bad
should happen to you as a consequence of past mistakes?
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posted by ichomp
on Mar 3, 2012 -
17 answers
I realized last night that I need to get out of my emotionally abusive marriage. I'm really scared for a lot of reasons. For those of you who have been in my shoes, how did you "come out" to others about your situation? How did you cope with people who told you you brought it on yourself?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 9, 2011 -
32 answers
How do you deal with suicide when you feel (or are made to feel) partially responsible?
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posted by divabat
on Oct 9, 2011 -
27 answers
How do I deal with guilt, anger, and complicated emotions surrounding cheating on my abusive spouse?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 5, 2011 -
32 answers
How do we get over the guilt and just fire our nanny already? Very specific caveat inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2011 -
30 answers
I tried to kiss my boyfriends best friend at a party 11 months ago and I still feel badly about it. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 1, 2011 -
42 answers
We bought a condo in a resort town and I feel guilty about the fact that I am not excited about my adult sister and her family or my adult brother and his family or my husband's siblings and family using it.
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posted by seekingsimplicity
on Jul 30, 2011 -
27 answers
My mother doesn't take of her health at all, she ignores everyone's health advice when she has problems, and it's making me feel guilty and frustrated for not trying hard enough and not being able to support her.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 13, 2011 -
13 answers
How do I deal with my guilt when it comes to not being there for my parents? I’ve decided to move out on my own after helping out my parents on various aspects of their lives on and off for many years. They don’t want me to move out, for their own comfort and out of fear for my financial insecurity.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 30, 2011 -
13 answers
How do I overcome feelings of guilt and shame about needing therapy in order to get help?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 8, 2011 -
16 answers
It's
me again. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. How do I minimize the guilt I feel for hurting him, and the hurt over him being back on the dating site already?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2011 -
63 answers
