I am leaving my place shortly and moving into a new one, however there will be a period during which I will be camping out with various family and friends while the paperwork on the new place gets sorted and I get some work done to it. What is the minimum of stuff I should take with me in order to live comfortably on someone else's floor / sofa bed / guest room, while still not taking up too much of their space? Also, how do I deal with the lack of feeling settled / not having my own space? I haven't done this for a long time, so want to go in fully prepared.
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posted by Ziggy500
on May 10, 2013 -
15 answers
I'm a female. An unknown female came into my room very late at night.
I woke up but thought it was my guy roommate's friend needing to sleep on the other bed in my room (which has happened before), so I just kept sleeping.
She slept on the other bed. She is probably in her 20's like myself.
Later my roommate told me she was homeless trying to get herself back on her feet and wasn't anybody's friend; one of my roommate's friends just met her (I don't know how & where).
Just from this info, if you were me, how would you feel about continuing to sleep in the same room with this person?
posted by MiuMiu
on Jan 15, 2013 -
61 answers
How do I deal with an unwanted guest/"unofficial roommate" living on our couch? Asking this as a strictly interpersonal relations question.
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posted by windbox
on Oct 2, 2012 -
34 answers
We're attending some friends' commitment ceremony scheduled for 5pm on a summer Saturday. What to wear for these occasions is totally baffling to me, so I'm turning to the hivemind for etiquette advice. I'd love to be able to wear the dress from my own wedding 15 years ago (attended by one half of this couple), in part because it's a pretty dress and also as an homage to these lovely people that happen to reside in a state without marriage equality. The dress is not a typical wedding dress (it's a peach and pink floral, in silk chiffon) and style-wise is the sort of thing I think would be appropriate for the event and the venue. But would it be weird to wear it to another wedding? And should I have it shortened from floor-length to, say, tea-length?
posted by DrGail
on May 30, 2012 -
24 answers
I'm thinking about becoming an
airbnb host. Have you done this (or are you an experienced guest)? Is this a good idea, and do you have suggestions on how to make this more fun and profitable?
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posted by lunasol
on May 22, 2012 -
13 answers
I am nervous(totally) about meeting bunch of strangers and the thought they are all there to meet me.
How do you handle this? what kind of conversations would you have with them?
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posted by daveg02
on May 18, 2012 -
23 answers
Is it thoughtful or vulgar to leave a candle burning in the guest bathroom when you entertain?
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posted by Morrigan
on Nov 28, 2011 -
79 answers
I've been asked by a university professor to present three separate lectures to a group of graduate students on a relatively arcane -- but not overly complicated -- topic. Each lecture will probably last about an 1.5 hours, not including travel time to and from the campus.
The professor mentioned that he has funds available to compensate me for these lectures, but won't give any indication of budget. He's asked me to provide a proposal outlining fees.
I haven't done this before, so I don't know whether it's fair to ask for my normal hourly billing rate -- which I'm assuming is probably high. On the other hand, I don't want to do this for free. So my question is... What compensation is reasonable to ask for as a first-time guest lecturer? (Oh yeah: This is an elite private Midwestern University. They aint going broke.)
posted by silkyd
on Aug 31, 2011 -
11 answers
I am looking for a classical or instrumental song for our DJ to play while our wedding guests are being seated at our reception. What are your recommendations?
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posted by ieatwords
on May 23, 2011 -
16 answers
Icelandlodgingfilter: My wife an I will be in Iceland for a week in late May and are looking for lodging. We're out of the demographic for loud noises and partying but like to get a feel of places that we visit.
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posted by Man with Lantern
on Apr 17, 2011 -
7 answers
I want to buy a convertible couch so guests can sleep in the man cave. What style of couch do I need?
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posted by bq
on Jan 26, 2011 -
15 answers
I was invited to a dinner party, but don't know the host. What do I bring to thank them for inadvertently having me?
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posted by patientpatient
on Oct 10, 2010 -
23 answers
Does "maxiumum occupancy" in short term (2 months) condo rental apply to weekend guests? We're renting a condominium in Florida for 2 months. The rental agreement states that the maximum occupancy is 6 (three bedroom unit). We are a family of 6. My daughter would like to invite a couple of friends for a weekend (overnight guests), which would bring the number to 8 for two nights. Would this break the condo rules? What if they stay a week? If it's not permitted, are they allowed to have dinner with 8 people eating in the unit?
posted by kirsti
on Sep 30, 2010 -
9 answers
Does etiquette require me to replace the shawl of a dinner party guest that she ruined while out walking our property?
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posted by Nickel Pickle
on Sep 27, 2010 -
171 answers
36 hours in Maine this weekend with a rental car. I am thinking of not getting a hotel room and instead car-camping. I'll be in Camden Maine for a wedding Friday and Saturday and plan to return to Boston late on Saturday to take a bus to DC. I want to spend as much of Friday wandering around Portland before driving to Camden and kind of want to spend the morning in Portland on Saturday, too. Is this a good idea? Any tips on quiet places to park and snooze?
posted by parmanparman
on Aug 11, 2010 -
6 answers
Starting next week, I'm not going to have a home. I will be staying with friends anywhere from 1 week to 3 weeks while I find a place to stay. What are best practices for being a good houseguest in this situation? (I plan to stay at each place for a week.) I do not have a car, and will be renting a storage space to keep my stuff in for the duration. Please assume hotels, motels, and hostels are financially not an option. I do already plan to buy dinner specifically for these friends, and to pay for my own food the rest of the time.
posted by hopemeplease
on Jul 31, 2010 -
32 answers
I'm making a "Welcome" gift basket for our new live-in nanny, in Turkey. What should I include?
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posted by hasna
on Dec 14, 2009 -
10 answers
I'd like to know how to deal with an unwanted "guest" living in an apartment that I'm paying rent for.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2009 -
23 answers
I've received a wedding invitation and I'm clueless on a point of etiquette. The invitation and reply cards are made out to "Mr. Indyz", not "Mr. Indyz and Guest." Does this imply that I am not expected or allowed to bring a guest?
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posted by indyz
on May 27, 2009 -
33 answers
I received an invitation to a wedding for me "and guest". I'm not seeing anyone. What should I do?
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posted by rwatson
on Feb 21, 2009 -
36 answers
It's two am on Christmas morning and my wife and I haven't slept because we feel we are suffocating from all the cigarette smoke in my parent's house. This is our first night of four, and my wife is upset, wondering if she can maybe sleep in the car (it's minus twenty outside, so no). How can we make this bearable, or, failing that, how can we explain to my parents that we have to leave already?
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posted by arcticwoman
on Dec 25, 2008 -
50 answers
My roommate wants a friend to live at our place while he gets his life together... should I be cool with this?
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posted by FireStyle
on Oct 26, 2008 -
39 answers
My roommate gives copies of our apartment keys to visiting guests. I'm uncomfortable with this but can't think of a good argument against the practice.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 19, 2007 -
20 answers
Why the hell won't Windows XP Sp2 let me change (or even give me an option field anywhere) to alter the password for the Guest account? I'm the administrator, dammit!
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posted by bitterkitten
on Jul 1, 2007 -
4 answers
Is there a method/program for limiting a guest's access to my computer to -only- a web browser (no start menu, programs, file directories, etc.)?
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posted by JFitzpatrick
on Jun 30, 2007 -
10 answers
how can i advise a youth-mentorship organization to be sensitive to the cultural and religious needs of its young participants and their parents? this Q applies to a very diverse group of kids. the issues i've noticed so far have specifically affected the muslim kids.
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posted by twistofrhyme
on Jan 14, 2007 -
22 answers
Booty call etiquette: I'm flying to Hawaii for two weeks to meet a guy. So now what? (inside text maybe NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 19, 2005 -
32 answers
HomeHospiceFilter: my father is coming to live with us in the midst of his battle with mesothelioma and melanoma. I have a couple of months to furnish our teeny-tiny (10x10 plus closet) guest room with stuff that's comfortable, practical, and homey. Of course, I have a teeny-tiny budget, too. Suggestions?
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posted by whatnot
on Mar 4, 2005 -
6 answers
What's a good, simple lunch to make when hosting a few guests? I'm looking for something nicer than sandwiches, but not something that's going to seem like dinner fare. [mi]
posted by rorycberger
on Nov 13, 2004 -
12 answers