I have an older half-sister, who I refer to as my sister because we are (were) very close. She is 14 years older than me. I am 23. Due to the age gap, we now have an odd sibling relationship, and I'm trying to figure out my place in it. [more inside]
I wish I could forget about the girl who broke my heart when I was a teenager, but it seems the world doesn't want to let me, because she's famous now, while I'm struggling. How do I deal? [more inside]
How do I learn to let things wash over me and become a less bitter person generally in life? [more inside]
Should I buy a house? This one? Now? (Sticky family and personal issues involved.) [more inside]
How do I learn to survive as a grad student? [more inside]
How do you just move on with your life and grow up? [more inside]
Does loneliness have any value? [more inside]
I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.