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Should I move out ASAP or wait it out?

I'm a 22-year-old college grad living home with my dysfunctional family after being away at school for four years. I want to go to dental school but need to take pre-requisite science courses first. These courses should take me 1-2 years to complete. I work about 35 hours per week, but I have no savings and ~40K in student loan debt. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom is frighteningly codependent on him. The environment in my house is miserable and stale. That being said, financially it makes the most sense for me to live home for a couple more years. Should my focus be on moving out ASAP or learning to adapt to the dysfunction while I get my shit done? [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Mar 9, 2013 - 22 answers

I want my own traditions too, FFS!

This has been bothering me for a few years. I'm really sad, and a bit angry, that I don't have my own traditions. What I mean, is that I have no reason to do anything since the "grown-ups" already do everything. I don't know if I can take it much longer. [more inside]
posted by midnightmoonlight on Nov 8, 2011 - 68 answers

How to make new friends when you're all grown up?

Asking for mom: how do you get back out there and form close friendships/relationships after you've already settled down, raised a family, and devoted yourself to work? [more inside]
posted by Amaranta on Jan 9, 2011 - 13 answers

My little sister's growing up :'(

My younger sister is moving in with her future-fiancé. How to mark this passage, and what house-warming gift to buy them? [more inside]
posted by SebastianKnight on Nov 7, 2009 - 7 answers

Should I buy a house? This one? Now?

Should I buy a house? This one? Now? (Sticky family and personal issues involved.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2007 - 15 answers

A sad coming-out story

I'm dealing with the fallout from coming out to my deeply religious immediate family. For years, I had prepared for their tears, their anger, their remonstrances, their appeals to the Bible, and all of those have come. What I hadn't prepared for was how disappointed I would be, and how fundamental and lonely that disappointment would be. Help? [more inside]
posted by grrarrgh00 on Oct 16, 2007 - 38 answers

I need information about how to parent when raised by abusive parents.

I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.
posted by anonymous on Feb 13, 2005 - 16 answers

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