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Adulthoodfilter: How can I stay true to myself and make real friends when my job seems to demand me to be professional and distant all the time? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Aug 9, 2014 - 10 answers

Trying to make a change in my life, but I don't know where to start?

I am in a weird phase of my life where I want to change some things. I have always been a rather antisocial person and for the first time ever I am dying to get out and be social. I am also wondering where I will end up and what my goals in life truly are. I also want to get healthier, eat better, be more productive. Truth is, I don't know where to start? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Jul 24, 2014 - 9 answers

what to expect when your best friend is expecting?

My best friend is a few weeks out from the birth of her first child. Mom, dad, and baby are healthy and well-appointed. Everything is great! But inspired by anecdotes and first-hand experience, I am growing increasingly terrified that our friendship will necessarily falter and/or fade in light of this incalculably life-altering event. Can folks with similar experience give me a heads-up as to what can, should, or could happen next? Any tips or tricks that might help a person figure out how to offer the right combination of support and space to their new parent friends? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on May 28, 2014 - 36 answers

You don't know what you don't know, until you know it

I am 21 years old. Currently I am living at home, working two jobs and trying to figure out what to do for school. I am not close to my family, I was kind of neglected as a kid and feel like I lack a lot of basic life skills and understanding of life. I never realized it before but I am very naive and ignorant. I really want to become more successful socially though, but I'm wondering how exactly to catch up or if I can. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on May 15, 2014 - 18 answers

Why can't I handle multiple responsibilities?

I'm having a hard time balancing school, work, and social life. Teach me how to get my shit together or help me realize that I can't handle everything I've taken on. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Feb 11, 2014 - 12 answers

advanced adulthood primer for parentless children?

My parents were absent for much of my childhood, and I have been estranged from my family for years. I've been fully independent since my late teens, but I still learn best by example and rote memorization, and I did not really have anyone to learn from. I've built what I think is a good life, but I am still lacking a lot of practical information. What sort of resources are available for people in this position to figure out what they've missed and get themselves unstuck? Is there a book, checklist, or set of guidelines that I could use? Something like Advanced Adulthood for Dummies? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Aug 21, 2013 - 23 answers

Things Mom Told Us

I'm trying to think of Things that Our Moms (or possibly Public Service Announcements) taught us while growing up, things that most of us learned are the 'right' way to behave, and that have ended up as commonly-held edicts for those of us who grew up in North America. Stuff like 'chew with your mouth closed' or 'it's rude to stare' or 'look both ways before crossing the street' or 'don't take candy from strangers'. [more inside]
posted by stavrosthewonderchicken on Jul 14, 2013 - 106 answers

how to engage in self-care when responsibilities get in the way

I'm depressed, in a gruesome summer class, and feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day to handle both my responsibilities and my well-being. How do busy people balance these things? Why do we even bother with these pesky responsibilities that society imposes on us? [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Jun 8, 2013 - 9 answers

I want to forget about her, but she's famous now

I wish I could forget about the girl who broke my heart when I was a teenager, but it seems the world doesn't want to let me, because she's famous now, while I'm struggling. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2013 - 47 answers

Should I move out ASAP or wait it out?

I'm a 22-year-old college grad living home with my dysfunctional family after being away at school for four years. I want to go to dental school but need to take pre-requisite science courses first. These courses should take me 1-2 years to complete. I work about 35 hours per week, but I have no savings and ~40K in student loan debt. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom is frighteningly codependent on him. The environment in my house is miserable and stale. That being said, financially it makes the most sense for me to live home for a couple more years. Should my focus be on moving out ASAP or learning to adapt to the dysfunction while I get my shit done? [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Mar 9, 2013 - 22 answers

She thought her period was because she ate strawberries

I've been trying to find a book I read as a kid, way back in the mid-to-late-seventies. My memories are sketchy, but this is what I've got: About a girl growing up in a small community, maybe in the mountains, or maybe just very rural. She had an extended family which included two unmarried aunts and a grandfather. It took place over a summer. She thought her first period was the result of eating a large amount of strawberries. It was written in first-person perspective, I think. [more inside]
posted by Brody's chum on Jan 15, 2013 - 2 answers

How do you move on in a healthy light from an abusive childhood?

No former teenage angst here; what do you do when your parents genuinely SUCK? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Jul 16, 2012 - 20 answers

How do I learn to prefer the real deal?

I find myself persistently drawn to elusive, short-term prospects rather than actual Good Real People. It's frustrating and ultimately unfulfilling, and so I'm curious to hear from anyone who made the jump from Silly to Real, and how that transition unfolded, and what (if anything) you did to help it along. [more inside]
posted by snackattack on Dec 13, 2011 - 5 answers

Help me become a grownup.

So, I've been joking for a while that I need, like, boot camp for how to be an adult. Help me find something? Maybe like Upward Bound for grownups meets finishing school plus...something? [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks on Dec 10, 2011 - 15 answers

I want my own traditions too, FFS!

This has been bothering me for a few years. I'm really sad, and a bit angry, that I don't have my own traditions. What I mean, is that I have no reason to do anything since the "grown-ups" already do everything. I don't know if I can take it much longer. [more inside]
posted by midnightmoonlight on Nov 8, 2011 - 68 answers

Moving out of my parents' home: good or bad idea?

Is moving out of my parents’ house a good or a bad idea? On the one hand if feels foolish to leave behind a rent-free, comfortable room in a loving home, but on the other hand the desire to feel more independent carries a lot more emotional weight for me. [more inside]
posted by efsrous on Jul 26, 2011 - 29 answers

But on May 13th 1994 you PINKY SWORE you wouldn't ever....

How do I forgive her for the betrayal of growing up and changing? [more inside]
posted by jenlovesponies on Mar 21, 2011 - 51 answers

Book Club for Life

I'm 30. Each year until I'm 60 I want to read a masterpiece by an author the same age as I am when s/he wrote it. Help compile my list. [more inside]
posted by grrarrgh00 on Feb 26, 2011 - 41 answers

All my bags are packed.

Making a mix tape: Need songs about moving away from home for the very first time. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by gypsyhymns on Feb 5, 2011 - 39 answers

How to make new friends when you're all grown up?

Asking for mom: how do you get back out there and form close friendships/relationships after you've already settled down, raised a family, and devoted yourself to work? [more inside]
posted by Amaranta on Jan 9, 2011 - 13 answers

How to Move Out of Your Parents' House

I want to move out of my parents' place so I can get on with being an adult. Please help me figure out what I need to know in order to do it! [more inside]
posted by patronuscharms on Nov 23, 2010 - 41 answers

A heart that hurts is a heart that works.

Turning a corner in the breakup process. How do I stay grounded while my heart catches up with my head? [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet on Oct 15, 2010 - 6 answers

I want to be less consumed by bitterness

How do I learn to let things wash over me and become a less bitter person generally in life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2010 - 29 answers

Books about growing up without a mom

I'm looking for novels for my little cousin about growing up without a mother. [more inside]
posted by Verdandi on Jan 1, 2010 - 28 answers

My little sister's growing up :'(

My younger sister is moving in with her future-fiancé. How to mark this passage, and what house-warming gift to buy them? [more inside]
posted by SebastianKnight on Nov 7, 2009 - 7 answers

Fun songs about growing up and graduating?

Fun songs for college graduation mix cd? [more inside]
posted by ginagina on Dec 9, 2008 - 13 answers

Not lazy just scared to work full time

I'm scared of having to work for a living. I'm terrified I'll feel hollow and depressed and unfulfilled. Is this normal and part of growing up and entering the real world? [more inside]
posted by rainygrl716 on Aug 31, 2008 - 22 answers

I no long have insurance, want to travel, and don't know what to do thereabout

I am no longer covered under my parent's insurance because of my age and i will be traveling soon. What should i do? [more inside]
posted by fjardt on Apr 6, 2008 - 10 answers

Everybody's ahead of me!

I'm finally going to college four years after I was supposed to get out of high school. Please tell me you've done it too, and everything worked out! [more inside]
posted by QuarterlyProphet on Dec 22, 2007 - 41 answers

Should I buy a house? This one? Now?

Should I buy a house? This one? Now? (Sticky family and personal issues involved.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2007 - 15 answers

A sad coming-out story

I'm dealing with the fallout from coming out to my deeply religious immediate family. For years, I had prepared for their tears, their anger, their remonstrances, their appeals to the Bible, and all of those have come. What I hadn't prepared for was how disappointed I would be, and how fundamental and lonely that disappointment would be. Help? [more inside]
posted by grrarrgh00 on Oct 16, 2007 - 38 answers

How do I learn to survive grad school?

How do I learn to survive as a grad student? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2007 - 15 answers

Twilight Zone

How do you just move on with your life and grow up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2007 - 34 answers

Moving on, moving out?

Parents want to move across the country, adolescent children want to stay. What to do? [more inside]
posted by b33j on Jan 29, 2007 - 38 answers

Universal Teenage Experience?

Are teenagers the same around the world and through all cultures? [more inside]
posted by five fresh fish on Sep 23, 2006 - 20 answers

David's last summer - or, music that deals with the transition from adolescence into a different world

Looking for songs that have a wistful, bittersweet feel to them that captures the move from adolescence into "adult" life - eg the moments before leaving school, or before getting your first job. [more inside]
posted by greycap on May 11, 2006 - 97 answers

The value of loneliness

Does loneliness have any value? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2006 - 27 answers

Real men don't post anon.

I lost my virginity when I was 8. Is this totally freakish and should I seek counselling or just a bit unusual? [more inside]
posted by public on Mar 3, 2006 - 60 answers

What do you wish you'd known/done when you were 21?

I turned 21 last week and I want to know; what do you wish you'd known when you were 21? What do you wish you'd done but didn't, or what did you do that you think was an unmissable experience? [more inside]
posted by trampesque on Aug 30, 2005 - 62 answers

I need information about how to parent when raised by abusive parents.

I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.
posted by anonymous on Feb 13, 2005 - 16 answers

Finding satisfying work

CareerFilter: What do I want to be when I grow up? (more--->) [more inside]
posted by Jonasio on Jun 9, 2004 - 21 answers

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