I wish I could forget about the girl who broke my heart when I was a teenager, but it seems the world doesn't want to let me, because she's famous now, while I'm struggling. How do I deal?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2013 -
46 answers
I'm a 22-year-old college grad living home with my dysfunctional family after being away at school for four years. I want to go to dental school but need to take pre-requisite science courses first. These courses should take me 1-2 years to complete. I work about 35 hours per week, but I have no savings and ~40K in student loan debt. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom is frighteningly codependent on him. The environment in my house is miserable and stale. That being said, financially it makes the most sense for me to live home for a couple more years. Should my focus be on moving out ASAP or learning to adapt to the dysfunction while I get my shit done?
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posted by DayTripper
on Mar 9, 2013 -
22 answers
I've been trying to find a book I read as a kid, way back in the mid-to-late-seventies. My memories are sketchy, but this is what I've got:
About a girl growing up in a small community, maybe in the mountains, or maybe just very rural. She had an extended family which included two unmarried aunts and a grandfather. It took place over a summer. She thought her first period was the result of eating a large amount of strawberries. It was written in first-person perspective, I think.
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posted by Brody's chum
on Jan 15, 2013 -
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I find myself persistently drawn to elusive, short-term prospects rather than actual Good Real People. It's frustrating and ultimately unfulfilling, and so I'm curious to hear from anyone who made the jump from Silly to Real, and how that transition unfolded, and what (if anything) you did to help it along.
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posted by snackattack
on Dec 13, 2011 -
5 answers
So, I've been joking for a while that I need, like, boot camp for how to be an adult. Help me find something? Maybe like Upward Bound for grownups meets finishing school plus...something?
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posted by tulip-socks
on Dec 10, 2011 -
15 answers
This has been bothering me for a few years. I'm really sad, and a bit angry, that I don't have my own traditions. What I mean, is that I have no reason to do anything since the "grown-ups" already do everything. I don't know if I can take it much longer.
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posted by midnightmoonlight
on Nov 8, 2011 -
68 answers
Is moving out of my parents’ house a good or a bad idea? On the one hand if feels foolish to leave behind a rent-free, comfortable room in a loving home, but on the other hand the desire to feel more independent carries a lot more emotional weight for me.
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posted by efsrous
on Jul 26, 2011 -
29 answers
I'm 30. Each year until I'm 60 I want to read a masterpiece by an author the same age as I am when s/he wrote it. Help compile my list.
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posted by grrarrgh00
on Feb 26, 2011 -
41 answers
Making a mix tape: Need songs about moving away from home for the very first time. Any suggestions?
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posted by gypsyhymns
on Feb 5, 2011 -
39 answers
Asking for mom: how do you get back out there and form close friendships/relationships after you've already settled down, raised a family, and devoted yourself to work?
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posted by Amaranta
on Jan 9, 2011 -
13 answers
I want to move out of my parents' place so I can get on with being an adult. Please help me figure out what I need to know in order to do it!
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posted by patronuscharms
on Nov 23, 2010 -
41 answers
How do I learn to let things wash over me and become a less bitter person generally in life?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 3, 2010 -
29 answers
My younger sister is moving in with her future-fiancé. How to mark this passage, and what house-warming gift to buy them?
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posted by SebastianKnight
on Nov 7, 2009 -
7 answers
I'm scared of having to work for a living. I'm terrified I'll feel hollow and depressed and unfulfilled. Is this normal and part of growing up and entering the real world?
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posted by rainygrl716
on Aug 31, 2008 -
22 answers
I am no longer covered under my parent's insurance because of my age and i will be traveling soon. What should i do?
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posted by fjardt
on Apr 6, 2008 -
10 answers
I'm finally going to college four years after I was supposed to get out of high school. Please tell me you've done it too, and everything worked out!
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posted by QuarterlyProphet
on Dec 22, 2007 -
41 answers
I'm dealing with the fallout from coming out to my deeply religious immediate family. For years, I had prepared for their tears, their anger, their remonstrances, their appeals to the Bible, and all of those have come. What I hadn't prepared for was how disappointed I would be, and how fundamental and lonely that disappointment would be. Help?
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posted by grrarrgh00
on Oct 16, 2007 -
38 answers
Parents want to move across the country, adolescent children want to stay. What to do?
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posted by b33j
on Jan 29, 2007 -
38 answers
Looking for songs that have a wistful, bittersweet feel to them that captures the move from adolescence into "adult" life - eg the moments before leaving school, or before getting your first job.
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posted by greycap
on May 11, 2006 -
97 answers
I lost my virginity when I was 8. Is this totally freakish and should I seek counselling or just a bit unusual?
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posted by public
on Mar 3, 2006 -
60 answers
I turned 21 last week and I want to know; what do you wish you'd known when you were 21? What do you wish you'd done but didn't, or what did you do that you think was an unmissable experience?
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posted by trampesque
on Aug 30, 2005 -
62 answers
I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.
posted by anonymous
on Feb 13, 2005 -
16 answers
