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Where can I have a threesome in LA?

Anonymous — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 19:51:59 -0800

How can I safely experiment sexually, like in a club or other group setting? I'm an attractive female in my twenties. I've never experimented sexually beyond regular male/female sex. I'm very interested in being with another woman, having a threesome, being watched, watching, etc.

I live in Los Angeles, so I feel like there must be a lot of opportunity around me, but I'm very cautious and don't want to end up being killed by some wacko I met on craigslist.

Are there settings, like bars or clubs, where people are partying in a more sexual manner? I once saw an episode of Nip/Tuck where Christian went to a party where people were having sex out in the open, and others would just join in. Does this exist?

If you have an experience similar, I'd love to hear it.

Thanks!

Rut to Smut - NSFW

Anonymous — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 22:23:52 -0800

Please help us "diversify." [NSFW!] Hi everybody. I'm Steve, and this is my wife Beth.

We have been married for over a decade. We have 3 young children, a house in the suburbs, I have a good job, we have a strong and loving relationship, we're generally very happy.

Trouble is, the sizzle has gone out of our steak. Sex that used to be frequent and hot grew less of both over time, and now is pretty pedestrian. It's not a question of growing apart, I think; more along the lines of growing accustomed. Part of the difficulty is that because she knows me so well, Beth finds me to be predictable. A large part of the excitement of our early sex life was the discovery, and we're all discovered out.

Then recently, on a lark (and some pretty positive reviews) we watched Short Bus. Beth was intrigued by the club in that film and imagines that in real life it would be pretty hot to flirt with / be lusted after / have sexual contact with somebody else besides me. Being scrupulously fair by nature, she assures me that it owuld be okay for me to do the same.

Here's the tricky bit - Short Bus is (1) fictional and (2) in New York. We are (1) very real and (2) in middle Tennessee.

Beth writes:

"... Internet searches have revealed that there is a sex club in our town, and I am intrigued about what we might find there. I am frightened, however, by the prospect of waltzing into the place unannounced and unknown. I am completely ignorant about the culture of such a club and the appropriate way to introduce myself and my husband. A mentor would be helpful--someone we know and trust who could hold our hand, so to speak, until we find our footing."

We're not interested in:

1 - falling in love with other people
2 - establishing long-term physical relationships outside of our marriage
3 - advertising in those "swinger" publications / websites

We're pretty sure the subculture exists (fictional accounts aside); how do we get into it?

Sockpuppet gmail account for private dialogue: rut2smut@gmail.com

Approaching Another Couple

Anonymous — Wed, 26 Jan 2005 00:35:08 -0800

My girlfriend and I are friends with another couple whom we'd like to become, er, more intimate with. Unfortunately, they, like us, are very reserved, and don't tend to talk about sex, so we have no idea how to begin to broach the subject. The friendship is very important to us, and we don't want to ruin it. What should we do?