My grandad passed away today. My family have asked me to find a poem he might like, to read at his funeral. He was an engineer who would only read 'factual' things, such as instructional/educational books and later in life, a lot of biographies. He didn't go in for poetry at all that I know of. Would like to avoid 'Do not stand at my grave and cry'. Any reccommendations?
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posted by everydayanewday
on Dec 13, 2012 -
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Friend of a friend's mother just passed away, and between the death and the funeral, the mom's sketchy neighbor talked him into selling his car for pennies on the dollar. What now?
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posted by davejay
on Dec 6, 2012 -
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My husband is losing his father in a few weeks. He is currently spending some time with him at a hospice and is away from home to deal with chaotic family issues surrounding this. When he returns, I imagine he will need time to decompress and I want to make that easy. Please give me suggestions on how I can make that easier for him or what you've appreciated in a similar situation.
posted by dean winchester
on Dec 3, 2012 -
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The mother of the family I work for just passed away after a long illness. What can I do to help?
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posted by nonasuch
on Oct 18, 2012 -
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I am transitioning (ftm) and haven't told my extended family. My grandmother is extremely distraught by my mother's passing last year. We are seeing each other for the first time in 6 months at a holiday dinner this month. How do I balance my needs with her needs and minimize drama?
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posted by buteo
on Dec 11, 2011 -
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How do I help myself move on from the years-past, but sudden loss of a loved one, when it just doesn't seem to be getting better?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 26, 2011 -
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Can anyone recommend a support group for parents who have lost a child? The parents live in Fairfield, CT. If there's a group for parents who have lost a child to suicide, even better, but I realize that might be too specific. Thanks.
posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2011 -
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My wonderful, loving, young dog is dying. How do I stop feeling guilty about grieving? How do I deal with not giving chemo?
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posted by specialagentwebb
on Jan 14, 2011 -
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How do you grieve a friendship breakup when you work with the person? And how do you then get over the chronic hopelessness with being lonely?
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posted by bookwibble
on May 19, 2010 -
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My aunt has cancer. She has about six months left. How do I stop grieving while she's still alive? Is that possible? Also, if my grief is this bad already, what's it going to be like when she does die? Not so bad? Worse?
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posted by deborah
on Apr 28, 2010 -
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A bereaved work-mate is looking for escapist literature that does not treat with death, dying or human tragedy - in short - 99% of the english language canon is off limits. Can anyone suggest good books?
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posted by tabubilgirl
on Nov 16, 2009 -
30 answers
My boyfriend and I have a friend who was just killed for seemingly no reason. I am trying to come to terms with this, and help him at the same time.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 10, 2009 -
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Does someone with a dying relative better understand what someone who has lost a relative is going through? Explanation inside.
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posted by anonymous
on May 4, 2009 -
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In the past few months, both parents of my Japanese-American (by way of Hawaii) coworker have passed away. What gift/donation might be appropriate and have special significance to her?
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posted by acorn1515
on Mar 24, 2009 -
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My Dad died October 4 of this year, and I wound up with a big box of all his framed diplomas and certifications. 3 are his college degrees (Masters in Music Theory, PhD in Electrical Engineering). Then there are a bunch of others, like his engineering licenses.
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posted by yoga
on Nov 10, 2008 -
25 answers
Recommendations for a cognitive behavioral therapist in the Houston area for my mother? He/she is going to have to deal with a
lot, especially because she is irrational and suspicious.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 22, 2008 -
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My mom died when I was in college. Though she was in some sense a single parent to me and we were extremely close, I barely shed a tear about it since she died over six years ago. This past weekend, I'm not exactly sure why, but the dam finally broke and I've been overwhelmed with a tidal wave of sadness for the past couple of days that shows no signs of flowing back out. I have a couple of questions for you.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 29, 2008 -
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If my partner, a widower, wants some space to try to get over the death of his wife of 20 yrs, yet he can't tell me how long it will be, what am I meant to do?
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posted by ffazniah
on Sep 24, 2008 -
13 answers
I need a new name!!! I've written a book for
friends and non-primary caregiver family (NOT for primary caregivers) regarding illness and death.
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posted by Sophie1
on Aug 8, 2008 -
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I feel like I'm going through a breakup - only it isn't with a person, it's with an intangible thing. I know intellectually that I'll get better, but it's just been the first few days and I'm hurting so much. How do I heal?
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posted by divabat
on Jul 1, 2008 -
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How soon is too soon to start dating after the death of a spouse? All the websites I've read have been for widows and widowers and tell them not to feel guilty for moving on with their lives after the passing of their loved one. But surely there really *is* such a thing as too soon?
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posted by jennak
on Jun 3, 2007 -
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I have a hard time talking to my friends about other people's terminal illnesses and/or deaths. I'd like to get better at this.
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posted by anonymous
on May 16, 2007 -
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Can anyone personally recommend a support site and/or community specifically for people grieving from cancer, brain cancer if possible?
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posted by jrossi4r
on Feb 13, 2007 -
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Grieffilter: Is he still grieving his wife, even though it's been so long? Need advice on my relationship with a widower...
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2007 -
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My cousin and his family were found dead yesterday. While he and I were not close in recent years because we'd lost touch, I feel deep sadness for what my aunt and uncle are going through. (I am still in touch with them.) This leaves me with two questions. What is the normal process of a homicide investigation? What is an appropriate/meaningful way to show support to my aunt and uncle even though I live out of state and am completely unable to attend any funeral arrangements which may be made?
posted by anonymous
on Nov 29, 2004 -
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SympathyFilter: What's the best way to help my girlfriend deal with the passing of a family member? Difficulty level=other side of the country. [Morbid inside]
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posted by rorycberger
on Sep 3, 2004 -
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So, a murder happened in front of my house while we were on vacation last week. Now there is a shrine there around my tree about 5 feet from the bottom of my steps and people coming by day and night leaving stuff and lighting candles.
I don't mind the shrine, but how long do I leave that stuff there? How can I get people to not leave candles burning there (I am worried about fire danger.) Am I responsible for disposing of the stuff?
I have some ideas, but would like some suggestions.
Here's a link to the info about the murder.
http://www.timesstar.com/Stories/0,1413,125~1486~2236893,00.html
posted by aacheson
on Jul 2, 2004 -
13 answers
What's the best way to mourn the passing of a loved one? What's the best way to help one's family grieve?
posted by trharlan
on Dec 22, 2003 -
14 answers
