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Meal delivery service for grieving family

One of my co-workers has lost both parents within 3 months of each other. We are not super super close, and so far she hasn't accepted my offers of specific, practical things I can do to help (watching her kids, going to grocery store. etc.). I'd like to make her life a little easier anyway, so I was thinking about some kind of meal delivery service so she wouldn't need to cook for a little bit. [more inside]
posted by feathermeat on Jul 15, 2014 - 24 answers

Help me do something nice for my coworker, whose beloved pet is dying

One of my favorite colleagues has a cat, and it is dying. She is just waiting on tests to come back from the vet so they can decide if palliative care is an option or not. I'd like to do something nice to let her know that I'm thinking of her, but need ideas that won't memorialize me as "That girl who did that crazy thing in a misguided attempt to nice." Also looking for a sanity check - if this is a bad idea, please say so (and why). [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Jun 17, 2014 - 29 answers

Please help me get her out of my head.

I broke up with someone just over 3 months ago and I just cannot get her out of my head. I don’t know if this is a fixation, obsession, rumination or normal grieving? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Apr 29, 2014 - 28 answers

Supporting a grieving partner - what do you wish you'd known?

I am struggling and I don't know how to handle this and not make myself completely miserable along the way [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet on Apr 8, 2014 - 21 answers

Grief and a brand-new long-distance relationship

I am in a brand-new long-distance relationship with a guy I really care for. He recently experienced the death of a friend, and since this happened a week ago he has been essentially non-communicative with me. He sent me one generic text at a strange hour a week ago (along the lines of "busy week, really tired") and other than that it's been silence. Should, and how, can I support him during this time? Help me make sense of his behavior and to gauge what my response should be. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2014 - 38 answers

What does "I don't want to talk about it" mean, practically speaking?

A dear friend of mine who lives far away has lost two of her three cats to sudden, upsetting illness, in the space of a week. She has implied that she's not interested in talking about it, which I can understand. [more inside]
posted by Sokka shot first on Jan 8, 2014 - 20 answers

Helping a partner through life changes

My partner is facing some big life changes, including a new job and loss of a pet, and I'm wondering what small ways I can support him and make life easier for him. [more inside]
posted by whistle pig on Nov 11, 2013 - 6 answers

Is it appropriate for me to attend my friend's grandmother's funeral?

After a slow, sad decline over the past decade, one of my best friend's much beloved grandmother has passed away. While I never met her ouma in person my friend has often shared stories of her life, the things she had taught her and more recently the sorrow of her drawn out illness and her fears for the future as it became clear she didn't have very long left in this world. My question is: is it appropriate for me to attend the funeral service this coming week? [more inside]
posted by Philby on Sep 28, 2013 - 37 answers

Am I overreacting or is my friend a narcissist?

Am I overreacting or is my friend a narcissist? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Aug 17, 2013 - 21 answers

Too sad for a witty title

My grandad passed away today. My family have asked me to find a poem he might like, to read at his funeral. He was an engineer who would only read 'factual' things, such as instructional/educational books and later in life, a lot of biographies. He didn't go in for poetry at all that I know of. Would like to avoid 'Do not stand at my grave and cry'. Any reccommendations? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday on Dec 13, 2012 - 27 answers

Just because people are nice to you doesn't mean they have your best interests in mind

Friend of a friend's mother just passed away, and between the death and the funeral, the mom's sketchy neighbor talked him into selling his car for pennies on the dollar. What now? [more inside]
posted by davejay on Dec 6, 2012 - 7 answers

Or, how to be supportive without being super annoying?

My husband is losing his father in a few weeks. He is currently spending some time with him at a hospice and is away from home to deal with chaotic family issues surrounding this. When he returns, I imagine he will need time to decompress and I want to make that easy. Please give me suggestions on how I can make that easier for him or what you've appreciated in a similar situation.
posted by dean winchester on Dec 3, 2012 - 10 answers

How can I help after a death in the family?

The mother of the family I work for just passed away after a long illness. What can I do to help? [more inside]
posted by nonasuch on Oct 18, 2012 - 9 answers

There's got to be more to life...

Resources/ideas for proving to myself that there will be new passions out there for me to love [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet on Sep 23, 2012 - 11 answers

The Final Journey

Help me explain death to my 9 year old. [more inside]
posted by plinth on Sep 20, 2012 - 17 answers

On the 1st day of Christmas my grandchild gave to me...

I am transitioning (ftm) and haven't told my extended family. My grandmother is extremely distraught by my mother's passing last year. We are seeing each other for the first time in 6 months at a holiday dinner this month. How do I balance my needs with her needs and minimize drama? [more inside]
posted by buteo on Dec 11, 2011 - 25 answers

How do I help myself move on from the years-past, but sudden loss of a loved one?

How do I help myself move on from the years-past, but sudden loss of a loved one, when it just doesn't seem to be getting better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 26, 2011 - 10 answers

Does anyone know a support group for parents who have lost a child in CT?

Can anyone recommend a support group for parents who have lost a child? The parents live in Fairfield, CT. If there's a group for parents who have lost a child to suicide, even better, but I realize that might be too specific. Thanks.
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2011 - 6 answers

How do I grieve without guilt?

My wonderful, loving, young dog is dying. How do I stop feeling guilty about grieving? How do I deal with not giving chemo? [more inside]
posted by specialagentwebb on Jan 14, 2011 - 25 answers

More social awkwardness!

How do you grieve a friendship breakup when you work with the person? And how do you then get over the chronic hopelessness with being lonely? [more inside]
posted by bookwibble on May 19, 2010 - 13 answers

Trying to avoid "Are you OK?"

How can I clean myself up after a proper crying and get back in the office? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen on May 19, 2010 - 15 answers

She's Not Dead Yet

My aunt has cancer. She has about six months left. How do I stop grieving while she's still alive? Is that possible? Also, if my grief is this bad already, what's it going to be like when she does die? Not so bad? Worse? [more inside]
posted by deborah on Apr 28, 2010 - 22 answers

Escapism for the recently bereaved

A bereaved work-mate is looking for escapist literature that does not treat with death, dying or human tragedy - in short - 99% of the english language canon is off limits. Can anyone suggest good books? [more inside]
posted by tabubilgirl on Nov 16, 2009 - 30 answers

How do we even begin to deal with the murder of our friend?

My boyfriend and I have a friend who was just killed for seemingly no reason. I am trying to come to terms with this, and help him at the same time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2009 - 19 answers

How do I cope with my grieving Mom?

My mother's grief is overwhelming me. How do I keep my cool? [more inside]
posted by Monsters on Sep 5, 2009 - 25 answers

Does someone with a dying relative better understand what someone who has lost a relative is going through?

Does someone with a dying relative better understand what someone who has lost a relative is going through? Explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 12 answers

In lieu of flowers...

In the past few months, both parents of my Japanese-American (by way of Hawaii) coworker have passed away. What gift/donation might be appropriate and have special significance to her? [more inside]
posted by acorn1515 on Mar 24, 2009 - 7 answers

What do I do with Dad's diplomas?

My Dad died October 4 of this year, and I wound up with a big box of all his framed diplomas and certifications. 3 are his college degrees (Masters in Music Theory, PhD in Electrical Engineering). Then there are a bunch of others, like his engineering licenses. [more inside]
posted by yoga on Nov 10, 2008 - 25 answers

Is there a therapist who can get past my mom's suspicions?

Recommendations for a cognitive behavioral therapist in the Houston area for my mother? He/she is going to have to deal with a lot, especially because she is irrational and suspicious. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 22, 2008 - 4 answers

dealing with belated grief?

My mom died when I was in college. Though she was in some sense a single parent to me and we were extremely close, I barely shed a tear about it since she died over six years ago. This past weekend, I'm not exactly sure why, but the dam finally broke and I've been overwhelmed with a tidal wave of sadness for the past couple of days that shows no signs of flowing back out. I have a couple of questions for you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2008 - 13 answers

How do |I go on?

If my partner, a widower, wants some space to try to get over the death of his wife of 20 yrs, yet he can't tell me how long it will be, what am I meant to do? [more inside]
posted by ffazniah on Sep 24, 2008 - 13 answers

Help me get this book out of my office and onto shelves.

I need a new name!!! I've written a book for friends and non-primary caregiver family (NOT for primary caregivers) regarding illness and death. [more inside]
posted by Sophie1 on Aug 8, 2008 - 16 answers

I spent EIGHT months for you! And for WHAT?!

I feel like I'm going through a breakup - only it isn't with a person, it's with an intangible thing. I know intellectually that I'll get better, but it's just been the first few days and I'm hurting so much. How do I heal? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 1, 2008 - 13 answers

How To Address a Co-Worker's Possible Undiagnosed Psychological Issue

My employee may or may not have a genuine psychological problem. How should I address this? [more inside]
posted by Joey Michaels on Feb 8, 2008 - 30 answers

Too Soon for a Widower to Date?

How soon is too soon to start dating after the death of a spouse? All the websites I've read have been for widows and widowers and tell them not to feel guilty for moving on with their lives after the passing of their loved one. But surely there really *is* such a thing as too soon? [more inside]
posted by jennak on Jun 3, 2007 - 38 answers

Dealing with Sudden Death

Processing and dealing with a sudden death. [more inside]
posted by atayah on May 30, 2007 - 19 answers

How to talk to friends about death and illness if you hate talking about it?

I have a hard time talking to my friends about other people's terminal illnesses and/or deaths. I'd like to get better at this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2007 - 12 answers

Suggestions for online grief support

Can anyone personally recommend a support site and/or community specifically for people grieving from cancer, brain cancer if possible? [more inside]
posted by jrossi4r on Feb 13, 2007 - 9 answers

Timeframe for grieving?

Grieffilter: Is he still grieving his wife, even though it's been so long? Need advice on my relationship with a widower... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2007 - 11 answers

Homicide in the family

My cousin and his family were found dead yesterday. While he and I were not close in recent years because we'd lost touch, I feel deep sadness for what my aunt and uncle are going through. (I am still in touch with them.) This leaves me with two questions. What is the normal process of a homicide investigation? What is an appropriate/meaningful way to show support to my aunt and uncle even though I live out of state and am completely unable to attend any funeral arrangements which may be made?
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2004 - 5 answers

A grief observed...

SympathyFilter: What's the best way to help my girlfriend deal with the passing of a family member? Difficulty level=other side of the country. [Morbid inside] [more inside]
posted by rorycberger on Sep 3, 2004 - 5 answers

Murder shrine in front of my house

So, a murder happened in front of my house while we were on vacation last week. Now there is a shrine there around my tree about 5 feet from the bottom of my steps and people coming by day and night leaving stuff and lighting candles.

I don't mind the shrine, but how long do I leave that stuff there? How can I get people to not leave candles burning there (I am worried about fire danger.) Am I responsible for disposing of the stuff?

I have some ideas, but would like some suggestions.

Here's a link to the info about the murder.
http://www.timesstar.com/Stories/0,1413,125~1486~2236893,00.html
posted by aacheson on Jul 2, 2004 - 13 answers

How to mourn

What's the best way to mourn the passing of a loved one? What's the best way to help one's family grieve?
posted by trharlan on Dec 22, 2003 - 14 answers

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