I've been told that it's not uncommon for friends to either ignore or drop you after you've been through the process of death/dying of a loved one. Good or bad, sometimes people just can't deal with that type of situation. However I've had 2 friends in recent months go off on me, tell me that I'm a terrible person, and that I'd said/done something that offended me so much that they don't want to be my friend anymore. Both accusations took me by surprise and I'm now wondering, did they wait to say anything to me until after my loved one passed? [more inside]
posted by green_flash on Nov 23, 2009 - 15 answers

My mom died when I was in college. Though she was in some sense a single parent to me and we were extremely close, I barely shed a tear about it since she died over six years ago. This past weekend, I'm not exactly sure why, but the dam finally broke and I've been overwhelmed with a tidal wave of sadness for the past couple of days that shows no signs of flowing back out. I have a couple of questions for you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2008 - 13 answers

The new normal sucks. How am I supposed to cope after my father's suddenish death? [more inside]
posted by bash on May 19, 2008 - 29 answers

One of my good friends died a few days ago. Can you recommend some suitable works of literature (fiction, essay, poetry, etc.) to help me along? [more inside]
posted by Vic Morrow's Personal Vietnam on Sep 11, 2007 - 24 answers

I don't know whether it's time to put my dog down or not. Long, rambling, a few gross details - but your help appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Quidam on Aug 31, 2007 - 15 answers

Help me do something nice for somebody whose beloved dog is dying. [more inside]
posted by kaseijin on Jul 31, 2006 - 31 answers

BereavementFilter: Etiquettement dilemma about opening/agitating mourning versus sharing in a small life-afirming-recollection-of-the-deceased, er, something (the [+] might make more sense, sorry) [more inside]
posted by PurplePorpoise on Jan 9, 2005 - 11 answers