Have had some not-so-great previous years, some ongoing struggles, and more anticipated in coming years/decades. All of this has brought me face to face with my worst personality traits as well as given me a chance to work hard on the things I'd really like to change going forward and give myself a fresh start, so to speak. Is there a manual, road map or something for acquiring the most elusive of traits? Interested in anecdotes, from those in their late thirties and beyond, of personal journey in developing maturity. [more inside]
Am I correctly interpreting the implications of a DCFSA "grace period"? [more inside]
My aunt's boss has fixed me up with his son. I have confirmed zero interest whatsoever in this fellow. What is the classiest possible way to communicate this? [more inside]
The movies and films I have in mind are: A River Runs Through It by Norman Maclean, Gilead by Marilynne Robinson, and The Thin Red Line by Terrence Malick (though many of his films would count). The "technical" definition of grace is such that I'm not entirely sure that's an accurate description of what it is that I see that joins these movies together, but it is certainly something present or mentioned in all three. The things that stick out to me are things such as: forgiveness, that nature is perhaps closer to God(liness), that there is grace/beauty in life despite some of the bad things in it. Do you know of any films and books that might be considered related to my above group given what I've tried to describe?
Can you help us find the transcript of a blessing or poem from Praire Home Companion? Either that, or some other suitable grace for a Catholic/atheist/multifaith wedding blessing before dinner. [more inside]
I want to be more physically graceful. What're ways I can introduce this into my life that don't take up a lot of my non-existent time? [more inside]
How can I temper my tendency to despise people? [more inside]
A couple years ago, I read a really intriguing essay that compared the American cultural ideal of "effortless cool" to the theological debate over the importance of grace vs. good acts. I believe that the writer identified the Puritans as coming down on the side of grace, and made a connection between their influence on early America and our cultural preference for grace (i.e. "effortless cool") over good acts (i.e. "trying too hard"). I would really love to cite this essay, but unfortunately, my Google-Fu is failing me. I remember that I read it online, and it was probably linked from a comment on The Blue. Any idea what I read or who wrote it?
I could use some help figuring out how to phrase a request that my boyfriend give his bedding a spin in the laundry. We're pretty newly minted, and I understand the need for tact here, but I am blanking on the best way to say this. [more inside]
In order to be saved, you must accept Jesus's salvation. Huh? Explain? [more inside]
Is Divine Grace an exclusively Christian idea? [more inside]
What's the polite thing for an atheist to do during grace at the dinner table to which s/he was invited? [more inside]
Cheapskatefilter: If I'm traveling out of town (1500 miles) to a wedding for people who live in town, do I have to get them a gift? [more inside]
How can I become less of a klutz? [more inside]
Any guidance on writing a non-religious grace? [more inside]
Artfilter: What is the name of the painting, and the painter, of the portrait hanging near the door of Will's apartment in Will & Grace? It's a portrait of a male, shoulders up, no shirt.
My family grew up saying grace before dinner, but none of us are religious. We value the pre-meal ceremony itself, but it doesn't seem right to use a standard, religious grace; can you suggest a different one? [more inside]