I'm not hard-working. I am ambivalent about most things in general. There's nothing I really like doing per se. I have never taken the time to develop any special talents or interest and I wasn't endowed with any naturally. I really just occasionally do what I should and then spend the rest of my time doing....nothing. I feel like I have no personality and no goals and it's causing me a lot of problems. [more inside]
Here's what I'm looking for: a dead simple goals/tasks tracking app that allows me to set and log hours spent on activities per week, after the fact. Can do web-based, Android, or iPad. [more inside]
How on earth do adults organize huge projects? And allot time to them? And then actually get them done? [more inside]
I spend lots of my free time watching TV and surfing the internet. I feel like I am wasting my life. I am looking for free or very low cost programs like "how to learn/make X in 30 days!" with daily or weekly milestones. I need to see very concrete progress or I will just give up. [more inside]
There are about a zillion goal-tracking and habit-forming apps out there with a bit of gamification ingrained in them. Which are great? [more inside]
Just three months at a new job and I'm miserable. Help me sort out if it just plain ain't right, or it deserves more time and effort. [more inside]
What kind of projects have you followed where the author's goal is to teach someone something every week for 52 weeks? I'm particularly looking for the once a week format for a fixed amount of time. [more inside]
I am trying to get my act together. I have an average sized apartment room wall. I want to use it to plan world domination! Well really the domination of my next few years of goals and tasks. Please give me cool or creative ideas for a way to have a huge display of multiple years of calendar, lists and reminders, and events and goals. The only catch is that I cannot repaint or damage the wall in a major way. Long-winded details inside. [more inside]
How did you find ways to have a great family, and to keep trucking along with what you need to do to fulfill yourself professionally, especially when that professional work is really tough (but rewarding?) In other words, how do I keep myself from just drooling over strollers all day? [more inside]
MeFites have always been pretty good at giving basic financial advice, like how to start saving, building a budget, getting out of debt, etc. I'm there already. I find myself in the surprising situation of being comfortable these days, and I'd like to know: what's next? [more inside]
In the past year or so, I’ve lost 46 lbs - which was 25% of my body weight. I have a goal to lose 5-10 lbs more, which would put me at a little over 50 lbs gone - and a coincidentally good zone for my size. I’d like to do, have, or make something to commemorate those 50 lbs. Not a reward - but I want to have something in my home, maybe on shelf somewhere, that I can look at as a visual reminder of that number and the work I put in for it. [more inside]
I have several goals that I have been working on for a long time, and I never seem to keep up with them. They're pretty standard - stick to my budget, develop an exercise habit, spend more time with friends and less time watching tv, etc., and I usually start out well, but fizzle quickly. I'm looking for resources that will help me create and sustain my plans better. [more inside]
I have been seeing a Psychoanalytic Therapist for the last year. I have made great strides working with her and I deeply appreciate her support. Nevertheless, I feel like our main goal has been to understand my past and present
. At this point in my life, I want to work with someone who can help me achieve "specific desired behavioral outcomes"
In my past as an active alcoholic, I received two DUIs. Since the last one, I've embraced recovery, and it's completely changed my life for the better. I want to transition into counseling from working in education, especially in recovery counseling as an LCDC. How will my criminal record impact my ability to do this? [more inside]
It's the goal writing season, and I recently came across an article that explained a specific technique for writing down one's goals. [more inside]
I have a number of goals, not quite new year's resolutions exactly, but the new year is getting me going on implementing them. They include reading more, running more, staying on top of current events, continuing to study French, listening to more new-to-me music, things like that. None of these are measurable or "SMART" goals, and that's the way I want it--I want this stuff to become a habit, not a chore. How can I automate these goals so that they are more likely to just happen? [more inside]
I began a Kickstarter last week and it exploded, reaching its funding goals in 2 days, 6 hours. I've started adding stretch goals like mad, but I'd like to use the overwhelming response to get some media attention. How do I do that? [more inside]
I'm trying to steer myself toward some daily routines beyond just human maintenance and sustenance. I don't have any ultimate goals to achieve, it's more about daily practice and keeping myself focused on "keepin' on keepin' on" in a few areas that are important to me but that I tend to neglect.
I can't find quite what I'm looking for with Google. I can best describe what I want by describing how I would do it on paper:
(1)Create a question form with a list of questions and some space to respond essay-style to each question.
(For myself the questions would be something like "How was your meditation today?" "What new thing did you create today?" "What artist did you read about today?")
(2)Photocopy this form 100 times or so.
(3)Fill out one form each day.
Is there a free site where I can do this online, or should I just create it on paper with some photocopies in a three-ring binder?
I've never had much motivation to do anything, or much ability to persevere, and this makes life a chore. I feel like I was born without a motor - like other people have some source of energy inside that drives them towards their goals, while I tend to just drift passively and hope the things I want come to me (they don't). Talk therapy hasn't helped much, and I'm not sure what to try next. [more inside]
Earlier this year, I realized that I'd checked off pretty much everything on my to-do list. My life hasn't been a blazing success by any means - I had a dozen modest goals that I chipped away at for the better part of 15 years, and now I find myself looking for something bigger to do. [more inside]
I'm looking for a word-count tool that will allow me to: set a goal for words written by a specific date, enter in the words I have written each day, see how many words I remaining toward my goal, and how many words I will need to average each day to reach my goal. [more inside]
Yet another "should we breakup" question [more inside]
I'm in a new job and would like to briefly track my work on a daily basis, organized by goal and date. I have ten goals for the year and I want to be able to make a few short notes at the end of each day about what I did to move toward accomplishing any of them, whether I did something for one goal or multiple goals that day.
I've been considering a spreadsheet or a Word document, but I haven't his on a good solution yet.
What kind of goals do you suggest setting for someone starting his or her work life? Both concrete goals for the job and general motivations for earning money [more inside]
I constantly have a huge list of things to do in my head and I'd like to get better at organizing/prioritizing them. [more inside]
I am currently in my third year of university and am majoring in both Arabic and the International Studies: Middle East. I'm coming to the end of a year language immersion studying abroad and I am becoming worried because I don't have very specific goals for the future of my Arabic studies. [more inside]
I need some fitness goals beyond the vague "get in shape" and the too-common "run a marathon". Can you help me come up with small, concrete, achievable goals? [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out what direction I should guide my future in. Problem is, when I take most personality (*cough* Myers-Briggs *cough*) or skill tests, I can never overcome the bias of what I "should" want, or what my field (the sciences) have conditioned me to. What can I do that can help me figure myself out that isn't sensitive to bias and will basically catch me "off guard" so I can figure out my strengths/weaknesses/potential truthfully? [more inside]
I am supposed to come up with a few personal and a few team goals for a meeting at work. I am someone who always leaves the "Objective" section of resume blank because this stuff is alien to me. Anyone have any insight into management expectations with this stuff? [more inside]
I'm looking for the best tool to maintain a list of long-term goals and a resource for generating short-term ones. [more inside]
2013 will be our year! ...But how?
Have you had a storybook year or season at work or school or in a club? Something that felt like a Lifetime movie, making it to regionals for the first time for choir, or smashing your sales goal for the quarter, or collecting a ton of stuff for your canned food drive?
I am trying to figure out what factors influence extraordinary success in a team setting. [more inside]
Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
Help me decide how to spend 5 to 30 minutes each day in 2013. [more inside]
I am so overwhelmed and struggling right now that it feels like I have no options and I'm intractably stuck. I know logically that I do have options but I can't sort out what I could do from what I shouldn't, what might work from Just Don't Go There, and getting objective, realistic advice is difficult. [more inside]
I feel stuck in an unfulfilling job which I am not progressing in. Leading to unhappiness and questioning my overall state of mind. What should I do? Warning: a lot of detail inside. [more inside]
I'm overambitious. I spread myself too thin and it's crazy-making. Now what? [more inside]
How should I approach planning for my new goals? [more inside]
How do I know if I'm being overambitious? [more inside]
Is there an online service that helps you stay motivated by charging you money if you fail to perform a verifiable action? [more inside]
What do you do when you need to "sort things out"? [more inside]
Tools for visualizing the interim steps of long-term goals, when there's no established model for the long term goal? Longer description inside. [more inside]
What do I need to do to keep my career moving? (engineer-filter) [more inside]
Is it a good idea to try dating when you don't have your life figured out? [more inside]
I wrote just short of 50,000 words of a novel... But now I'm not sure where to go from here. Help me come up with a game plan to finish it. Details inside. [more inside]
Getting sober and/or working towards your dreams: before, after or simultaneously?
I have an interview next Tuesday with a investment firm. The position is Executive Assistant to the CEO. When they ask me where I see myself in 5 years, what do I say? [more inside]
I'm looking for a PC desktop widget that will track my progress towards various goals. [more inside]
I have come to realize that I am terrible at planning in most areas of my life: education, finance, events, daily tasks etc. How do I become better at looking ahead, seeing what's coming and acting now so that the future doesn't suck? [more inside]
How do I figure out what I want to be when I grow up? I've been very lucky in my life so far—just a little bit of work has yielded me amazing opportunities that have more or less fallen into my lap. But I'm starting to realize that I have no idea how to set, develop, and follow through on goals on my own. [more inside]
Motivation Filter: How to be obsessed (in a healthy way) with the work that you do and love. [more inside]